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Posted by happyflower on June 1, 2006, at 19:33:34
It isn't my fault that I am suffering effects of my parents abuse. I was a defenseless child who did the best I could to stay alive.
I guess you can't live through the "holocost" my parents put me through with out it effecting me now . I need to heal, I need to do this for myself. I have been in therapy only 1 1/2 years, so I can't expect to heal a childhood full of hate and abuse in such a short time.
Posted by orchid on June 1, 2006, at 19:40:07
In reply to IT IS NOT MY FAULT, posted by happyflower on June 1, 2006, at 19:33:34
It certainly isn't your fault. And I definitely agree, 1 and a half years is not enough for healing. It will take quite a while. It took me a lot longer to understand many things about myself.
I read that you would like to stay with your T, and it might be the right thing for you to do. Our opinions should only be given little bit of weightage - since we really don't know either you or your T fully. And I hope it goes well for you.
Posted by happyflower on June 1, 2006, at 20:02:35
In reply to Re: IT IS NOT MY FAULT » happyflower, posted by orchid on June 1, 2006, at 19:40:07
Thanks Orchid for understanding or even if you don't, thanks for your support. ;-)
Posted by orchid on June 1, 2006, at 20:09:17
In reply to Re: IT IS NOT MY FAULT » orchid, posted by happyflower on June 1, 2006, at 20:02:35
Grin :-)
I think you are right. I don't understand that much. But I wish you well.I was just thinking back to where I was 1 and a half years into my therapy, and I wasn't even 1/10 th of where you are in terms of understanding things and doing stuff. I wasn't even seeking so much support here in babble at that time.
Posted by Poet on June 1, 2006, at 20:32:58
In reply to IT IS NOT MY FAULT, posted by happyflower on June 1, 2006, at 19:33:34
Hi Happyflower,
It's absolutely not your fault. It's in no way your fault that healing takes time, either. I think emotional wounds heal slowly, because they are so easy to rip open again and again. I know I pick at mine all the time.
My problem is that I am not a patient person. I want instant fixes and that will never happen, but I still want it!
Poet
Posted by curtm on June 1, 2006, at 21:18:05
In reply to IT IS NOT MY FAULT, posted by happyflower on June 1, 2006, at 19:33:34
Posted by rubenstein on June 1, 2006, at 23:18:15
In reply to IT IS NOT MY FAULT, posted by happyflower on June 1, 2006, at 19:33:34
That must be so hard. You are taking the right steps but it isn't fair and I feel for you.
Hugs
rachel
Posted by madeline on June 2, 2006, at 7:46:21
In reply to IT IS NOT MY FAULT, posted by happyflower on June 1, 2006, at 19:33:34
It certainly isn't your fault. What you carry now shouldn't belong to you as it is not yours to bear.
It's so strange how abuse just digs into your back isn't it?
But bit by bit, those hooks will let go and leave love in its place.
Believe me, this happens. Trust the process, trust yourself, grieve, rage, cry and love.
You will make it through this.
All my love to you
Maddie
Posted by fairywings on June 5, 2006, at 0:53:14
In reply to Re: IT IS NOT MY FAULT » happyflower, posted by madeline on June 2, 2006, at 7:46:21
I'm glad you were able to go back to therapy hf, it took guts to go back when you were so worried. I'm glad it went well, and hopefully he'll be able to help you with everything you have going on.
Way to go on the 5K race you ran today!
fw
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