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Posted by obsidian on November 22, 2007, at 0:15:41
I am crying all the time now...I have a lot of thoughts that just get me started, they seem to come from everywhere
I'm not sure I'm going to be able to get myself out of the mess I have gotten myself into
I'm not sure if I can find the strength to try
I'm not sure I want to
I am not sure my T can help me
I am not sure my pdoc can help me
I know they mean well, but some things just can't be fixed, and doesn't that just suck?
I am not sure I can live up to all my responsibilities and all that is expected of me
I just don't think I can
I'm not sure I can.....do much
Posted by Muffled on November 22, 2007, at 1:02:59
In reply to I'm not feeling well..........(maybe trigger?), posted by obsidian on November 22, 2007, at 0:15:41
> I am crying all the time now...I have a lot of thoughts that just get me started, they seem to come from everywhere
> I'm not sure I'm going to be able to get myself out of the mess I have gotten myself into
> I'm not sure if I can find the strength to try
> I'm not sure I want to
> I am not sure my T can help me
> I am not sure my pdoc can help me
> I know they mean well, but some things just can't be fixed, and doesn't that just suck?
> I am not sure I can live up to all my responsibilities and all that is expected of me
> I just don't think I can
> I'm not sure I can.....do much
>
**Awww Sid, sorry you in a bad place right now :-(
But you got reserves of strength. Us humans have amazing strength and will.
I'm not sure what mess you are referring to? But there's always a way, even if it means taking a break or whatever...
I think where there is life there is hope.
It sounds like you are very overwhelmed right now.
Maybe your T can help you brak down what is going on in your life into more managable chunks?
Can you give yourself a break and realize your a struggling human being just like me? and we are so not perfect, and sometimes we need a break, and sometimes we need to let others care for us some?
Sid, I have always enjoyed your presence here at babble, and I send you my utmost best thots your way.
Please hang in there and just do what you can. Even if that just means brushing your teeth.
Be kind to yourself OK?
Take good care,
Muffled
Posted by star008 on November 22, 2007, at 7:03:05
In reply to I'm not feeling well..........(maybe trigger?), posted by obsidian on November 22, 2007, at 0:15:41
Sorry you are so depressed.. It does come out of no where sometimes.. Might have been a trigger. I know words don't help much but it will pass. It always does. It just really sucks when u are stuck in the middle of it. I realized too that the T's and pdoc's can't fix everything. It is hard to be where u are right now. hang in there..Call your T if you need to..Sometimes it helps to not be so alone with it. Sometimes I call knowing he can't say anything or do anything that will make me feel any better but I call anyway.
Posted by Dory on November 22, 2007, at 8:54:10
In reply to I'm not feeling well..........(maybe trigger?), posted by obsidian on November 22, 2007, at 0:15:41
my poor sid... ((((sid)))) go easy on yourself girl.
you've beens struggling with some big decisions for a while now, wanting to be happier but not wanting to take the risk. It's understandable, the risk is really big and not every risk is worth it. i think a part of what is bringing you down is that indecision.. a decision in either direction would be freeing. Maybe i am all wrong and this is about something else..
whatever it is doll.. someone can help you... a combination can help you. Talk to people, your T, your pdoc, us.. me.. the most important thing is to reach out and talk to people. Remember how you sat with me that night? My god sid.. you kept me safe. You did that. Let people help you.
email me ok? i don't come to babble often
Posted by Muffled on November 22, 2007, at 12:54:18
In reply to Re: I'm not feeling well..........(maybe trigger?) » obsidian, posted by Dory on November 22, 2007, at 8:54:10
Posted by Phillipa on November 22, 2007, at 13:10:47
In reply to Re: I'm not feeling well..........(maybe trigger?) » obsidian, posted by Dory on November 22, 2007, at 8:54:10
All I can say is I feel the same as you even if the problem is not the same and a holiday weekend to boot. I'll hang in if you will too. Deal????Love Phillipa
Posted by Sigismund on November 22, 2007, at 13:21:38
In reply to I'm not feeling well..........(maybe trigger?), posted by obsidian on November 22, 2007, at 0:15:41
My dear Obsid
Some things can't be fixed, it is true, and sometimes we can't do much at all.
Sometimes you can spend so long in a stuck spot, quite sick really and unable to get better.
And then something happens and you do get somewhat better and that can happen relatively quickly.But like a lot of people here I have very much enjoyed your company.
And you aren't well at the moment, you were saying somewhere else.
Posted by obsidian on November 22, 2007, at 17:02:53
In reply to I'm not feeling well..........(maybe trigger?), posted by obsidian on November 22, 2007, at 0:15:41
your kindness is much appreciated :-)
Posted by Dinah on November 23, 2007, at 12:30:38
In reply to I'm not feeling well..........(maybe trigger?), posted by obsidian on November 22, 2007, at 0:15:41
I'm sorry, Obsidian. I'm not up to date with what's going on in your life, and I'm sorry for the pain you're feeling.
My son once or twice has asked me a series of increasingly improbably questions about what would happen if he failed a test, failed a class, dropped out of school, and increasing in severity until the likelihood of the circumstance happening would depend on a takeover by the universe of Star Wars. My answer to him is that there is never anything so bad that life can't go on and be a good life. The very worst that can happen is that it won't be the life you currently plan. (Assuming that he simultaneously fails his entire college curriculum and fails to stop an alien invasion.) It might be the end of the world as he currently knows it, but it's not the end of *the* world.
At some level, this is hard for me to believe. I'm the person who was sure life would end if I got a B. But the evidence shows me wrong. Life does go on. And life still can be good. Even if the "worst" happens. Even if we fail to live up to our responsibilities. Even if we fail miserably at whatever we're currently doing. Even if it seems we can't take one step forward.
I think that in my case, I tend to focus too narrowly on what is directly in front of me, and fail to see everything in the periphery. I'm so focussed on passing *this* hurdle that I fail to see that if I trip myself up on it, there are a dozen other paths to my end goal. I focus on how I used to jump the hurdle easily, or how I know my jumping ability is such that I ought to be able to clear the hurdle so I must be bad if I don't.
Or at least that's what I tell my son.
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