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Posted by Dinah on April 4, 2006, at 21:39:22
I have no idea what my therapist looks like. All this time I thought he had big brown puppy dog eyes. But I just blew up his picture, and not only are his eyes not big, they're not even brown.
I know I have trouble taking in facial features, and tend to know people more by their carriage and the way they feel. But really. Eleven years. Hey. Wait......
Posted by Dinah on April 4, 2006, at 21:41:03
In reply to Good grief., posted by Dinah on April 4, 2006, at 21:39:22
And I forgot. :(
Posted by LadyBug on April 4, 2006, at 22:46:03
In reply to Yesterday was my eleventh anniversary., posted by Dinah on April 4, 2006, at 21:41:03
Happy Anniversary to you and your T Dinah!
Amazing is't it? I laughed when I read you thought all this time he had big brown puppy dog eyes and when you blew his picture up, his eyes aren't big and they aren't even brown. Oh my, we see what we need to see sometimes. Did you remind him it was your 11th anniversary? When it was the 9 year anniversary with my T this past January, I said, "How many years do you think we've been together?" She said, "I don't know, five?" I said, "Are you serious????????" I was about to say, are you crazy, it's almost been double that!!! Don't you keep track? You should know as well as I do!!!
Anyway, hope you celebrate *you* in all of this.
LadyBug
Posted by Dinah on April 4, 2006, at 23:20:22
In reply to Re: Yesterday was my eleventh anniversary. » Dinah, posted by LadyBug on April 4, 2006, at 22:46:03
I should have told him Sunday, but I was too busy having a meltdown about moving (as per usual lately) and his upcoming trip, which I'm positive will coincide with our hearing bad news. Because it always does.
He might remember that last year was our big ten, so if I tell him that Monday was our anniversary, he should be able to figure out which one.
But we've all got Katrina brain. I'm lucky we remember each other's names.
I think it's his drawl. I think that's why I think he has brown eyes. Ok, hard logic to follow. But when I get to him some way, his native drawl shows. And sometimes he drawls and looks charming in what appears to be a well practiced way that he must employ regularly outside his professional life. Then he catches himself and visibly stops. And I think of him as making like a puppy, so I think brown eyes. Is that convoluted or what?
Plus I never really look at him. But I could still swear his eyes are brown, even if I can't deny they aren't large. Maybe the camera is wrong. Maybe I'll remember to ask him.
Posted by Dinah on April 4, 2006, at 23:29:14
In reply to Re: Yesterday was my eleventh anniversary. » LadyBug, posted by Dinah on April 4, 2006, at 23:20:22
I suppose that's one thing I can't do. I suppose it would be dreadfully improper calling him and telling him that I'm really upset because I don't know what color his eyes are. I don't want to leave town because of him, and I don't know what color his stupid eyes are.
Posted by Daisym on April 4, 2006, at 23:52:37
In reply to Re: Yesterday was my eleventh anniversary., posted by Dinah on April 4, 2006, at 23:29:14
I bet you know what color he feels like. And that is way more important.
Eleven years - wow. This is a powerful number. I hope you call him and tell him how important he is to you, Dinah. And give him the opportunity to tell you the same.
Posted by NikkiT2 on April 5, 2006, at 3:41:13
In reply to Yesterday was my eleventh anniversary., posted by Dinah on April 4, 2006, at 21:41:03
I was talking to my brother on the phone the other day..
And we realised that neither of us knew the colour of each others eyes.. and I realised, I don't even know the colour of my own mothers eyes!!
That beats 11 years :)
Nikki x
Posted by fallsfall on April 5, 2006, at 7:33:23
In reply to Re: Yesterday was my eleventh anniversary. » Dinah, posted by NikkiT2 on April 5, 2006, at 3:41:13
And I thought I was the only one who didn't know the color of people's eyes. Heck, I can be staring into their eyes and not know what color they are (somehow eye color names often doesn't match what the real color is).
Congrats on the anniversary. And it is interesting that you forgot. I wonder if that is because the "accomplishment" of getting to 11 is less important than what has been accomplished in 11.
(((Dinah)))
Posted by Dinah on April 5, 2006, at 8:21:10
In reply to Re: Yesterday was my eleventh anniversary. » Dinah, posted by Daisym on April 4, 2006, at 23:52:37
lol.
Yes, I do know what color he is, and I know when the colors change.
And it occurred to me that I even know that he uses charm to get out of tight situations, although he tries very hard and nearly always succeeds, to keep it out of his professional life. At least he uses it when he's relaxed and happy. Haven't seen any puppy dog lately.
