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Posted by Dinah on February 9, 2008, at 13:01:00
I don't dream often, but in the last few years most of my dreams have been about Daddy being alive again. Not that he never died. But that he died and now he just came back fully alive, in no better health than he was the last few years of his life, but alive.
The first year or so, I was delighted, but a lot of my thoughts were concerned with practicalities. Like "Ok, everyone thinks he's dead. We'll have to contact Social Security, and the insurance companies, and how will we explain it to everyone?"
Now I just accept that he's alive again and enjoy him, although I still have passing thoughts about the difficulty of explaining it.
My therapist just says that I obviously miss him.
Posted by Dinah on February 9, 2008, at 13:11:14
In reply to My recurring dream, posted by Dinah on February 9, 2008, at 13:01:00
Hmmm.... Most of yesterday's session was about him, so maybe that had something to do with having the dream last night.
Posted by annierose on February 9, 2008, at 17:14:03
In reply to Re: My recurring dream, posted by Dinah on February 9, 2008, at 13:11:14
I think your t is right. It speaks to how alive he still is in your mind. And how much you wish it could be true - one day he just comes over and says "I'm here".
I find its comforting to dream about loved ones that have passed too. For that moment, they are alive in your heart.
Posted by Phillipa on February 9, 2008, at 21:09:20
In reply to Re: My recurring dream » Dinah, posted by annierose on February 9, 2008, at 17:14:03
Well you might not understand but I dream of my first pup little white one Brandy and want to be with him and picture him jumping into my arms. And then feel guilty as had Sheeba small too at same time but she wasn't Brandy. I don't think if you really loved your Dad that it's unusual. I think it's great. Love Phillipa
Posted by Dinah on February 9, 2008, at 22:19:08
In reply to Re: My recurring dream, posted by Dinah on February 9, 2008, at 13:11:14
I suppose it's not unusual to dream those dreams.
I'm glad, though, that I've quit worrying about the practical aspects of life after death in my dream. I was feeling really guilty in my dream about worrying about the practicalities when I had a miracle and I had my Daddy back. I hate how mundane my dreams can be.
Posted by obsidian on February 9, 2008, at 23:32:54
In reply to Re: My recurring dream, posted by Dinah on February 9, 2008, at 22:19:08
that sounds like it was a really sweet dream, because it feels like you really don't want to be stuck with the practicalities, but you would do it for him if he were here
like it's your rolethat's my take, I'm probably way off ;-)
Posted by Dinah on February 10, 2008, at 0:48:05
In reply to Re: My recurring dream » Dinah, posted by obsidian on February 9, 2008, at 23:32:54
No, I think you have something there. That aspect of the dream probably does reflect the fact that I *do* have to deal with the practicalities for my parents. Or at least worry about them while I sit hopelessly by.
If Daddy rose from the dead tomorrow, it would be me who would be calling social security, talking to the doctors, and fending off the press.
So I suppose it does make sense that in my dream even pure joy isn't untainted with worry. :)
Posted by Angela2 on February 10, 2008, at 15:16:36
In reply to My recurring dream, posted by Dinah on February 9, 2008, at 13:01:00
very interesting Dinah. Sounds like a good dream. Sometimes I dream that I am walking really slow, trying to get somewhere fast, but my legs won't move fast at all, and the weird part is that I don't think I'm dreaming in my dream, every time I dream it, I think it's real.
Posted by llurpsienoodle on February 10, 2008, at 18:54:11
In reply to Re: My recurring dream, posted by Dinah on February 9, 2008, at 22:19:08
Dinah,
I'm no good for interpreting dreams, but I wondered how the dreams affect you emotionally the day after. That's what I would me more concerned about, rather than the content of the dreams themselves.-Ll
Posted by Dinah on February 11, 2008, at 8:59:48
In reply to Re: My recurring dream » Dinah, posted by llurpsienoodle on February 10, 2008, at 18:54:11
I always feel melancholy about Daddy, whether or not I had the dream.
I hope talking about it won't make it go away. That happens sometimes. :(
Saturday night I remember a dream and it wasn't about that, which makes me worry. I dreamed I was talking to God, and he was just about to tell me what it was he wanted me to do when I woke up. I've been curious ever since.
Posted by Phillipa on February 11, 2008, at 19:43:00
In reply to Re: My recurring dream, posted by Dinah on February 11, 2008, at 8:59:48
Dinah reminds me of the falling down stairs dreams and you wake-up before hitting the bottom. Sorry the dream stopped for you. Bet it was good things he wanted to say like Daddy is here with me and happy. Love Phillipa
Posted by Dinah on February 11, 2008, at 21:03:20
In reply to Re: My recurring dream » Dinah, posted by Phillipa on February 11, 2008, at 19:43:00
I'm pretty sure it was nothing that good. :)
I was sort of simultaneously thinking both "Of course! I'm at your disposal." and shrinking back thinking "Oh no! I'm not going to like this." when I woke up.
I know it was just a dream, but I wish I'd heard what my mind would have come up with.
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