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Posted by thewrite1 on August 9, 2006, at 13:59:06
My T is on vacation. Under normal circumstances, this wouldn't be so much of a problem. We're working toward termination, which will probably happen some time in the spring or summer. The last phone session I had with her, she told me that she felt I was pulling away from her. I think she may have felt that way because I have missed a few sessions recently. I've always been super good about going, but I had valid reasons for missing. One day I had an emergency with my son, another I just couldn't make it around my work schedule. I have a very limited window in which I can see her due to not having anyone to watch my son, plus she's 75 miles away. So I explained all that to her (and felt bad that I'd missed sessions). She said we needed to have a plan and for the time being, and she thought we should see each other every week.
The whole thing just kind of made me feel like she thought I was trying to blow her off, but I agreed. Then I went in to see her the following week and she immediately hit me with, "I'm not available next week. I'm going on vacation." I just feel so toyed with. Like, I want you to be here every week, but I'm not available. I know she's not doing that, but it feels that way. I guess I don't understand why she didn't tell me when we were talking previously on the phone. Surely she knew she was going on vacation then. Ugh. I hate how this whole thing is making me feel.
Posted by annierose on August 9, 2006, at 16:02:19
In reply to vacation blues, posted by thewrite1 on August 9, 2006, at 13:59:06
I would feel frustrated as well. It was kind of her to let you know that she felt you were pulling away - that you mattered to her. Yes, she probably should have mentioned the vacation part on the phone. If only our Ts could read our minds about what would be helpful.
You do drive a long distance to see her. That shows commitment on your part as well. I hope her vacation passes quickly.
Posted by Dinah on August 9, 2006, at 19:59:25
In reply to vacation blues, posted by thewrite1 on August 9, 2006, at 13:59:06
I hate it too. I hate it so much that I ask my therapist at the beginning of every session if he has anything to tell me.
I suppose it's possible that she was focusing so much on your rescheduling that she forgot her own. But I don't suppose that helps any.
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