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Posted by annierose on April 10, 2006, at 20:21:47
Today I noticed that I was talking about myself as if I was reporting about someone else's life. I wasn't using the third person, but it was as if I was. Has anyone else ever done that?
I told my T that I was experiencing that. She explained it can be a way to distance yourself from the pain you are feeling. Maybe so.
I do know that when I left, a flood of pain erupted and now it has decided to visit for awhile. I go again tomorrow, but I'm betting the pain will not show its ugly face. It's so frustrating.
Posted by muffled on April 10, 2006, at 21:47:09
In reply to Talking in the third person, posted by annierose on April 10, 2006, at 20:21:47
I find it much easier to talk that way.
I think there's nothing wrong with it if it helps.
Good luck.
Take care,
Muffled
Posted by Veracity on April 10, 2006, at 21:56:26
In reply to Re: Talking in the third person » annierose, posted by muffled on April 10, 2006, at 21:47:09
I talk in second person. So, instead of saying
"I felt really angry when my boss just completely ignored me,"
I say,
"You feel really angry when your boss just completely ignores you."
It's like I'm telling people some universal way to react to situations when I'm really just describing how I reacted to them. I have no clue why I do this, but I notice it and I can't stop it. It's only when I talk, not when I write.
Posted by Daisym on April 10, 2006, at 23:18:25
In reply to Talking in the third person, posted by annierose on April 10, 2006, at 20:21:47
I do it all the time.
More concerning is the after-math of pain that isn't showing up to sessions. I think it will be important to try to figure out what is holding you back from those feelings. Are you rushing to get to your session and not giving yourself enough time to get into the right frame of mind while you are there? Are you with holding your feelings from your therapist, (either to punish or due to mistrust?)
Ask yourself -- "why am I afraid to let go and let down?" And sit quiet and wait for the answer. I bet it shows up.
Posted by fairywings on April 12, 2006, at 0:04:17
In reply to Talking in the third person, posted by annierose on April 10, 2006, at 20:21:47
> I do know that when I left, a flood of pain erupted and now it has decided to visit for awhile. I go again tomorrow, but I'm betting the pain will not show its ugly face. It's so frustrating.
Hi Annie,
I don't think I talk in the 3rd person, but I know I distance myself from pain....it hits me and then it's gone and I can't access it again until it hits me again - which has never been during my appts. I can't draw up those feelings at all. It is VERY frustrating....like emotional constipation.
I'm glad you will go again tomorrow......maybe because you go again so soon they have receeded and won't come to the surface because you know you'll be safe with her again tomorrow? I don't know....I just know a lot of times it feels almost unbearable to think about things for a week.
fairywings
Posted by milly on April 13, 2006, at 14:02:04
In reply to Talking in the third person, posted by annierose on April 10, 2006, at 20:21:47
I talked the whole of my termination session in the third person and it was probably to distance myself from the pain as I knew it would overwhelme me.
milly
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