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Posted by mmealltalk on July 20, 2006, at 18:38:20
i couldnt take my t being away anylonger and i thought i would just go crazy. So, i took a trip for a week, beginning today. (I have computer access) so i would have a change in schenary. The bottom line is, i still miss my t like hell though. I wish i was able to see her, i mean now i cant for at least a week because i am a 3hr plane ride away, but still, i am dying to see her. Why her breaks are so hard for me is so aggravating. My kind psydoc makes it out like my t wouldnt see me if she knew how insane i got without her, actually in fairness, she said my t wouldnt see me if i hurt myself while she was gone, but whatever, the point is, my psydoc isnt a comfort in that respect. Anyway, it doesnt matter where i am i still miss my t!
Posted by Dinah on July 20, 2006, at 18:51:58
In reply to t- away so i'm away, posted by mmealltalk on July 20, 2006, at 18:38:20
Sounds like a healthy plan. :) I wish I could do it.
Posted by canadagirl on July 20, 2006, at 21:38:44
In reply to t- away so i'm away, posted by mmealltalk on July 20, 2006, at 18:38:20
The missing is hard; try to enjoy your mini vacation and maybe think about all that you'd like to talk about when you see your T again. Maybe write some of it down. Might help a bit.
Posted by pegasus on July 21, 2006, at 12:29:08
In reply to t- away so i'm away, posted by mmealltalk on July 20, 2006, at 18:38:20
It is hard, isn't it. Going away yourself is probably a good plan, but I know what you mean about it not helping with the missing. You really need to be at camp comfort this week. That's the only thing that seems like it would really help, to me. 'Cause there you can talk about therapy and missing your T all you want, and other people can understand and help.
peg
Posted by mmealltalk on July 25, 2006, at 14:24:19
In reply to t- away so i'm away, posted by mmealltalk on July 20, 2006, at 18:38:20
My T who is on vacation, and never would dream of calling me during her break, called me today because she has to reschedule our first appt when she gets back, which is next Monday. I was so stunned when she called all i could ask was whether i did something wrong. I was so stunned. Then, after we got off the phone i thought about what i had done by changing the appt, and i thought, i am really mad at her for leaving me for the month, why am i accomodating her and rescheduling the appt for earlier in the day? Let her figure something else out... I was so happy to talk to her that i agreed, but in retrospect i have so much anger toward her that i dont want to be accomodating. I left a message on her machine, which she wont get until next monday that i regret changing the time of the appt and if its possible, i'd like my regular time back. Let her miss her grand daughter's dance or whatever else she is rescheduling for, she doesnt seem to care about what she is doing to me! I know i am mad, but... I cant take this break!
Posted by mmealltalk on July 25, 2006, at 19:06:10
In reply to T called me!!!!!! And I caused trouble., posted by mmealltalk on July 25, 2006, at 14:24:19
She left me a message on my home machine, knowing that i am a plane ride away from home, saying that she cannot see me at our regular time and that if i dont want to 'accomodate' her due to my anger, i can wait an additional 3 days until our next scheduled appt to meet. I havent seen her all month so there is no way that i am waiting another second let alone another few days before meeting with her. So, I called her back and left a message for her that i would be avilable at the time she requested. I apologized for acting so immature about the whole thing, i am just very angry about her break's length but i do not want her to be mad at me. Anyhow, now that i started trouble with her, i feel real crummy, but i do feel like, she deserted me all month with no regard for how i felt, and i always accomodate her changes in times so she deserves for me to not change times. Oh well, usually she says if i cant change times its ok, i guess she really had something important to do this time.
Posted by Dinah on July 25, 2006, at 19:40:15
In reply to T called me!!!!!! And I caused trouble., posted by mmealltalk on July 25, 2006, at 14:24:19
I understand your anger. I often accomodate my therapist's change in schedules, even when it's not as convenient for me. And sometimes I get angry at my submissiveness.
But I also try to remember that he tries to accomodate me on those few circumstances where I ask him to. Does your therapist do that as well?
And of course I'm always more angry with him when he's been gone. He understands, and I'm sure your therapist will understand as well.
I'm glad the vacation is almost over. Things will be better when you have time to talk.
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