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Posted by Meri-Tuuli on November 6, 2006, at 12:02:03
Hey nice people on therapy board, I need some help.
Is it common to feel like rubbish when you come out of your therapists office? I always feel so rubbish and vunerable and like I've sold my soul to the devil. I find it quite hard telling her all my initmate feelings and then for her to say 'okay, time's up...'. It doesn't seem natural somehow.
Mind you, I've only been to three sessions so far. And this is the first time 'in therapy'. So its scary! Although I've suffered for god knows how long.........
Kind regards
Meri
Posted by muffled on November 6, 2006, at 13:03:14
In reply to New to therapy....help!!, posted by Meri-Tuuli on November 6, 2006, at 12:02:03
> Is it common to feel like rubbish when you come out of your therapists office? I always feel so rubbish and vunerable and like I've sold my soul to the devil. I find it quite hard telling her all my initmate feelings and then for her to say 'okay, time's up...'. It doesn't seem natural somehow.
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> Mind you, I've only been to three sessions so far. And this is the first time 'in therapy'. So its scary! Although I've suffered for god knows how long.........**Well, I dunno. Mebbe you need to build up more of a 'relationship' connection with your T. So it feels less like you talking to some stranger on the street...?
Not all T's are a good fit. And even good fit T's can feel bad sometimes...
Your T should also have some sensitivity for the time, and not get into hard stuff too late in the session...
Best thing I have found is to be brutally honest when you can, and just flat out tell her how you feel bout it. You could take in this post. And when you talk about it, then that helps build the relationship w/your t.and that hopefully will make it seem less impersonal and trashy for you.
As your T gets to know you, she will proly get better at 'reading' your body language etc, and better know how to progress at times...
And when to back off....
Hope all goes well w/you. I think its wonderful that you are able to talk, I a non-talker, I must be awfully annoying at times...
Muffled
Posted by Meri-Tuuli on November 6, 2006, at 13:10:26
In reply to Re: New to therapy....help!!, posted by muffled on November 6, 2006, at 13:03:14
Hey, thanks for the advice. Yeah, trouble is, I'm all so new at this talking/therapy stuff, its kinda strange. I see what you mean about the building a relationship. Trouble is, I don't know how long I can see her for - I get 5 sessions free, then after that I pay like 4 bucks/time or something but I get the feeling that they kinda deceide for you or something so I feel like I kinda have to get it all out while I can, if that makes sense.
Anyway there is difficulties because T is not a native english speaker and I am. Her english isn't that good to be honest, although we get by. Obviously there is alot of scope for misinterpretations and things like that.....
But thanks muffled.
Meri
Posted by canadagirl on November 6, 2006, at 17:48:33
In reply to Re: New to therapy....help!! » muffled, posted by Meri-Tuuli on November 6, 2006, at 13:10:26
Hi Meri-Tuuli are you sure you're not me??? I don't get it either. (Therapy).
I can relate to the spill your guts and then time's up, see ya next week. I'm on a time limited course of therapy too so I feel like I have to get everything out too. Mine doesn't even remember anything from one session to the next. I've had it; I can function well enough, so it's time to leave well enough alone.
For you, keep trying if you need to and yes it is all pretty strange at first I think.
Posted by Dinah on November 6, 2006, at 17:50:07
In reply to New to therapy....help!!, posted by Meri-Tuuli on November 6, 2006, at 12:02:03
Yeah. It's quite normal. I feel that way a lot, even now.
One thing I've found that helps is to keep an eye on the clock, and start winding down ten minutes or so from the end. Like surfacing slowly in the ocean so you don't get the bends.
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