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Posted by Daisym on February 22, 2008, at 22:42:08
In reply to Re: The One Thing That Pushes me to the Edge Trigger, posted by annierose on February 22, 2008, at 21:31:38
I'm really sorry this happened, Poet. Can you ask your employer for references?
I do know how hard it was for you to get this job but you did it and you can do it again. Baby steps, OK?
Hang in there. I hope your therapist comes back soon. Please let me know if I can help in anyway.
Posted by Fallsfall on February 23, 2008, at 7:53:38
In reply to The One Thing That Pushes me to the Edge Trigger, posted by Poet on February 22, 2008, at 17:46:56
(((...Poet...)))
A stranger may not understand what career is for you, but we do. Sounds like a weekend trip to Camp Comfort is in order!
Let us know how we can help.
Falls
Posted by JoniS on February 23, 2008, at 8:10:12
In reply to The One Thing That Pushes me to the Edge Trigger, posted by Poet on February 22, 2008, at 17:46:56
Poet,
I'm so sorry to hear about the downsizing. I have struggled with valuing myself in relation to my career too. It feels good to me though, now as my career is not "up there" anymore.
I know you are in a very painful place. I'm so sorry and I hope you get to connect with your t.
take tender care of yourself
Joni
Posted by seldomseen on February 23, 2008, at 9:01:35
In reply to The One Thing That Pushes me to the Edge Trigger, posted by Poet on February 22, 2008, at 17:46:56
I'm very sorry to hear about your job loss.
My career is also tied to my self-worth - although it really shouldn't be.
I understand, but can only imagine how you must feel.
Stay safe and keep posting.
Seldom.
Posted by Racer on February 23, 2008, at 9:44:06
In reply to The One Thing That Pushes me to the Edge Trigger, posted by Poet on February 22, 2008, at 17:46:56
I had a dream about you last night. In the dream, we even hugged one another -- scary, right?
But when I'm awake, I love you just for being you -- what your job is, whether you have a job, whether your hair is perfect, none of those matter. You're you, and that's enough for me.
(Put *that* up on your monitor, and eventually you'll figure manage to get back at me for saying it...)
xoxo
Make the cats take good care of you. Tell them you didn't earn your Medium Rodent Badge yet, and it's got you down... I'm sure they'll understand.
Posted by ClearSkies on February 23, 2008, at 11:38:16
In reply to The One Thing That Pushes me to the Edge Trigger, posted by Poet on February 22, 2008, at 17:46:56
Poet, I'm sorry that the circumstances have conspired against you. I know that this is NOT the right time to do this, but at some point I would love for you to be able to really separate the You from the You at a Job. You know that those aren't the same person, but I hear the pain you suffer because it's not what you believe down deep inside.
CS
Posted by rskontos on February 23, 2008, at 13:17:14
In reply to Re: The One Thing That Pushes me to the Edge Trigg, posted by ClearSkies on February 23, 2008, at 11:38:16
I want to add my support to you at this difficult time as well as all the other fantastic babblers. I hope you realize that you are a special person that some bad happened to. And not the other way around. You will find a new job, remember that one door closes but a new better one will open. It will, Poet, it will. We all promise to be here to help with those baby steps until it does. Ok?
rsk
Posted by Poet on February 23, 2008, at 13:52:23
In reply to The One Thing That Pushes me to the Edge Trigger, posted by Poet on February 22, 2008, at 17:46:56
I'll try to post individual responses later, but I want you all to know how much I appreciate your support. I truly appreciate it and need it.
Poet
Posted by TherapyGirl on February 23, 2008, at 17:21:34
In reply to The One Thing That Pushes me to the Edge Trigger, posted by Poet on February 22, 2008, at 17:46:56
Poet, I just saw this and I'm so sorry. I can imagine how you feel. I was laid off from my last job and current job, which originally seemed like a dream job, has been taken over by a power-hungry drone and we are on the verge of more layoffs. Not to make this about me, but just to say, I know some of what you're feeling. I hope you are able to connect with T soon. You are so bright and have so much to give -- I hope this job search goes well once you are ready.
(((((((((Poet))))))))))
Posted by sunnydays on February 23, 2008, at 17:37:00
In reply to The One Thing That Pushes me to the Edge Trigger, posted by Poet on February 22, 2008, at 17:46:56
I can't remember if you like hugs or not, but that's all I can manage the moment. You are in my thoughts, and I'm wishing that the job-fairy finds you again soon. Why does she seem to get lost so often?
sunnydays
Posted by raisinb on February 23, 2008, at 18:23:24
In reply to The One Thing That Pushes me to the Edge Trigger, posted by Poet on February 22, 2008, at 17:46:56
Poet, I'm so sorry. My self-esteem is based on my work, as well, and I can imagine how devastating this must be.
Try to remember that everything you value about yourself in your job--your skills, your intelligence, your flexibility, your competence--is part of *you,* not the job. Even though this particular position is gone, you are still good at what you do. Easier said than done, I know. Hang in there.
Posted by Poet on February 24, 2008, at 11:33:04
In reply to Re: The One Thing That Pushes me to the Edge Trigger, posted by raisinb on February 23, 2008, at 18:23:24
She's back in the U.S., but won't be back in town until tonight. She promised to call me Monday and signed the email "warmly, me." I need her warmth as I am in a cold, dark, ugly place.
