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Posted by Happyflower on May 18, 2008, at 17:33:15
Do you think my new T is trying to rescue me? Why is he agreeing to become my mentor when the trauma therapy is over?
I remember when months ago I was so sad because I have nobody to praise me like a parent because all those important people are dead now. I remember telling him that even when I get my degree I have nobody to talk about life choices, etc. I remember the really sad look in his eyes and he looked away.
I know he has a tendency to go beyond all means for a client. He tells me of when he went too far, etc. I know he wanted to save his sister when she was in an institution, when his brother jumped off a bridge, etc.
He he trying to do that with me? Is that why he is going beyond what is normal for a T? Should I be worried? Do you think he feels that good about me to want to be my mentor after therapy. Does he really care?
Last session when I was telling about my old T, saying it felt good to be special at the time. Then my T said that I was special, during this hour we spend together. I am not sure if he knew what I meant about being too special.
Then a little later he said that I am a client that T's love to have, that I am a very good client.
Is this a good thing?
Posted by LadyBug on May 18, 2008, at 19:28:17
In reply to Here I go again with self doubt- Please help, posted by Happyflower on May 18, 2008, at 17:33:15
I believe he wants to be your mentor because he believes in you! He believes he can help you become a good T because you have good qualities.
As far as him caring, I'm sure he does. He isn't going to abandon you. He has helped you in many ways and him being a father figure is something that you needed from him. Someone safe.
You have a good connection with him. You are learning and growing in good ways.
LadyBug
Posted by rskontos on May 18, 2008, at 21:35:33
In reply to Re: Here I go again with self doubt- Please help, posted by LadyBug on May 18, 2008, at 19:28:17
HF, I would like to say something to help you about your t but all I can say at this point is don't doubt yourself. You are doing well and just accept that. Try not to look at every angle. Ok. I don't do well right now with T's or help or any of that so I can't feel well advising you right now so I won't but I will say that you are in a good place so go with that and try to just be in the good place. It is a tendency of some of us to not accept good things to always look for the bad and this is a habit we must try to break at some point. If we look for a negative we can find it, so I say stop looking. You are in a great place right now, right the wave I say.
rsk
Posted by Phillipa on May 18, 2008, at 23:39:06
In reply to Re: Here I go again with self doubt- Please help » LadyBug, posted by rskontos on May 18, 2008, at 21:35:33
Happyflower two great posts to you and I fully agree. T likes you a whole bunch and wants to be your mentor. Accept do not doubt. You are doing so great. Love Phillipa
Posted by nfc on May 19, 2008, at 4:31:40
In reply to Here I go again with self doubt- Please help, posted by Happyflower on May 18, 2008, at 17:33:15
HF,
I have to say its...a bad thing nah just kidding. Probably his life experiences have shaped the way he views his expertise as a T and how he views his clients. From your post it sounds like he's very caring and thats a good thing. As long as he's not crossing an inappropriate line he sounds good to me. Probably your life experiences have shaped the way you view someone like him (a T) in relation to you and are probably not use to it. Just my guess anyway. So get into your T sessions and enjoy!
nfc
Posted by raisinb on May 19, 2008, at 11:02:59
In reply to Here I go again with self doubt- Please help, posted by Happyflower on May 18, 2008, at 17:33:15
I think it is understandable that you would worry that your new T might have problems with boundaries--after all, your old T did. And you just ran into him, so the feelings are closer to the surface.
I would tell him about all those feelings and all your conflicts surrounding them. It is hard to trust a therapist, especially when you have been wounded by one before. It sounds like your new T is a good egg, though--I haven't read any posts even remotely suggesting that he has the same issues as your old T. But like anything, you have to trust yourself and wait for time to tell.
Posted by seldomseen on May 19, 2008, at 18:26:12
In reply to Here I go again with self doubt- Please help, posted by Happyflower on May 18, 2008, at 17:33:15
It sounds to me like your current therapist is definately there to help you and work with you. I don't think his motives are selfish like your other therapist's were.
I also don't think he is going to slam down the therapetic boundary as capriciously as the other one did either. I doubt it will be an issue at all.
I think you need to talk to your therapist about these feelings you're having and you two need to work this out.
I think he is good for you.
Seldom
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