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Posted by crushedout on March 28, 2008, at 11:54:03
We scheduled a session for Monday but I told her that I may cancel it because I really couldn't decide if I wanted to go through the "termination process" with her.I decided I don't want to. I think it'll only hurt, not help. So I called her and told her this, on her machine. I know it seems like an awfully cold way to end a three and a half year relationship but this actually feels best to me. I don't want to have to do it in person. I just ripped the bandaid off.
There may be times that I will feel very sad about this. Right now I'm ok, thankfully.
Posted by B2chica on March 28, 2008, at 12:20:12
In reply to I guess I just terminated by phone, posted by crushedout on March 28, 2008, at 11:54:03
the whole point of a termination session is so that it's easier for YOU.
if leaving a message is what's easier for YOU than i say congrats.
you need to do what will help you leave this relationship on a healthy note.
no matter how that's done.
Posted by raisinb on March 28, 2008, at 13:56:43
In reply to I guess I just terminated by phone, posted by crushedout on March 28, 2008, at 11:54:03
Hi Crushed--
I think you're doing surprisingly well throughout all of this, and I think it's admirable. I hope it continues. I don't know enough about your therapy to know whether this is the right thing in the long run, but if *you* know, that's all that matters, and trusting yourself is a very positive step. Like B2 said, if you don't think more sessions will help *you,* then you have your answer.And if you change your mind, you can always go back, right? That's the good thing about therapy.
Keep us posted on how you are doing. This is a big thing to deal with.
Posted by crushedout on March 28, 2008, at 15:16:58
In reply to Re: I guess I just terminated by phone, posted by B2chica on March 28, 2008, at 12:20:12
Thanks, guys. I feel good about my decision. I think it was what I needed to do.Yes, I can always go back, either to her or someone else, if I decide to. For now I want to try other things.
Posted by Daisym on March 28, 2008, at 20:39:13
In reply to Re: I guess I just terminated by phone, posted by crushedout on March 28, 2008, at 15:16:58
Good luck with this Crushed. You sound strong and sure of yourself. I'm sad that things ended the way they did but you remained in control and said what you needed to say, which are some of the primary goals of therapy, right? I'm sure your therapist learned a great deal from you and this turn of events.
I'm glad you have other things to keep you busy. And I hope the stressful stuff simmers down soon.
Posted by Phillipa on March 28, 2008, at 22:04:22
In reply to Re: I guess I just terminated by phone, posted by Daisym on March 28, 2008, at 20:39:13
I feel you sound very sure and confident of your decision and since you have things to do great and right you can always go back. Phillipa
Posted by muffled on March 28, 2008, at 22:45:35
In reply to Re: I guess I just terminated by phone, posted by Daisym on March 28, 2008, at 20:39:13
Good luck crushed, hope all goes well.
Yup I'd do it the same way I expect.
I'm not one for goodbyes.
I just kinda go and am gone.
Best wishes to you.
M
Posted by crushedout on March 29, 2008, at 12:50:41
In reply to Re: I guess I just terminated by phone, posted by muffled on March 28, 2008, at 22:45:35
yeah i couldn't handle a face-to-face goodbye with her. i feel like it would have broken my heart in a very bad way.
this is sad, but it's somehow easier.
it's weird being unanchored. i have to anchor myself to myself now i guess.
Posted by Poet on March 29, 2008, at 13:26:40
In reply to I guess I just terminated by phone, posted by crushedout on March 28, 2008, at 11:54:03
Hi Crushedout,
It sounds to me that you did what was best for you. You did warn your (former) T that you might cancel so it shouldn't have come as a complete surprise to her.
Good luck and take care.
Poet
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