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Posted by muffled on September 25, 2007, at 22:12:03
I was wondering if any of those with inner kids, if they could say how it feels for them?
My beleif is that the dissoc is on a continuum.
So the experience of inner kids must be diff, for diff people.
Just curious.
I will post my perceptions tomorrow, but i SO tired.
I goto bed now.
M
Posted by Dinah on September 25, 2007, at 22:14:49
In reply to Re: inner kids..., posted by muffled on September 25, 2007, at 22:12:03
must they be kids?
Posted by muffled on September 25, 2007, at 22:17:55
In reply to Re: inner kids..., posted by muffled on September 25, 2007, at 22:12:03
LOL Dinah I zombied staring at computer.
Nope, I like to hear of all dissoc stuff.
Don't just goto be kids.
I got Nasty and EP, don't think they kids....
You got some good ideas happening, have you thot of more?
Now I REALLY goto goto sleep...zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
:-)
M
Posted by Dinah on September 25, 2007, at 22:22:52
In reply to Re: inner kids..., posted by muffled on September 25, 2007, at 22:17:55
No, nothing new, I don't think.
I just never think in terms of kids, and sometimes it makes me feel sort of on the outside, you know?
Posted by muffled on September 27, 2007, at 11:20:19
In reply to Re: inner kids..., posted by Dinah on September 25, 2007, at 22:22:52
Dinah, you NOT on outside.
We all got diff stuff.
You a great help here.
You fit in.
You are babbler.
(((Dinah)))
Posted by rskontos on October 2, 2007, at 9:53:31
In reply to Re: inner kids... » Dinah, posted by muffled on September 27, 2007, at 11:20:19
On this do you think we need to integrate? What happens if you don't open up to the T. I haven't bonded to mine, I see her so infrequently, she has two jobs. I don't know why? I haven't asked because...I don't know why. She is only able to schedule sessions like on MOn, Tues and Thurs, and Sat and only every two weeks to three. That isn't enough for me. I being new to this and usually is it the child out, won't ask, won't say no. I have to go home where it is me out and then I usually say why bother because I am not bonded with her yet. Not enough time. I finally decided to see her more to ask and I missed two appts because of inner struggles and struggles at home and now she won't call me back. Plus she is one of those professionals that runs over and later for appts. Well now that I put it in black and white I see why I don't bother. I am not bonded to her and now she has made me mad.
So back to my question, if I let the inner child alone, and the other at least one I know of with the memories I don't have even thought the times I lose time is increasing is that bad? And should I try to find another T. My depression is better today so naturally I think I will be ok. I know this is a hard thing to work thru and why? I whink in the long run maybe...oh I don't know as you can see I am struggling big time....I don't have a p-doc and have had a hard time finding one.
Posted by muffled on October 2, 2007, at 11:15:02
In reply to Re: inner kids..., posted by rskontos on October 2, 2007, at 9:53:31
I am no expert.
But my thots on your situation are:
Sometimes T are not a good fit, and then we need to find a different T.
I think if you are split enuf that you lose time then its doubly important you find a T that is reliable and consistant and available(and who doesn't go away alot!). Preferably with some experience w/splitting, or a least some knowledge and a willingness to learn.
I find that when I am stressed I am WAY more split. When things are going well I rarely notice splitting, and even if I do, its not a big prob, mebbe embarassing at times, but thats about it.
I fortunately do not lose time really. I am VERY thankful for that. It must be frightening :-( But I am glad, I think it was you, that has come to trust that you will be OK, even when you not there at all, that the other parts will take care of your body OK.
I dunno if you have an adult part that can soothe the younger ones at all? Tell them its OK. Be firm with them if they are getting out of control. Tell them they are safe. Etc?
I find communication for me is best in writing. Sometimes I can do it in the bathtub having a nice hot bath. But mostly I don't have a clue what goes on. It just takes too much energy for me to try and figure it out mostly.
So I hope you can find a T that is trustworthy, reliable, consistant, and whatever else is needed for a good fit for you.
Take good care,
Muffled
Posted by B2chica on October 2, 2007, at 11:42:56
In reply to Re: inner kids..., posted by rskontos on October 2, 2007, at 9:53:31
rskontos....i think it is wise of you to acknowlege your needs...i personally think it is very important when working on "innerkids" to see T at least once a week.
and quite frankly your current doesn't sound like she can meet your needs.
i would suggest looking around for a different T.
someone you can connect with, and that has experience working with dissociative disorders. and one that can meet with you as often as needed.
(*and just a side note i think one reply used the word splitting...i know exactly what was meant but if you mention that to a T they might think your talking about something else...splitting is a term used for those with BPD. i think it means making things all good or all bad -or something like that..i think the term used when switching to different parts is fractured...BUT thats all just symantics-but i wanted to mention it just in case...cuz i want to make sure you have a T specialized in trauma, not BPD.)and of course when we feel better there are a hundred and one reasons why we should NOT go to T.
but you are the best judge of what the future for you may bring. if you feel that things are changing...maybe getting worse or scarier, it is time to start looking for a T.
i always kinda tricked myself when i was feeling good and needed to find a T. i would say, ok, i will look for one but i Don't have to see him right away..i just find the one i like and set up an appt say a month down the line.
then they're there...and once you find one, maybe you will feel really connected to them and that will encourage you to see them enough to form a trust.*****************
about integration...
i think this is a VERY good discussion topic and i would like to hear as many replies on this as possible.
i have several times questioned if i feel i NEEDED to integrate. i guess i'm afraid. i mean, they are there for a reason. part of me doesn't want to loose that protection...will i loose it? and sometimes i get sad, what will happen to them?
i mean i know T tells me they are all part of me and i will not Loose them, but it sometimes feels that way. and i think it scares my little one, though she's not really aware of that concept, but she thinks she's invisible as it is...and are there people that have this level of DD or DID and function well without integration?
and does the DD get worse with time if not integrated?
do you gain more "inner parts' as time goes on (as an adult?) if you don't integrate?
if anyone can answer these questions or even just put their opinions i'd certainly like to hear them...
**didn't mean to hijack your thread rskontos**
i'll make a new thread below.
Posted by rskontos on October 2, 2007, at 12:13:17
In reply to Re: inner kids... » rskontos, posted by B2chica on October 2, 2007, at 11:42:56
No, it is ok to hijacked, please, because it is this type of discussion I am seeking too. My T said specifically I needed to integrated all me and it scared me too. I too like my protection. I think maybe that is why she has not called me back. But back to the discussion, the young child in me has more control sometimes than I do, at least I think so. In times of stress or emotional times, she is the one that comes out, and lately I don't always go away completely sometimes well actually twice, I have remained at a distance, almost like hovering. I think because the stress isn't like what I experienced in childhood. I don't know. I would like to hear more or what others say too. But thanks for you posts and everyones elses. It is getting a tad bit better talking about this. For so long I thought I was so strange that I refused to admit what was going on......
Posted by B2chica on October 2, 2007, at 12:34:31
In reply to Re: inner kids..., posted by rskontos on October 2, 2007, at 12:13:17
sorry rs...i posted new thread down below...i'll just comment down there.
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