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Posted by Maxime on December 31, 2007, at 19:01:13
I feel like such a loser here PB on *New Year's Eve*. This is a time when people get together and have fun and I am in front of my computer.
Truth is, I keep posting because I am scared I will cut or OD if I don't.
It sure is lonely here. :( Yeah, bringing in the new on PB. Pathetic.
Maxime
Posted by muffled on December 31, 2007, at 19:12:06
In reply to I am the loser of 2007, posted by Maxime on December 31, 2007, at 19:01:13
Hey! You can't be the loser of PB, that is MY title!!! :-)
I am not doing anything either.
Thots run across my mind....
but better for me to stay home.
Damn.
Its OK though.
I just think of all those people who will be sick as dogs w/hangovers tomorrow.....or the ones that have blackouts and don't remember what they did...or the ones who made *ss*s of themselves....
Well, staying home don't sound so bad to me.....
I gonna read a good book.
Go to sleep early.
Its just another night really, dunno why there's sucha fuss bout it all.
Whatever.
M
Posted by kezia on December 31, 2007, at 19:27:02
In reply to I am the loser of 2007, posted by Maxime on December 31, 2007, at 19:01:13
Hey, you are not a loser. I am here, too, and, you know what, I really don't feel like a loser being here. I partied on New Year's eve like a fool (all-nighers, binge drinking . . .) for over 20 years, and now I like a nice quiet night at home reflecting. That's not to say my reflections are always positive, but that's life I guess.
I think it is a positive thing that you are here posting rather than the alternative. Reaching out to others is a healthy diversion, so keep posting. I am sure you will find that you are not alone.
Be strong, Maxime, and be safe. You can babblemail me if you need to chat and nobody is around on Babble.
All the best to you tonight and in the new year ahead. I hope 2008 is good to you. You certainly deserve it.
Kez
> I feel like such a loser here PB on *New Year's Eve*. This is a time when people get together and have fun and I am in front of my computer.
>
> Truth is, I keep posting because I am scared I will cut or OD if I don't.
>
> It sure is lonely here. :( Yeah, bringing in the new on PB. Pathetic.
>
> Maxime
Posted by Sigismund on December 31, 2007, at 19:31:20
In reply to I am the loser of 2007, posted by Maxime on December 31, 2007, at 19:01:13
Not everyone goes out and has fun on NYE.
I went to bed by 10.30pm (way past my bedtime) and read a little about Hitler and Stalin just to you know settle me down.
I could have gone out and taken stuff and drunk hard liquor (yum!), but am glad I didn't now.
Posted by JoniS on December 31, 2007, at 19:59:29
In reply to I am the loser of 2007, posted by Maxime on December 31, 2007, at 19:01:13
You are not a loser! Nobody who's a Babbler or friend of a Babbler is a loser.
I'm doing the same thing. Quiet night at home. It's OK
Hope you have a great evening!
Joni
Posted by Maxime on December 31, 2007, at 20:01:32
In reply to No, you're not! » Maxime, posted by JoniS on December 31, 2007, at 19:59:29
Posted by muffled on December 31, 2007, at 21:53:24
In reply to You guys rock! Thank you! (nm), posted by Maxime on December 31, 2007, at 20:01:32
Posted by Racer on December 31, 2007, at 23:00:46
In reply to I am the loser of 2007, posted by Maxime on December 31, 2007, at 19:01:13
I'm pathetic, but I'm not a loser...
Unless I am.
For New Year's Eve, I suggested to my husband that we get a bottle of champagne. (We've got enough real pain, after all...) We didn't. I don't know if we forgot, or what.
The excitement of our day was taking the watch I gave my husband for Christmas back to the jeweler's to have the band fitted, and buying a Dilbert daily calendar so we have something to do at breakfast every day. (I can't believe they didn't have a Non-Sequitor daily calendar this year! We've had the Non-Sequitor calendar for years -- what will we do without Danae???) We also took my mother to the market, so that she could buy yogurt for lunch for the week. And I gave her the sweater I made for her for Christmas, which hadn't quite been finished in time.
But, I'm depressed. This is no way to live. So, maybe if I were in a better state, I would have insisted that my husband and I do *something* to celebrate. I don't like going out, though -- Amateur Night, and it's not worth the risk.
A very dear friend of mine used to have great New Year's Eve parties -- she'd invite exactly as many people as she could find sleeping places for, so that none of us had to be out on the road. Several times, I slept in an armchair, with a nice ottoman, often with multiple terriers for ballast. That's the sort of "party" I would like to go to. We'd drink champagne, watch silly movies, do silly things -- one year, we all brought every pair of gloves we owned, and all tried them on. Sounds so silly now, but it was great.
Memories, huh?
Posted by star008 on January 1, 2008, at 1:19:41
In reply to I am the loser of 2007, posted by Maxime on December 31, 2007, at 19:01:13
maxime
you are not a loser.. You are having a bad time but I wouldn't qualify you as a loser. Those are two entirely different things. I wsh I could offer u more but you know it has been for me too.. But people do get better.. I guess all we can do is hang onto some hope and to keep working on things.. I know how hopeless it feels.. It is like that for me too. Don't worry about new years.. Lots of people stay home.. It is a party nite and lots of us don't party.. I forced myself to go to a friends house.. She invited me and normally I would think of a way to get out of it but I decided that isolating myself is not at all good for me.. It was fun.. I didn't know anyone except my friend but it worked out okay. I think we need to force ourselves to be more social.. there are people who would like us if we only tried to get out there more..
Posted by Sigismund on January 1, 2008, at 17:01:03
In reply to Re: I am the loser of 2007 » Maxime, posted by star008 on January 1, 2008, at 1:19:41
The teaching of most religions is that life is valuable in and of itself.
There have always been words for the (what word?) failures (how's that?) among us.My wish for the new year is that ideas like winners and losers are felt to be too (what?) vulgar? awful? contaminating? to entertain.
And that individually and collectively we manage to be more gentle, generous and kind.
The miracle is that we are alive.We should try to live well (even if we can't), but we should not withdraw our care from anyone.
Once Maxi (I think it was) you did a beautiful post on the subject of 'hopeless' people in mental hospitals, and I'd find it for you if I could recall enough of it to search for it.
Posted by Kath on January 1, 2008, at 19:39:08
In reply to I am the loser of 2007, posted by Maxime on December 31, 2007, at 19:01:13
Aw you're not a loser!
I was curled up on the couch reading!
Sorry I wasn't here to join you - I mostly go on the Social Board, but it looks like you had lots of other folks here for ya.
(((((you)))))) luv, Kath
Posted by Bodhisattva on January 4, 2008, at 11:27:37
In reply to I am the loser of 2007, posted by Maxime on December 31, 2007, at 19:01:13
Don't forget.
You're in front of your computer getting together with other people. If I could email ya a drink I would. I personally love to knock back an irish car bomb, ever had one?
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