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Posted by muffled on December 10, 2007, at 13:57:34
Can someone say Ok things to my ikid cuz she around toooooo much it is upsetting.
I call T 2x but no answer,
I am rocking , it is OK.
It is OK.
Can someone tell my kid its OK?
But no touching OK.
Just say its OK.
Thank you
M
Posted by frida on December 10, 2007, at 14:06:37
In reply to OK OK OK OK OK, can someone tell ikid its OK?, posted by muffled on December 10, 2007, at 13:57:34
It's ok, it's going to be ok..
Your T probably hasn't heard the message...
you will get in contact with her soon.I hope you hear from her soon.
Frida
> Can someone say Ok things to my ikid cuz she around toooooo much it is upsetting.
> I call T 2x but no answer,
> I am rocking , it is OK.
> It is OK.
> Can someone tell my kid its OK?
> But no touching OK.
> Just say its OK.
> Thank you
> M
Posted by Bodhisattva on December 10, 2007, at 14:22:29
In reply to OK OK OK OK OK, can someone tell ikid its OK?, posted by muffled on December 10, 2007, at 13:57:34
Everything is OK.
Would it help to talk about the problem? I'd love to listen.
Posted by lovelorn on December 10, 2007, at 14:40:39
In reply to OK OK OK OK OK, can someone tell ikid its OK?, posted by muffled on December 10, 2007, at 13:57:34
"ikid, it will be okay - adult M is trying very hard to figure out how to make you ikids and herself better - it will be okay"
Rocking is a self-soothing action. I am sure it helps when you feel like this.
Posted by Damos on December 10, 2007, at 16:03:39
In reply to OK OK OK OK OK, can someone tell ikid its OK?, posted by muffled on December 10, 2007, at 13:57:34
Hey kiddo =0)
You wanna play board games or something while muffled takes a break or we could make pancakes or something - whatever you like. What would you like to do?
I'm sorry it's hard sometimes, and for not being 'round so much. But it will get better, it will. Things will settle down again. Can you remember back to when we first hung out on the boards....things was pretty wild then, but they got better. Took time, but they did get better. Was hurts and upsets, but they got better in time. Hah, you remember building a cubby in the lounge room and hiding out? Or going to the forest and checkin' out all the critters and stuff. Or even just sittin' quiet in the cave.
You know you guys been doin' so good and Damos is so very proud of you. I know you help muffled so much. But it's hard to be good and brave and strong all the time and to help look after everyone else. So is okay to be scared sometimes. Is okay. All the things you feelin' is okay.
How 'bout we take muffled to the forrest and we'll find a clearing and make a nest of leaves and stuff nice and soft and she can lay there and we'll cover her with a nice warm blanket and we'll make a fire to keep us all warm. And we can melt marshmallows on sticks and tell stories and stuff and everyone can just be safe and warm and good. And we'll make sure that 'T' knows where we are and has the cell number so she can call us and stuff. And we can close our eyes and listen to the forest, we can become part of the breeze and the trees, part of the forest itself, feel the forest taking care of us...and things calming....slowing feeling better...little by little.
You all take extra special care okay. Puupy send big sloppy dog kisses and cuddles
((((((((((all the muffled ones))))))))))
Posted by star008 on December 10, 2007, at 16:38:46
In reply to OK OK OK OK OK, can someone tell ikid its OK?, posted by muffled on December 10, 2007, at 13:57:34
it s okay muffs.. it really is ok.. she is scared but nothng can hurt her now. you don't have to let anyone hurt her,, and u are not going to hurt her either. you know she is scared and in pain.
hang on.. hold it together muffled.. your kids need you..Sometimes it really pissed me off that I couldn't fall aprt.. My kids needed me and they didn't need a f..cked up mom to screw them up.. You can do this.. FAke your way through it for them.. Sometimes it is hard to do for yourself but you others depending on you.. Yeah, I know it s...cks but you love them more than anything..
I will tell u where I am at now muffled when I have more time later on this evening. It is hard, it s..cks but what choice do you have, really?? We have the right to do alot of things in our lives but what we don't have the right to do is to f....ck up someone else's lives, (our kids).
I used to get pissed sometimes that I could'nt just fall aprt or die cuz I had to be here for them.. Dumb , huh?? But it did piss me off sometimes.. I felt like I was stuck here against my will for someone else.. I still am really,, Just cuz they are grown doesn't mean I got the right to screw them up now either.hang in there girl.. i know you can do it.. quit drinking Muffled.. I know you can't see it right now but it really does screw up your thinking bad..makes it hard to hold it together and think right.. I quit 12 years ago.. Slipped up a few times but now it kind of makes me sick.. thank god, huh?? I hae a few now and then but too much makes the Ikids rear up.. they either go nuts or they cry and want to die..
