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Posted by Happyflower on December 26, 2006, at 13:38:54
Stay away from Administration if you don't want to be threatened with abuse, or harrassed or blackmailed, or be stressed when rules are not followed, and when you try to follow them, you get threatened to be taken outside!
Wow, and I didn't even do anything wrong, just like at home when my mom used to take me outside and beat the sh*t of me.
Why do abused people pick places to feel like our abusive home? Damn and I thought I stopped that cycle of abuse. But coming here is just like asking for some more. I hate it, abuse isn't funny. I give up. I am going away. Sh*t!
Why do the bad guys always win? Why are the bad guys always protected? When will the cyle of abuse stop everywhere? When will joking about abuse stop being funny? When will destructive manipulating behavior stop being allowed? I give up, I am going far far away. I will never allow anyone to abuse me, not ever! I expected more from this site, some of the deputies, and especially Dr. Bob, I am extremely disapointed.
Posted by Frida on December 26, 2006, at 14:35:45
In reply to My T was right TRIGGER internet sites can be bad, posted by Happyflower on December 26, 2006, at 13:38:54
Happyflower,
we haven't talked much but your post brought tears to my eyes.It's true that we somehow unconsciously look for places where we'll be hurt again because it's what we've always known =(
I am sorry you felt triggered and bad there..
Abuse isn't funny and should never be taken lightly. how painful that it is ...
Sending you support,
Frida
Posted by jammerlich on December 26, 2006, at 14:47:13
In reply to My T was right TRIGGER internet sites can be bad, posted by Happyflower on December 26, 2006, at 13:38:54
Happyflower, you're right, they can be bad. But, they can be good, too. Do you think there's any way you could find ways to minimize the bad stuff here so you can still stick around for the good parts? I wish you could. I'd really miss you if you didn't come around.
The ignore feature in chat is pretty handy. And, there's always the option of deleting babblemail without opening it. Maybe other people can come up with better suggestions.
As for the "take you outside" comment, that wouldn't sit well with me either. I was once asked if I was "ready for a spanking"; and, while I'm sure the person probably meant nothing by it, it still leaves a sour taste in my mouth.
Posted by caraher on December 26, 2006, at 17:45:00
In reply to Re: My T was right TRIGGER internet sites can be bad » Happyflower, posted by jammerlich on December 26, 2006, at 14:47:13
Admin is not for the faint of heart. To the extent that you can steer clear of it, I highly recommend sensitive folks do so. I avoid it myself!
I don't know what happened to you, hf, so maybe that wasn't possible. But I'm sorry you're so upset! ((hf))
Posted by Tamar on December 26, 2006, at 21:16:46
In reply to My T was right TRIGGER internet sites can be bad, posted by Happyflower on December 26, 2006, at 13:38:54
I'm sorry you're hurting.
Posted by muffled on December 26, 2006, at 21:39:17
In reply to My T was right TRIGGER internet sites can be bad, posted by Happyflower on December 26, 2006, at 13:38:54
(((((Happyflower))))
I understand your aggravation. Just read Admin :-(
Andmin frustrates me so bad and sometimes I can take it and sometimes I can't...
It seems when I LEAST able to handle admin that I am the most UNABLE to keep away...
But it wouyld seem w/DNP you are supposed to be covered and you can report infractions?.....
So PLEASE don't leave. I love to see your name on the boards.
Come back when you can.
How are things IRL? You can e-mail me if you want.
I have found that babble triggers me most when i gto something stressing me :-(
Hope your OK.
Take care,
Muffled
Posted by ClearSkies on December 26, 2006, at 23:27:43
In reply to My T was right TRIGGER internet sites can be bad, posted by Happyflower on December 26, 2006, at 13:38:54
Hi, Happyflower.
I am easily triggered by feeling that I'm being treated unfairly (which makes ya wonder why I'm a deputy, but that's another story). I do want to point out that the deputies are posters, too. I know that the reason I participate is primarily for support. For me, becoming a deputy didn't make my own issues go away. A bad day of depression and anxiety is all-encompassing. If I was accused of threatening someone in my deputy role when that wasn't what I had posted, I would be really upset. Personally, I think that the post about everybody being taken outside was meant to lighten the mood, rather than to make a threat to anyone. That's my take, anyhow.I don't often talk about babble in therapy. Without printing all the posts for her to read, I don't believe that she can really comprehend what the babble "experience" is like for me; good and bad.
Posted by Happyflower on December 27, 2006, at 9:21:38
In reply to Re: My T was right TRIGGER internet sites can be bad » Happyflower, posted by Frida on December 26, 2006, at 14:35:45
Thanks Frida for you support,
I haven't made any decisions yet, I am hoping something will be done about this problem.I think enough is enough, another posters has also been treated this way too by the same person, and nothing was done either, so I guess my hoping is probably futile.
