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Posted by happyflower on August 16, 2006, at 14:49:04
I just am tired of hurting and tired of everyone hurting me including my T . I totally give up. It will just be better this way, I don't need a goodbye party from my T , why not just stop. He thinks he can't be of help anymore, so why delay the inevidible? I give up on therapy, I am just going to stay f*cked up and live that way, why try for more? I think I will just hide in my hole for awhile. life sucks
Posted by Dinah on August 16, 2006, at 15:27:32
In reply to I cancelled my T appointment, posted by happyflower on August 16, 2006, at 14:49:04
I take it the chiropractor wasn't overly helpful?
I think it maybe sounds like you have some unfinished business with him over that comment. I doubt he meant it in a hurtful way. Maybe he was being defensive?
It doesn't sound like a good note to end a long term relationship on.
But I could be wrong. I wasn't there.
Posted by annierose on August 16, 2006, at 16:01:30
In reply to I cancelled my T appointment, posted by happyflower on August 16, 2006, at 14:49:04
I think that the best way to work out these feelings is usually by working them out with your T. Of course, some therapists are better trained or have a better ability than others to help their clients with these intense feelings we develop for them (both positive and negative).
I'm not sure how you feel your T is at handling them. And I don't think he intended for you to quit mid-stream. I think he meant the opposite. He wanted to make sure you planned this out.
Posted by crazy teresa on August 16, 2006, at 18:22:15
In reply to I cancelled my T appointment, posted by happyflower on August 16, 2006, at 14:49:04
You've put a lot of effort, tears, time and money into feeling better. Why give up now? I bet he never told you it would be easy...
Posted by happyflower on August 16, 2006, at 19:01:32
In reply to Re: I cancelled my T appointment » happyflower, posted by crazy teresa on August 16, 2006, at 18:22:15
He says there isn't much more he can do. He promised me he would work with me and not give up on me. Now he wants me to terminate, I am not totally better yet. He has had enough working with me and I don't see the point in continuing to see him. It will not ever be a happy ending, the end will feel the same.
Posted by Dinah on August 16, 2006, at 19:08:53
In reply to he has given up on me, posted by happyflower on August 16, 2006, at 19:01:32
Sweetie, didn't you bring it up?
I know he shouldn't have done anything to make it seem he thought it was a fine idea, because that's just not too empathetic of him. Sometimes I'd like to teach therapists what clients really want from them.
But don't forget that it was your idea first.
He wasn't trying to ditch you.
Posted by happyflower on August 16, 2006, at 19:09:48
In reply to he has given up on me, posted by happyflower on August 16, 2006, at 19:01:32
Thank you all who have been there for me over the last year or so but I must leave babble.
Posted by Poet on August 16, 2006, at 19:15:35
In reply to never mind anyways, posted by happyflower on August 16, 2006, at 19:09:48
uh, uh, no. I am stomping my size eight foot so hard it's going to go through the floor. Why do you think you have to leave babble? I know you're hurting, but maybe we could help you get through your therapist nightmare. Really, give us a shot, okay?
One incredibly hard and long cyber slap directly to your therapist's head.
Poet
Posted by sunnydays on August 16, 2006, at 19:15:55
In reply to never mind anyways, posted by happyflower on August 16, 2006, at 19:09:48
(((((happyflower)))))
please take care of yourself, whether you're at babble or not. You soooooo deserve it. Remember, people here care about you. We don't want to see you hurting. (((happyflower)))
sunnydays
Posted by Dinah on August 16, 2006, at 19:16:10
In reply to never mind anyways, posted by happyflower on August 16, 2006, at 19:09:48
Happyflower, i've got to eat now. But I'll be in babblechat later if you want to talk.
Posted by happyflower on August 16, 2006, at 20:22:30
In reply to Re: never mind anyways, posted by Dinah on August 16, 2006, at 19:16:10
Thanks Dinah for talking to me in chat. I will call tonight and leave a message for him to get in the morning. I hope he calls back.
Posted by happyflower on August 16, 2006, at 20:23:57
In reply to Oh, No You Don't » happyflower, posted by Poet on August 16, 2006, at 19:15:35
Thanks poet,
I never knew I could laugh and cry at the same time. But thanks it released some stress. ;-) I guess I am just a basket case lately.
Posted by happyflower on August 16, 2006, at 20:24:54
In reply to Re: never mind anyways, posted by sunnydays on August 16, 2006, at 19:15:55
Thanks for the support sunnydays. I think I will stick around and not hide like I always want to do when I feel so bad. I am going to call my T .
Posted by happyflower on August 16, 2006, at 20:31:32
In reply to Re: never mind anyways, posted by happyflower on August 16, 2006, at 20:24:54
Posted by happyflower on August 17, 2006, at 8:45:47
In reply to above post for sunnydays (nm), posted by happyflower on August 16, 2006, at 20:31:32
I didn't sleep well all night, I had horrible dreams, woke up a lot. I finally got up at 8:30, normally I am up by 6am.
I called my T and left a voice mail at his office. He normally calls me back in the morning. I asked for an appointment ASAP, don't know it I will get in before Monday though because in the summer he takes Fridays off.