I hope you don't think I am preaching at you.. It is not meant that way at all. It is only cuz I have been exactly where u are..I could go there again, i know..just as f...cked up.. different place
big hugs>>>> from across the room;)
Posted by rskontos on December 10, 2007, at 17:32:55
In reply to Re: OK OK OK OK OK, can someone tell ikid its OK? » muffled, posted by Damos on December 10, 2007, at 16:03:39
Damos, your post made me cry ( my peeps) and I cause that is exactly what ikid needs to hear. I just loved that you talked directly to her to help Muffled........
I hope the next time I have a breakdown you are around.....
That was the most special thing....rsk
Posted by rskontos on December 10, 2007, at 17:37:56
In reply to OK OK OK OK OK, can someone tell ikid its OK?, posted by muffled on December 10, 2007, at 13:57:34
Muffy,
iKid, come on out and talk to us or lets play. What is wrong?
Let us know to help.It will be ok. Muffy is trying her best to make things ok and she is doing great.
What is upsetting you the most. Can you tell us, or draw it. Write it down. Email it to T. We want to help you help muffled. We know
how is goes and how hard things get.
You want to scream and yell but talking helps too.
Or playing ball, walking in the woods or in a park.
I like to pet my dogs how about you.
Everyone will be ok. Don't hurt yourself or muffled.
She is ok and she is strong and so are you.
It is ok. It is ok. It is ok.
The bad ones are gone for good. They can't come back
They are haunting you no more. Let them go.Ok.......talk to us or come out and play ball.
We can all be friends for a while and spend the day having some fun.
rsk
Posted by I need a hug on December 10, 2007, at 19:00:01
In reply to Re: OK OK OK OK OK, can someone tell ikid its OK?, posted by rskontos on December 10, 2007, at 17:37:56
Muff, ikid,
I'm here along with everyone else to help you and support you in any way we can. We all love you and care about you and want you to feel better and feel safe. You do so much for us and I think I can speak for everyone when I say, "Just let us know what you need and you've got it." HUGS
Posted by llurpsienoodle on December 10, 2007, at 19:03:59
In reply to Re: Muffled might be a trigger/no read/for damos » Damos, posted by rskontos on December 10, 2007, at 17:32:55
Innerkid, you don't have to be strong ALL the time. Sometimes it's okay to cry, or to weep. You can let it out and nobody will hurt you. Nobody will do ANYTHING to harm you. You are safe. ALL of you.
Damos is taking inner kids on a field trip to the forest. What a kind Damos. What he didn't mention is that I already picked out the perfect green sapling sticks for marshmallow roasting. I whittled them to make them the perfect pointiness for marshmallow application.
you HAVE been doing SO good inner kids, and muffled too. Hang in there, and let babble know when T calls.
((((muffled'd ikids))))
-Ll
Posted by muffled on December 10, 2007, at 19:59:21
In reply to kids, it's gonna be okay, posted by llurpsienoodle on December 10, 2007, at 19:03:59
I OK.
Freaked some but OK.
Went and got irl kids. they calm me.
Then went to sisters and went on a walk.
((( T )))
I think T musta saw I called, I only said on her message it was me, I didn't say to call. Next time I left no message but it would show on her call display.
So she musta saw, and checked her email(it sends me a read receipt when she picks it up. There were SEVEN mails....)Anyhow, I sat there and read receipts kept comming into my inbox so I knew she was reading them, that was cool.
Then she gave short reply to two of them. That was nice. See she knows I hate the phone and can't talk good on phone and dissociate and can't remmeber call oftentimes. So that was nice.
One email was so sweet. I cut and paste a bit."Replying to this one too. You are neither a leper or a WEIRDO...You are a human being who is struggling to understand yourself, the world and how to be in it. I hear that it is really hard lately. On we go. I will see you tomorrow. I will bring some drawing stuff along.....maybe if the kid can't talk, she can draw???, but I will be there and we will be there together."
Is that sweet or what?
So thats good.
I loved the babbleposts, I gonna read them LOTS.
Thank you ALL.
M
Posted by sunnydays on December 10, 2007, at 20:43:35
In reply to OK OK OK OK OK, can someone tell ikid its OK?, posted by muffled on December 10, 2007, at 13:57:34
It's ok. It's ok. I promise it's ok. You are safe. No one's going to hurt you. Your T is perfectly fine with your relationship, she isn't mad. People are here for you on Babble to support you. You are ok. You are a kid, and it's ok to be sad. Just try to let the adult do some of the adult things she needs to do too, ok? But if you can't, I understand. You're not doing anything wrong. You're ok.
sunnydays
Posted by muffled on December 11, 2007, at 22:02:46
In reply to Re: OK OK OK OK OK, can someone tell ikid its OK? » muffled, posted by sunnydays on December 10, 2007, at 20:43:35
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