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Posted by Maxime on March 23, 2008, at 12:22:24
Since January, I have been trying to find the right therapist. No easy task to say the least.
I was trying out two, and both told me the same thing:"You are too self destructive for me to treat you".
Crushed. I know I shouldn't take it personnally, but I can't help it. Am that much of a lost cause?
Feel like giving up. I have been told the same thing in the past, so this is not new for me. Just bloody painful.
Maxime
Posted by Maxime on March 23, 2008, at 16:19:50
In reply to too self destructive, posted by Maxime on March 23, 2008, at 12:22:24
I get the feeling that no one gives a sh*t about me on PB. Nice. I am pretty sure I know the reason. XXX!
Maxime
Posted by Jamal Spelling on March 23, 2008, at 16:27:18
In reply to Re: too self destructive, posted by Maxime on March 23, 2008, at 16:19:50
I find your posts interesting. I suppose I don't usually respond because I don't know what advice to give though.
Posted by Poet on March 23, 2008, at 16:33:02
In reply to too self destructive, posted by Maxime on March 23, 2008, at 12:22:24
Hi Maxime,
I care about you, I was at Easter hell brunch with my family and I suspect others may be doing the holiday thing which is why babble is slow right now.
Maybe when you interview your next T, you say upfront I have been told that I am too self destructive to treat. I don't believe I am beyond help, I want help, are you the the kind of therapist who can work with someone who may not always be easy to work with?
My T told me that I am not easy to work with with and that in the beginning she wasn't sure she would be able to. She's stuck it out for over five years. I try her patience, I still have trust issues, but as she got to know me she realized why I have major trust issues and fear dependence.
I don't think you should give up. You want help and you deserve a therapist who can work with you and accept you for who you are.
Poet
Posted by rskontos on March 23, 2008, at 18:12:12
In reply to Re: too self destructive, posted by Maxime on March 23, 2008, at 16:19:50
Maxime, I am sorry you feel that way. I am sorry you have had therapist tell you that too. That would really hurt. I would probably have a hard time going back to any other therapist, so I applaud you for doing so. I think Poet has an excellent suggestion to be open and up front. It will help I think maybe making another therapist think twice about telling you the same thing, and maybe open the door for them to think that you really want help no matter how difficult you may present to them initially.
For your sake, do keep trying. And please don't think there is anyone out there trying to keep people from responding. I for one, have had my computer tied up by other family members who for some reason prefer to use my computer versus their own !?! Now of course mine is nicer....LOL
I do hope that you can find someone willing to help you.
((((Maxime))))
rsk
Posted by MidnightBlue on March 23, 2008, at 20:20:05
In reply to Re: too self destructive, posted by Maxime on March 23, 2008, at 16:19:50
Maxime,
You know that isn't true. I have a lot going on in my life right now and post on a very limited basis.
MidnightBlue
Posted by Deputy Racer on March 23, 2008, at 22:50:03
In reply to Re: too self destructive, posted by Maxime on March 23, 2008, at 16:19:50
Please don't post anything which could lead others to feel accused, put down, or which advocates death to any individual. I know that you're hurting right now, and I hope that you know that I care about you and how you feel. I also have to enforce the civility guidelines fairly and impartially, which means that sometimes I have to ask you to follow the rules, too. I know you'll understand.
If you have any questions regarding the posting policies on this site, please read the FAQ, located at http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil Follow ups to this action should be directed to the Administration board and should themselves be civil.
Dr Bob has ultimate authority over all administrative issues on this site, and may choose at any time to revise or reverse any action taken by a deputy.
Deputy Racer
Posted by twinleaf on March 24, 2008, at 11:13:45
In reply to Re: too self destructive, posted by Maxime on March 23, 2008, at 16:19:50
I must be very dense, but I didn't see what it was that Maxime said that could cause another poster to feel hurt or put down.
Posted by sunnydays on March 24, 2008, at 11:35:53
In reply to ??? » Maxime, posted by twinleaf on March 24, 2008, at 11:13:45
I think Racer went and XXXX'd it out in her post, but I'm not sure.
((((Maxime)))
I do care, I've just been too self-absorbed in my own self-pity to support people much. I see absolutely no reason to dislike you.
sunnydays
Posted by Deputy 10derHeart on March 24, 2008, at 11:38:36
In reply to ??? » Maxime, posted by twinleaf on March 24, 2008, at 11:13:45
I've redirected your question regarding this administrative action to PB Administration.
Here's a link:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20080313/msgs/819651.html
Thanks, 10derHeart
Posted by Maxime on March 24, 2008, at 20:52:58
In reply to Please be sensitive » Maxime, posted by Deputy Racer on March 23, 2008, at 22:50:03
Sorry, I won't be so hard on myself again.
Maxime
Posted by Maxime on March 24, 2008, at 20:55:10
In reply to too self destructive, posted by Maxime on March 23, 2008, at 12:22:24
Thank everyone. Sorry I whined. I guess I am feeling like a reject since two Ts have told me that they can't work with me.
The "die bitch" in my first post was directed at myself. Just having a pity party.
Sorry.
Maxime
Posted by MidnightBlue on March 25, 2008, at 9:16:17
In reply to too self destructive, posted by Maxime on March 23, 2008, at 11:22:24
Maxime,
I hope you are feeling a bit better today.
MidnightBlue
Posted by Maxime on March 25, 2008, at 19:21:51
In reply to Re: too self destructive » Maxime, posted by MidnightBlue on March 25, 2008, at 9:16:17
No, no I am not feeling any better. My situation sucks to say the least.
Maxime
Posted by MidnightBlue on March 25, 2008, at 22:34:06
In reply to No I'm not » MidnightBlue, posted by Maxime on March 25, 2008, at 19:21:51
Maxime,
I'm sorry.
MidnightBlue
Posted by nfc on March 29, 2008, at 7:06:57
In reply to Re: too self destructive, posted by rskontos on March 23, 2008, at 18:12:12
rk and that nice Mac computer you have! :P
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