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Posted by Deneb on April 3, 2006, at 10:04:07
I talked to my pdoc about loving Dr. Bob, among other things.
I told her about my knitting a scarf for Bob and about how I think about him everyday and feel happy when I do.
She agrees with me that it is obsessive, but she says it isn't problematic as long as I don't intrude upon Dr. Bob's life. She thinks it is a healthy obsession right now. She thinks I love Dr. Bob because I get a feeling of caring and security from him.
I'm glad she thinks it is okay for me to love Bob. :-) Loving Bob comforts me and makes me very happy. Even thinking of the name "Dr. Bob" comforts me. I imagine meeting Bob and I smile. I love Dr. Bob. I'm glad I can bring up feelings of comfort and happiness whenever I want to by thinking of Dr. Bob.
I hope Dr. Bob doesn't mind that I love him.
{{{{Dr. Bob}}}}}
Deneb*
Posted by Deneb on April 3, 2006, at 10:57:44
In reply to I taked to my pdoc about loving Dr. Bob, posted by Deneb on April 3, 2006, at 10:04:07
You don't have to be afraid of me Dr. Bob. My pdoc has known me for over 4 years. She knows me very well. I tell her everything. She doesn't think you need to be afraid of me. I was able to stop e-mailing you. That's a good sign.
I'm aware of my actions. I know about stalking and erotomania and stuff and they don't describe me. I know you don't love me. I'm grounded in reality. My pdoc doesn't think it's a problem that I love you, so you have nothing to worry about. You will find out for yourself when you meet me in person.
I would never do anything to harm you and I would never invade your privacy in real life. Sorry again for e-mails with the threats. I plan on never doing that again. I plan on never being blocked again.
I've never had any trouble with the law. I always follow the rules. I don't get angry easily. I've never been in a physical fight. I've never hurt animals.
I just wanted to ease any concerns you might have about meeting me in person.
Deneb*
Posted by B2chica on April 3, 2006, at 11:14:19
In reply to I taked to my pdoc about loving Dr. Bob, posted by Deneb on April 3, 2006, at 10:04:07
i know just how you feel Deneb. that's how i feel about my pdoc. he's treated me with nothing but respect, he took the time to understand me and does what is best for me. he has my best interests at heart and helps me. he's there when i need him.
not to mention he's as cute as all get out. so i like to giggle about him, call him cutie and have rescue fantasies about him. he's got my sense of humor so we get along great. but i'm in no way a stalker, i am not (for real) in love with him-though i joke that i am. i would never interfere with his personal life and Never harm him or his family. i wish ONLY the very best for him.
but i can't help that just seeing him makes me smile. don't tell him but i have a similar response to my GP. cuz again, he wants to take care of me, he's good to me. he's gentle with me.
so i'm sure with what you've said Dr.Bob fully understands. and my opinion is to carry on. let him make you smile and giggle. let him let you feel secure and cared for. we've all been injured growing up and these people fill a need that we (i) have.
cares
b2c.
Posted by Poet on April 3, 2006, at 19:04:18
In reply to I taked to my pdoc about loving Dr. Bob, posted by Deneb on April 3, 2006, at 10:04:07
Hi Deneb,
Good for you that you were open with your pdoc about your feelings for Dr. Bob.
I don't think he has any reason to be afraid of you in Toronto. I believe you can stay grounded.
Poet
Posted by Deneb on April 3, 2006, at 20:57:57
In reply to Re: I taked to my pdoc about loving Dr. Bob, posted by B2chica on April 3, 2006, at 11:14:19
> i know just how you feel Deneb. that's how i feel about my pdoc.
I like my pdoc/T and I care about her, but I'm not in love with her. I don't think I experience a lot of transference with Ts. Maybe I would experience more if my T were male. Hmmmm.... Then again I did have a male pdoc for a while and there was absolutely no transference...
> he's treated me with nothing but respect, he took the time to understand me and does what is best for me. he has my best interests at heart and helps me. he's there when i need him.
That's great! Sounds like a great guy.
> so i'm sure with what you've said Dr.Bob fully understands.I hope so.
Deneb*
Posted by Deneb on April 3, 2006, at 21:01:30
In reply to Re: I taked to my pdoc about loving Dr. Bob » Deneb, posted by Poet on April 3, 2006, at 19:04:18
> Hi Deneb,
>
> Good for you that you were open with your pdoc about your feelings for Dr. Bob.I tell my pdoc everything I can remember. I can tell her anything.
>
> I don't think he has any reason to be afraid of you in Toronto. I believe you can stay grounded.Sometimes I'm afraid my loving him so much will scare him. I'm glad no Babblers are afraid of me.
I look forward to seeing you in T.O. :-)
Deneb*
Posted by special_k on April 3, 2006, at 21:10:06
In reply to I taked to my pdoc about loving Dr. Bob, posted by Deneb on April 3, 2006, at 10:04:07
> but she says it isn't problematic as long as I don't intrude upon Dr. Bob's life. She thinks it is a healthy obsession right now. She thinks I love Dr. Bob because I get a feeling of caring and security from him.
hmm. i think that sounds like a pretty good way of seeing it. and... a pretty good explanation too :-)
> I'm glad she thinks it is okay for me to love Bob. :-) Loving Bob comforts me and makes me very happy. Even thinking of the name "Dr. Bob" comforts me. I imagine meeting Bob and I smile. I love Dr. Bob. I'm glad I can bring up feelings of comfort and happiness whenever I want to by thinking of Dr. Bob.:-)
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