Poet
Posted by Poet on February 24, 2008, at 11:35:13
In reply to Re: The One Thing That Pushes me to the Edge Trigg » Poet, posted by Dinah on February 22, 2008, at 17:49:51
Hi Dinah,
I wish there was something you could do. I just can't face job hunting right now. I filed for unemployment online and the information from last year was ready to go in my electronic file. It made me cry.
T is calling me Monday. At least my crisis came at the end of her vacation.
Poet
Posted by Poet on February 24, 2008, at 11:39:14
In reply to Re: The One Thing That Pushes me to the Edge Trigger » Poet, posted by obsidian on February 22, 2008, at 18:28:13
Hi sid,
I can't handle the job interview process. I've been rejected so many times and now I have the fear that I'll either be fired or let go because that's what happened in the last two jobs.
I will hang in, but right now I'm hanging onto a thin thread.
Poet
Posted by Poet on February 24, 2008, at 11:40:39
In reply to Re: The One Thing That Pushes me to the Edge Trigger, posted by Phillipa on February 22, 2008, at 18:36:10
Hi Philippa,
I would have been at this job for a year in April. I was on unemployment last year at this time and filed for it again yesterday. That's waht is realy hurting me, it's like I'm going backwards, not forwards career wise.
Poet
Posted by Poet on February 24, 2008, at 11:42:02
In reply to ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((poet)))))))))))))))))) (nm) » Poet, posted by muffled on February 22, 2008, at 18:56:14
Posted by Poet on February 24, 2008, at 11:47:29
In reply to Re: The One Thing That Pushes me to the Edge Trigger, posted by annierose on February 22, 2008, at 21:31:38
Hi Annierose,
I wasn't the top choice for my last job, the person they hired didn't work out. Though they did hire me and honestly liked me and the work I did, but this still as you said s*cks. It s*ucks bigtime as the one thing I cannot handle is not having a job.
T emailed me and she's back on Monday. Thank God.
Poet
Posted by Poet on February 24, 2008, at 11:51:04
In reply to Re: The One Thing That Pushes me to the Edge Trigger, posted by Daisym on February 22, 2008, at 22:42:08
Hi Daisy,
I don't know if I can manage baby steps, I feel like crawling is about all I can do right now. My employer promised me he would give me a good reference, but it's still the me employers seem to hate that has to get through the interview. Your encouragement last time was much appreciated and I will call on you again to help me.
Poet
Posted by Poet on February 24, 2008, at 11:53:17
In reply to Re: The One Thing That Pushes me to the Edge Trigger » Poet, posted by Fallsfall on February 23, 2008, at 7:53:38
Hi Falls,
I'll be watching the Oscars tonight at Camp Comfort on a giant flat screen TV.
Poet
Posted by Poet on February 24, 2008, at 11:55:42
In reply to (((((((((((((((((((((((Poet)))))))))))))))))))), posted by JoniS on February 23, 2008, at 8:10:12
Hi Joni,
I've been working for five years in therapy to find something else to base my self esteem on and I just seem stuck. How did you overcome valuing yourself by career? I just can't seem to and it's been this way for 30 years.
Poet
Posted by Poet on February 24, 2008, at 11:57:51
In reply to Re: The One Thing That Pushes me to the Edge Trigger » Poet, posted by seldomseen on February 23, 2008, at 9:01:35
Hi Seldom,
I started therapy five years ago because I couldn't handle career failure and here I am stuck in the old rut again. I wish all of us who tie their self-worth into careers/work could find other things to provide us with self esteem.
Poet
Posted by Poet on February 24, 2008, at 12:01:58
In reply to Re: The One Thing That Pushes me to the Edge Trigg » Poet, posted by Racer on February 23, 2008, at 9:44:06
Hi Racer,
The cats oompletely understand about the medium rodent badge, good comparison. Thank you for loving me for being me, I just wish I was someone else right now. I might hug you when I finally meet you, but I reserve the right to do an air hug at a proper distance.
Poet
Posted by Poet on February 24, 2008, at 12:06:05
In reply to Re: The One Thing That Pushes me to the Edge Trigg, posted by ClearSkies on February 23, 2008, at 11:38:16
Hi CS,
You wrote: I would love for you to be able to really separate the You from the You at a Job. You know that those aren't the same person, but I hear the pain you suffer because it's not what you believe down deep inside.
That made me smile as it sounded just like something my T would say. I hope I can someday separate Me from the Me at the Job. Basing self worth on career has been in me for so long it's like I'm stuck here forever.
You are right that circumstances have conspired against me. This wasn't my fault...repeat...
Poet
Posted by Poet on February 24, 2008, at 12:08:03
In reply to Re: The One Thing Th((((Poet))))))), posted by rskontos on February 23, 2008, at 13:17:14
Hi RSK,
I will be here alot as babble is a place where I no no one is saying "what did you do?" as one former IRL friend said in 2006 when I was fired.
I will crawl until I can take a baby step and I hope a new door opens.
Poet
Posted by Poet on February 24, 2008, at 12:11:11
In reply to Re: The One Thing That Pushes me to the Edge Trigger » Poet, posted by TherapyGirl on February 23, 2008, at 17:21:34
Hi TherapyGirl,
Thanks for understanding, but I'm sorry it's from experiencing a lay off. I filed for unemployment and what is so sad is that I did it online and all the info. was there from last year. It's like it's February, look who's unemployed again. Sigh. T is back Monday and promised to call.
Poet
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