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Posted by Dinah on June 22, 2007, at 13:15:36
I was thinking of you.
Posted by sunnydays on June 22, 2007, at 18:45:47
In reply to Sunndays? How are you doing today?, posted by Dinah on June 22, 2007, at 13:15:36
Thanks for asking Dinah. I'm alright. My T actually offered to see me Monday since he's not leaving until Tuesday, so I'm going to see him one more time, then he'll be gone for two weeks. He's going to leave me a message, and he's going to call me once for ten minutes while he's gone. He was so nice today. I got really sad at one point and took a pillow and put it in front of my face, and he said "It's ok to be sad in here sunnydays, you don't have to hide from it."
And I was afraid to ask for the message, and I said it was because I thought that if I asked for too much, he'd get sick of me and leave forever. And he said, "You can ask for anything in here. You're afraid because you haven't had anyone who was comfortable setting limits before. I'm perfectly comfortable saying no. I'll say no to anything that isn't appropriate for the kind of relationship we have. But you can ask absolutely anything, and that's totally fine. You could ask to come set up a futon in my back bedroom and live with me, and I'd say no, but it would be totally ok for you to ask it. You won't get in trouble or be punished for asking anything. You could ask me to be your parent and we'd talk about it, although I know you know deep down I can't be your parent. But your thoughts and feelings are valid because they're yours. They just are, they can't be right or wrong."
And he asked me what I would want to hear in the message, and I told him, and he wrote it down so he'd remember. And we're meeting Monday.
In other news, I fainted today getting blood drawn, so I'm still a little shaky from that. It always happens, unfortunately.
sunnydays
Posted by sunnydays on June 22, 2007, at 22:24:38
In reply to Re: Sunndays? How are you doing today? » Dinah, posted by sunnydays on June 22, 2007, at 18:45:47
Sorry, just continuing. I'm afraid. I'm afraid my T won't come back, even though I know that's a completely irrational fear. I just love him so much and I wish that I could live with him and have him be my parent. I wish he would sit next to me and give me a big hug. I wish, I wish, I wish...
sunnydays
Posted by Dinah on June 23, 2007, at 11:57:50
In reply to Re: Sunndays? How are you doing today? » Dinah, posted by sunnydays on June 22, 2007, at 18:45:47
You know, I can't imagine a more wonderful thing to say.
My therapist says the same thing. :)
Although I must confess the tones sound different. Yours sounds tender and full of humor.
It is *so* true. I wish everyone in the world could learn that lesson. But I suppose everyone in the world would also have to learn to be comfortable with setting boundaries, which would also be a good thing.
He *will* come back. He's not going to leave forever. Everything will be ok.
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