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Posted by rubenstein on March 21, 2006, at 19:40:26
I finally think that I trust my therapist. This is a really big step for me. But I need extra help right now. And I called for it today.
So why do I feel so guilty?
Rachel
Posted by madeline on March 21, 2006, at 19:57:58
In reply to Trust and Help, posted by rubenstein on March 21, 2006, at 19:40:26
boy do I understand what a big step that is. For me it sometime feel like a feral cat finally accepting the food on the porch. It's good, but very very dangerous and sometimes I just have to BOLT! But trust will bring you back.
This is a big deal and I feel very happy for you and so will your therapist.
I would check in as much as I felt like it - even if you felt guilty, try to do it anyway. Also, one of the things that my T did was to increase the number of times that we met. It helps to internalize the trust I think.
Congrats on your achievement. I'm here if you need help.
Maddie
Posted by happyflower on March 21, 2006, at 20:17:32
In reply to Re: Trust and Help, posted by madeline on March 21, 2006, at 19:57:58
Hey rubenstein!
That is such a HUGE step you have taken, I am proud of you. Yes I do understand how you feel, but it is okay. Trust is hard because when you do learn to finally trust then you worry about them stomping on you (at least that is how I felt). Well good job! ;-)
Posted by sleepygirl on March 21, 2006, at 21:10:41
In reply to Re: Trust and Help, posted by madeline on March 21, 2006, at 19:57:58
I like that "feral cat" thing you mentioned. I feel like that A LOT - always ready for danger, on edge, etc.
I wish I could internalize some trust right now.
Posted by sleepygirl on March 21, 2006, at 21:12:06
In reply to Trust and Help, posted by rubenstein on March 21, 2006, at 19:40:26
'cause you might not want to feel like a "bother" perhaps (if you are at all similar to me) I have a bad case of this right now.
Bravo for trying to reach out anyway.
Posted by All Done on March 22, 2006, at 2:01:17
In reply to Trust and Help, posted by rubenstein on March 21, 2006, at 19:40:26
Good for you, Rachel!
I understand the guilt thing. I called my T for the first time today basically to tell him I didn't know what was wrong, I just needed to talk to him.
I suppose I could tell you all the reasons I feel/felt guilty, but I don't want to give you any new ideas. ;) Some of my wonderful Babble friends are telling me I shouldn't feel guilty. And my T told me it was okay to call. I trust all of them, so I'm trying my hardest to believe it.
Did you ask your T if it was okay that you called?
I'm glad you're feeling able to trust your T. It can feel very good and safe.
Laurie
Posted by milly on March 22, 2006, at 8:13:08
In reply to Re: Trust and Help, posted by madeline on March 21, 2006, at 19:57:58
wow maddies 'ferel cat' example hit home!
I find it SOOO difficult to think of any good reason he could possibly bear to be there for me, but when you finally get on 'the porch' it tastes so good (even if you are scanning for danger the whole time) and whats more 'someone' put the food out for US because we're worth feeding.
milly
Posted by rubenstein on March 22, 2006, at 11:22:14
In reply to Trust and Help, posted by rubenstein on March 21, 2006, at 19:40:26
I am going now. I am so nervous. THanks to everyone for their support. Hopefully it will go okay. Trust/....... I keep trying to internalize that and just go with it. Best to everyone
rachel
Posted by Gee on March 22, 2006, at 18:50:37
In reply to Re: Trust and Help, posted by rubenstein on March 22, 2006, at 11:22:14
I hope that it helps. It's awesome that you were able to reach out for extra help when you needed it.
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