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Posted by crushedout on June 10, 2007, at 20:31:30
I wrote it out by hand today, on lined paper, three pages long. What she did to me. Why I was mad at her. What I was hoping to get by writing her. What I wanted her to do in response.I haven't mailed it yet. I guess I will read it over tomorrow, and think about whether I want to edit it. But I don't want to agonize over this forever. I am really going to send something and be "done with it." Well, we'll see if that's an end or a beginning.
Oy. I'm also dealing with a dying 19-year-old cat. I am heart-broken. Which is weird because right before I left my ex-T two and a half years ago, my previous cat died. It all seems to be coming full-circle.
Posted by TherapyGirl on June 10, 2007, at 21:02:53
In reply to I wrote to my ex-T, posted by crushedout on June 10, 2007, at 20:31:30
This sounds like something good you're doing for yourself. I hope you will decide to send it -- just be sure you're prepared for any response she might give you.
Sorry about your cat.
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Posted by crushedout on June 10, 2007, at 21:04:13
In reply to Re: I wrote to my ex-T » crushedout, posted by TherapyGirl on June 10, 2007, at 21:02:53
Posted by OzLand on June 10, 2007, at 22:58:58
In reply to I wrote to my ex-T, posted by crushedout on June 10, 2007, at 20:31:30
If it helps you feel better to send the letter and know that this therapist probably read it, then by all means do so. If you are expecting a response, however, and this is a big part of why you write the letter, you may be disappointed.
One month ago I stopped going to my old pdoc/therapist as I felt I was not getting better. I was angry with him because I kept getting more and more depressed as time went on, and he kept pushing ECT too. Well, I ended up doing the ECT though I did cut it off before the ECT doc initially thought I should. To make a long story short, I got a new pdoc/therapist/analyst who really knows how to do therapy. I am starting to feel better in the sense of more hopeful, and I don't feel that he will express his irritation or annoyance or anger at me. My new therapist said it sounded like I did ECT as a gift to my old therapist. I think he is right. I liked my old therapist, but he really was not right for me and the issues I was trying to address.
Long story short, I wrote him an email the other day to let him know that his billing practices really caused me great grief with the insurance company. I let him know that by putting phone messages I left for him on the same bill with therapy, I ended up having two more therapy sessions of my 60 per year used and not even paid for by the insurance company. I wondered if he would write back, but he did not, and I don't expect now that he will.
Posted by crushedout on June 11, 2007, at 15:25:45
In reply to I wrote to my ex-T, posted by crushedout on June 10, 2007, at 20:31:30
I didn't even re-read but as I was falling asleep, I realized that it was too conclusory. I told her that she was a bad T, that she f'ed up, that she crossed boundaries, etc. etc.But to make her really hear what I'm saying and not just dismiss me (to protect herself), I need to fill it with facts. Here's what you did. #1. #2. #3. and here's the effect it had on me....
A much harder letter to write. Oh well. Back to the drawing board.
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