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Posted by DisTraught on May 21, 2007, at 4:40:31
Hi, All
I'm glad babble is up and running.
On the downside, I have a mentally ill mom (always been so, and she was my single parent). She has not cleaned her apartment in 30yrs, I stopped cleaning it fifteen yrs ago and her place looks like something out of a horror movie.So I did some basic cleaning eight hours yesterday,and you can't tell the difference.
She can no longer control her bladder and is rapidly going downhill. BUT, she will lie in the face of any doctor and say she's OK.
It drives me nuts. No T on the face of the earth can make me come to terms with this. Just don't know what to do.I get a major anxiety attack whenever I see her place.Penny
Posted by Dinah on May 21, 2007, at 9:46:28
In reply to My mom, posted by DisTraught on May 21, 2007, at 4:40:31
I'll join you in that. My mother's obstinance on the issue is likely to cost us more than we have, because she's about to lose volunteer help in fixing her house.
And I've actually tried to involve the authorities, to no avail. They don't want to touch it.
Have you tried turning her in? Calling the agency that helps seniors in your area and asking if anything can be done? Or her doctors?
Once you've done everything that can be done, maybe the only thing left is to acknowledge your powerlessness in the situation, and recognize that parents, like grown children, have to make their own mistakes. (And pick her up and bring her out when you want to see her. I won't let my son go to my mother's house for more than a few minutes, and my husband won't go at all.)
Posted by Phillipa on May 21, 2007, at 10:56:27
In reply to Re: My mom » DisTraught, posted by Dinah on May 21, 2007, at 9:46:28
Can you not committ them for being unable to care for themselves that is very sad and unhealthy for all involved I thought this was a danger thing too. Oh well what do I know. Love Phillipa
Posted by DisTraught on May 22, 2007, at 0:58:49
In reply to Re: My mom » DisTraught, posted by Dinah on May 21, 2007, at 9:46:28
Thanks for sharing and listening, Dinah. My children have never been to her place, so they don't know what it's all about, and my husband refuses to go there, too. The hard thing about all this is of course that it's difficult to see what is what. I think I fear being as crazy as she is, as if it's contageous, even though I rationally know it isn't.
Anyway, I'm working on getting her help:)Penny
Posted by DisTraught on May 22, 2007, at 1:00:37
In reply to Re: My mom, posted by Phillipa on May 21, 2007, at 10:56:27
Thanks, Philippa for sharing. I'm trying to get her committed or get her some kind of help.
Penny
Posted by Dinah on May 22, 2007, at 13:58:48
In reply to Re: My mom, posted by DisTraught on May 22, 2007, at 0:58:49
I understand that. :(
We're not completely dissimilar and I notice our similarities with alarm.
I think the difference may be that I have the ability to look at what I'm doing, self awareness, while she clearly does not.
So as long as you wonder if you're like her, you're probably not.
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