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Posted by sunnydays on October 12, 2006, at 21:32:51
Why am doing this therapy thing? It's so hard to have someone be so important to me and not be that important to them. I just want to be as important as he is to me. But I know it can't and won't happen, so I don't think I can even bring it up. It just hurts so much.
not so sunny
Posted by canadagirl on October 13, 2006, at 7:49:01
In reply to why?, posted by sunnydays on October 12, 2006, at 21:32:51
Posted by canadagirl on October 13, 2006, at 7:53:51
In reply to why?, posted by sunnydays on October 12, 2006, at 21:32:51
Oh this technology is too advanced for me. LOL
I was going to say, in my previous message, that it seems this type of feeling is very common in therapy and probably most of us have felt similar feelings to yours at one time or another. The idea is, to push past the hurt if we can and get it all out on the table. When our feelings start seeing the light of day, (discussing them) that's when we can usually start dealing with them better.
Posted by Dinah on October 13, 2006, at 7:58:53
In reply to why?, posted by sunnydays on October 12, 2006, at 21:32:51
I know. :(
It really does help to talk about them with a *good* therapist. But I don't ever think it totally takes away the pain. How could it?
But it's not the only situation in life like that. Have you ever remained friends with someone you wouldn't have minded being more than friends with, just because the friendship was worthwhile enough to contain the bittersweet quality of having some but not all of what you want from it?
Posted by bent on October 13, 2006, at 10:51:48
In reply to why?, posted by sunnydays on October 12, 2006, at 21:32:51
i have been asking that same question recently. i am finding therapy to be very difficult for a few weeks now. i know its not that i want my t to be my friend or anything. i just want her to care about me. i want to be special/important to her. it hurts so much...and then that question pops back up...why am i even doing this?
i have been slowly trying to make myself talk to my t about this. its so hard. have you talked at all about it with him? just this week i began to bring up this issue. we didnt get too far but my t said we would come back to it next week. i am running short of time right now but i want to post about my session later. my dysfunctional approach probabaly wont help you but please know i understand how it hurts.
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