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Posted by Iwillsurvive on March 7, 2007, at 0:02:16
why babble is hard when T is away.
Cuz it gets a mind to thinking.
I MUST NOT THINK.
I cannot let my mind go down paths that might lead to thots, THOSE thots.
I have to be very very careful to maintain the status quo.
Its making me very zombiedied. My brain is very sluggish sometimes.
It starts to go, but then I MUST stop it.
Pathetic.
Sigh.
Posted by wishingstar on March 7, 2007, at 9:00:38
In reply to NOW I figgered it, when T is away long time..., posted by Iwillsurvive on March 7, 2007, at 0:02:16
I think that's a good insight. Sometimes we do have to "shut down" some pieces of ourselves in order to keep ourself safe during hard times. For instance, I know I do it when I visit my parents. I just cant let the emotional side of me be "awake" then. And same thing when your T is gone. It's hard to have strong feelings and no one to be there to support them or support you. If babble is making things harder for you at the moment, then there's absolutely nothing wrong with pulling back a little until your T get backs, if it helps. We just want you to feel okay. :)
Posted by littleone on March 7, 2007, at 19:42:40
In reply to NOW I figgered it, when T is away long time..., posted by Iwillsurvive on March 7, 2007, at 0:02:16
I think it is important to try to minimise your triggers while you don’t have the support of your T nearby. So it’s okay to pull back and avoid threads/posts/posters that could send you into a spin.
But don’t forget that even while you do that, babble can still help you if you’d like it to. We can talk about safe things too. Like camp comfort, or your mossy place, or whole new wonderful places. Keeping a warm connection to people who care about you could help soothe you a bit.
Just need to stay on the lookout for potentially triggering stuff.
Having said that, if reading is too dangerous, stepping back is perfectly okay too.
Did you end up going to your last T session? I know you were thinking about ditching it. Did you and your T end up talking about ways to cope while she’s gone? I’d love to hear about them if you wanted to share. If it’s too hard, I understand and that’s okay.
You’ll get through this.
(And you’re not pathetic at all. Your zombied brain is a way to protect yourself. Protecting yourself is a very good thing. And with time you will learn more and better ways to protect yourself.)
You *will* get through this. And your T will be waiting for you on the other side.
Posted by Daisym on March 8, 2007, at 12:33:25
In reply to Re: NOW I figgered it, when T is away long time... » Iwillsurvive, posted by littleone on March 7, 2007, at 19:42:40
I do the same thing. Sometimes reading Babble is so painful, especially when I'm struggling with therapy and others are able to do it so much more gracefully than I...
I agree with the others, you aren't pathetic. You are doing exactly what your therapist would want you to do, protect yourself and keep it together as much as you can while she is away.
We need a thread that could be fun. I'll try to think of one.
Posted by Iwillsurvive on March 15, 2007, at 22:40:02
In reply to Re: NOW I figgered it, when T is away long time..., posted by wishingstar on March 7, 2007, at 9:00:38
Posted by Iwillsurvive on March 15, 2007, at 22:47:55
In reply to Re: NOW I figgered it, when T is away long time... » Iwillsurvive, posted by littleone on March 7, 2007, at 19:42:40
> I think it is important to try to minimise your triggers while you don’t have the support of your T nearby. So it’s okay to pull back and avoid threads/posts/posters that could send you into a spin.
**Yup keeping on the straight and narrow.
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> But don’t forget that even while you do that, babble can still help you if you’d like it to. We can talk about safe things too. Like camp comfort, or your mossy place, or whole new wonderful places. Keeping a warm connection to people who care about you could help soothe you a bit.*:) DEfinately
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> Did you end up going to your last T session? I know you were thinking about ditching it. Did you and your T end up talking about ways to cope while she’s gone? I’d love to hear about them if you wanted to share.*My T was caught up in some hard family stuff before she went, and in the last few sessions I was on 'perfectly well adjusted' mode so she wouldn't worry none. I'd already disconnected from her. So for those reasons no real plans were made. I did not goto last appt, I truly saw no point, and I think it was the right thing, for all the reasons above, I don't think we would have accomplished much if I had gone.
> You’ll get through this.*yes i will, I am doing good! HA!!!!
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> (And you’re not pathetic at all. Your zombied brain is a way to protect yourself. Protecting yourself is a very good thing. And with time you will learn more and better ways to protect yourself.)*ya, she's taught me some good stuff, and now I don't dissociate so much its actually sinking in!
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> You *will* get through this. And your T will be waiting for you on the other side.
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*Ya...I kinda DON'T want her to come back!!LOL!! I am so fickle, but then I'll have to deal with the kid AND I DON'T WANT TO.
But I am sick of wallowing. We don't want to be like this anymore.
Thanks for reply littleone :)
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