I am sitting here drinking coffee in such a daze. My DH is home this week and he made breakfast. It was good, but I feel like going back to bed. My life feels like an emotional rollercoaster.
Posted by Poet on August 17, 2006, at 8:51:49
In reply to Re: Oh, No You Don't » Poet, posted by happyflower on August 16, 2006, at 20:23:57
Hi Happyflower,
Pass the reeds or whatever they make baskets out of I'll weave one with you.
Let us know what your T says. I hope he tells you he has a bad headache today.
Poet
Posted by happyflower on August 17, 2006, at 8:53:37
In reply to Re: Oh, No You Don't » happyflower, posted by Poet on August 17, 2006, at 8:51:49
oh, poet, you should be a comedian instead. LOL
Maybe I need to order that running photo of him and throw darts at him. ;-)
Posted by LadyBug on August 17, 2006, at 10:21:37
In reply to i feel so drained this morning, posted by happyflower on August 17, 2006, at 8:45:47
Happyflower
Why does this have to be so hard????? I hope you get a call back from him and he can see you today. And if you do get to see him, that it helps you!!!! Please don't leave babble. We haven't hurt you have we? Or at least I don't think I have and I would miss you a lot. You and I have some things in common and so I understand what you are going through. I find comfort in babble even though I don't post enough. I'm going through a very hard struggle with therapy at the moment. I called my T yesterday and told her I wanted to take a break. I told her I would talk to her in Sept. and go from there. She called me back, left me a message as well, saying she thought we should chat, that taking a break wasn't a good idea right now. I'm wondering if she is just thinking of her pocket book. I told her I wasn't feeling my self emotionally from all that I've gone through with my surgeries and I didn't think things were going well between her and I. They aren't. Sorry to make this about me. It's heavy on my mind today. I'm at work, my appointment is tonight, and I don't know what to tell her? I don't want to go. I'm mad at her anyway, that's more the reason I want to take a break.
Let me know what happens next ok?
It's so FREAKIN hard!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hang in there, so will I.
Hugs
LadyBug
Posted by susan47 on August 17, 2006, at 18:41:05
In reply to I cancelled my T appointment, posted by happyflower on August 16, 2006, at 14:49:04
Yes, I can relate to that oh boy. M-hm, yes, sometimes it is Better to cover your head with the blanket and shut the world out. Out World, Out, World, Out.
Posted by happyflower on August 17, 2006, at 20:08:04
In reply to Re: I cancelled my T appointment, posted by susan47 on August 17, 2006, at 18:41:05
I m a little drunk right now. LOL but he did call late morning. He didn't book my orginal appointment, it is mine. H e sai d he is going out of town on friday and on Tuesday to tak ehi daugher to collage so I am lucky I still have monday.
I don't know, I feel like just blasting him with everything, my thouhts my feelings, and everything. Hold on to your seats, sh*t is going to happen. I need him, especailly now. but right now I am planning a bon fire with teh my DH and kdis. My dh isn't such an *ss when I am druunk. Oh well the little f*cker. Did I say I hate his gusts.
Posted by happyflower on August 17, 2006, at 20:10:56
In reply to he called today, posted by happyflower on August 17, 2006, at 20:08:04
I love my T he is so beaututifl. He will save me . I need him, even thought he wants to f*ck my brains out, he still cares. He is the best T I could ever deal with . xoxooxoxoxo why does he have to be so damn cute?
Posted by happyflower on August 17, 2006, at 20:12:48
In reply to he called today, posted by happyflower on August 17, 2006, at 20:08:04
just ignor eme I don't know what I am saying but it feels so damn good. maybe I should drink more. belevdere martini and merlot wine and DH is going to get some kaulula , yum. I don't care I just want to get totally f*cked up. It feels good.
Posted by happyflower on August 17, 2006, at 20:13:43
In reply to he called today, posted by happyflower on August 17, 2006, at 20:08:04
but he better not try to touch me or it will be penis in the jar poem that I wrote. Haaaaa
Posted by susan47 on August 17, 2006, at 21:22:59
In reply to Re: he called today, posted by happyflower on August 17, 2006, at 20:13:43
I haven't laughed this hard in years.
I LOVE YOU!!!!Yes, and I wish your T would get a good f*cking-over from you and the best thing that could happen is that he'd get as pissed as you are and you both have a f*cking great time and you f*ck each other's *ss off and forget about it the next day.
Oh yeah.
Forever and ever yum yum.
Yummy yum yum use your DH baby, lights out just use the hell out of him but make sure you don't get pregnant ... hahahaha.
Oh hell.
F*ck his brains out and yell out any old name you want to.
I love you when you're pissed.
Posted by susan47 on August 17, 2006, at 21:26:32
In reply to he called today, posted by happyflower on August 17, 2006, at 20:08:04
Just makes me so hot, soooo hot for my ex-T I need to get out the vibrator the movies the books .. oh sometimes solo sex can be fun but un-satisfying to some degree, oh yes.
At least I have privacy,
hahahahahahaaAA
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