Thanks again
Happyflower
Posted by Happyflower on December 27, 2006, at 9:28:23
In reply to Re: My T was right TRIGGER internet sites can be bad » Happyflower, posted by jammerlich on December 26, 2006, at 14:47:13
> Happyflower, you're right, they can be bad. But, they can be good, too. Do you think there's any way you could find ways to minimize the bad stuff here so you can still stick around for the good parts?
I am trying, I reported it, athough I didn't know I had to do it exactly in a certain way. Reading babble rules is like trying to read an instruction manal for a computer.
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> The ignore feature in chat is pretty handy. And, there's always the option of deleting babblemail without opening it. Maybe other people can come up with better suggestions.I have tried using these messure, hopefully the actions will stop, but they haven't yet.
> As for the "take you outside" comment, that wouldn't sit well with me either. I was once asked if I was "ready for a spanking"; and, while I'm sure the person probably meant nothing by it, it still leaves a sour taste in my mouth.I don't think this comment should of ever been made on a mental health site, especially by a deputy. Threatening or even using in a joke like fashion isn't funny, especially to those who have been abused, which are many on this site.
Posted by Happyflower on December 27, 2006, at 9:29:33
In reply to (((((Happyflower))))) » Happyflower, posted by Tamar on December 26, 2006, at 21:16:46
Thanks, I am trying to deal with this by protesting, don't know if will do anything, but I am trying to change the site for the good of the people.
Posted by Happyflower on December 27, 2006, at 9:31:55
In reply to Re: My T was right TRIGGER internet sites can be bad » Happyflower, posted by muffled on December 26, 2006, at 21:39:17
Thanks Muffy,
I am okay I guess. I guess I am triggered by antisocial personality disorder because of my mom. When I see these behaviors directed at me, I feel scared especially when nothing is done to protect the innocent.
Thanks muffy,
Iwill write more later.
Happyflower
Posted by gardenergirl on December 27, 2006, at 12:20:40
In reply to Re: My T was right TRIGGER internet sites can be bad » jammerlich, posted by Happyflower on December 27, 2006, at 9:28:23
I've redirected a few of the posts from this thread to the Admin board since they are related to posting policies versus coping. Here is a link to the posts there: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20061202/msgs/716679.html
Thanks,
gg acting as deputy
Posted by finelinebob on December 27, 2006, at 19:41:58
In reply to Re: My T was right TRIGGER internet sites can be bad » jammerlich, posted by Happyflower on December 27, 2006, at 9:28:23
> ... Reading babble rules is like trying to read an instruction manal for a computer.
I had a bicycle manual for an expensive bike I bought a long time ago. On one of my recent moves, I finally decided to throw it away (many years after getting rid of the bike), but I took a peek inside. Right there on page one was this:
"When all else fails, it's too late to read the manual."
We're all here because no one ever gave us a manual or our parents one or our DNA one for that matter. Some people are going to drive you away because THEIR problems aggravate yours. Others are going to draw you here because their problems give you insight into YOURS ... or maybe you just want to make up for not getting a manual and share something you figured out on your own.
You're not responsible for the actions of other people's Beasts. It's hard enough to be responsible for our own. But when something really upsets you, remember the spirit in which it was given -- the Beast was probably talking, not the soul co-residing with it.
flb
Posted by Dinah on December 27, 2006, at 19:58:00
In reply to Re: My T was right TRIGGER internet sites can be bad, posted by finelinebob on December 27, 2006, at 19:41:58
I like that.
Posted by 10derHeart on December 27, 2006, at 21:43:01
In reply to Re: My T was right TRIGGER internet sites can be bad, posted by finelinebob on December 27, 2006, at 19:41:58
Posted by rip van periwinkle on December 27, 2006, at 21:52:21
In reply to Re: My T was right TRIGGER internet sites can be bad, posted by finelinebob on December 27, 2006, at 19:41:58
I mean between ourselves and other people and vice versa
Posted by finelinebob on December 27, 2006, at 22:28:12
In reply to 'tis a 'fine line' we walk isn't it? ;-).........., posted by rip van periwinkle on December 27, 2006, at 21:52:21
... or between patient understanding and ***incivility deleted***.
Posted by rip van periwinkle on December 27, 2006, at 22:43:14
In reply to Re: 'tis a 'fine line' we walk isn't it? ;-).........., posted by finelinebob on December 27, 2006, at 22:28:12
'incivility deleted' Yes!!
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