Posted by Dinah on April 5, 2006, at 8:23:38
In reply to Re: Yesterday was my eleventh anniversary. » Dinah, posted by NikkiT2 on April 5, 2006, at 3:41:13
lol.
I'd have to say my family is the one exception to the rule that I can't see facial features. I guess eventually they get worn in. Except that I might not see them change. I might see them the way they are. Thank heavens for that trait. My husband still sees the girl he fell for in me.
So did you fill each other in on the family eyechart?
Posted by Dinah on April 5, 2006, at 8:28:40
In reply to Re: Yesterday was my eleventh anniversary. » NikkiT2, posted by fallsfall on April 5, 2006, at 7:33:23
I was a combination of feeling very weird (probably from meds change) and caught in an obsession. It's not that surprising I forgot. I'm lucky if I remember essential household duties when I'm like that.
I can't even know that I'll remember when I see him Friday. I seem to spend my entire sessions lately in a pool of misery impossible to get through.
He'll be gone ALL next week. Although he is seeing me on the next Sunday, even though it's Easter and he's not seeing clients for the most part. Isn't that nice of him?
Then two consecutive weeks in May. I hate two consecutive weeks, especially now, since it really ends up being at least three weeks in practical reality.
Posted by Poet on April 5, 2006, at 8:47:29
In reply to Re: Yesterday was my eleventh anniversary., posted by Dinah on April 4, 2006, at 23:29:14
Hi Dinah,
Maybe what color your T's eyes appear to be depened on colored contact lenses or what color he is wearing?
Just a thought.
Happy anniversary.
Poet
p.s. my T dodges the whole anniversary thing by saying "we've been seeing each other for quite a few years now." She told pdoc two years- it's actually three, so it looks like she needs an anniversary reminder in August.
Posted by B2chica on April 5, 2006, at 10:15:20
In reply to Re: Yesterday was my eleventh anniversary. » Dinah, posted by Poet on April 5, 2006, at 8:47:29
congrats on the anniv.
my ex-T had really light blue eyes. i remember cuz for the first time someone with blue eyes had a deep soul. he understood me and didn't hurt me. i miss those story telling eyes.
b2c.
Posted by NikkiT2 on April 5, 2006, at 12:15:11
In reply to Re: Yesterday was my eleventh anniversary. » NikkiT2, posted by Dinah on April 5, 2006, at 8:23:38
The brother I was speaking to has aspergers, so we were discussing the genetic element of it, and whether its connected to that at all.
Theres research coming out at the moment about a condition which is sort of anti-aspergers.. in that, with aspergers there is a lack of empathy, but with this one someone suffers too much empathy, and everything about it rang SO true to me. Heck, I even worry about posting on here because I can't reply to *everyone*, and thus, will others be upset I didn't reply to them?! *L*
I'll try and dig the info out, as its something I think would really interest you..
Nikki
Posted by fairywings on April 5, 2006, at 15:20:28
In reply to Good grief., posted by Dinah on April 4, 2006, at 21:39:22
Happy anniversary Dinah! ; )
I don't know when exactly I started with mine, I don't know what color his eyes are, and about the 5th or 6th appt. I really realized he has a full beard! I'd "seen" it, but not really noticed it.
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Posted by happyflower on April 7, 2006, at 3:12:38
In reply to Re: Good grief. » Dinah, posted by fairywings on April 5, 2006, at 15:20:28
I think you are being too hard on yourself. You have soooo much on your mind and it has been such a tough year, it is okay if maybe you forgot one anniversary. I am sure he will forgive you. Are you going to tell him? I think it would be a good topic for the two of you.
As far as the color of his eyes, the color of his eyes are probably less important than the feeling he gives you from his eyes when you do look into them. And maybe you aren't so attracted to him like I am to my T, LOL, where his eyes just make me weak in my knees. LOL Take it a little more easy on yourself, okay.
Posted by Dinah on April 7, 2006, at 16:54:32
In reply to (((((((((((Dinah))))))))))))))))), posted by happyflower on April 7, 2006, at 3:12:38
He says they're blue grey with flecks of brown near the center. He paused a long while before answering. I wonder if that was too personal a question. They must not be large because I stared at (not into) his eyes all session and still really couldn't say for certain.
I told him it was our eleventh anniversary, and later in the session he referred to it as our seventeenth anniversary and when I corrected him, he said it just seemed like seventeen years. He's a card he is.
And last year's card is in his desk, not in my file.
Other than that, it was the same old me whining about probably having to move.
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