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Posted by B2chica on April 21, 2006, at 12:43:09
ok...ii've been dwelling and dwelling on the subject of my T for quite some time and i've finally decided to act. i just keep wondering if my T is really going to do anything for me. i had session wed and it went well, i even shared a poem with her but she kept asking me to explain it...and my gut reaction is i don't explain it you just feel it...but i was nice and tried to explain...anyway, after the session she said well i thought this was a really good session...i just kept thinking well, nice i'm glad i entertained you for an hour... yes i'm a bit irritable. but anyway, i just keep asking what am i getting from it. with old T i would leave with new insight or things to think about, or would allow me to think and prompt new needs for next week...but i don't now.
ANYWAY, i've grabbed the old phone book and started hunting again, i've got two appt next week. one with a female and one with a male. yes i know my old T really encouraged me the female cuz of some of my issues but today...i'm such a dumb @ss sometimes. i called the guy T's office and was taken off guard when he answered his own phone, i kept stuttering my words..he probably thinks i have slight mental retardation after our phone conversation, but he was funny and really nice. it's weird but i almost felt releif just talking with him on the phone. i CAN'T hellp it! i'm just SOOOO much more comfortable talking to guys.anyway. i'm trying again and i wanted to let you all know...i'll keep you updated on what's going on.
Posted by orchid on April 21, 2006, at 13:44:31
In reply to headed out there again, posted by B2chica on April 21, 2006, at 12:43:09
I think you are doing the right thing by shopping for a new T. You have been unhappy with the current one for quite some time, and I think a new T may be just what you need.
I have my reservations about going to a male T. Personally I would never again go to a male T. Not worth all the other issues that come with it. But for all I know, I could be wrong and it might work out really well for you.
Hoping you will find a wonderful T this time.
Take Care
Orchid
Posted by curtm on April 21, 2006, at 15:07:31
In reply to headed out there again, posted by B2chica on April 21, 2006, at 12:43:09
I prefer a female T, but that could be the parent-child relationship that low self esteem brings about (needing to feel mothered.) It also works the other way, too. Mama's boy/Daddy's girl
I'm not suggesting you are.
Posted by madeline on April 21, 2006, at 16:15:16
In reply to headed out there again, posted by B2chica on April 21, 2006, at 12:43:09
If you feel more comfortable talking to guys, then maybe that is where you should be, no matter what anyone else has to say about it.
Give it is shot, for me, I could never go to a female T, too many judgement and mother issues here.
Posted by ghost on April 21, 2006, at 16:55:27
In reply to headed out there again, posted by B2chica on April 21, 2006, at 12:43:09
good for you, b2c!!! those are awesome steps.
i know how you feel about the new T. after the "novelty" of my last T wore off, i'd leave there going, "wow, i just wasted an hour of my life." or "wow, i just made that woman's car payment this month." or something like that. anyhow. yeah. it's just like "what am *i* getting out of this?" at first there was some insights and i did leave thinking about things and trying new tricks. once we got beyond that and i felt she couldnt help me, i really wasted my time. like a year of my time, if i counted right.
i can also understand your gender preferences. i prefer females but it's because i don't trust males as a general rule. (sorry, guys. i can't help it.) i don't think there's anything wrong with preferring one gender over the other-- everyone's different.
good lucky searching!!
Posted by milly on April 22, 2006, at 5:56:07
In reply to headed out there again, posted by B2chica on April 21, 2006, at 12:43:09
Wishing you all the best in your search, you certainly gave it a far go and I admire you for being able to 'start again' again
milly
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