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Posted by madeline on February 5, 2006, at 19:25:05
And yet, I feel like I am making progress.
The other day in therapy the most wonderful thing happened. We had a wonderful session talking about Brokeback Mountain, not being able to love or be loved, the abuse I survived - you know - just stuff.
I stood up to leave, and he stood up with me and we both just looked at each other, he said something about how hard is must be for me to talk to him and trust him, and how he appreciated it. I usually flinch from things such as that and make a joke.
But I didn't, I just stood there and thanked him for helping me. He told me that he felt very tender towards me right then and that he hoped I had a good week.
For the first time in my whole life at that moment I felt loved and understood and genuine. It was scary, it was sad and it was WONDERFUL!!!
I think my whole life has changed. I honestly did not know that I was capable of feeling this way either about or with another person.It was a breakthrough and it has changed me to the core. I love my T even more now and I know that if I can feel this way with him, I can feel it with another person.
But for now, I just want to sit in his office. Ah well, he DID increase our sessions to twice a week.
Posted by Daisym on February 5, 2006, at 23:41:30
In reply to I just want to sit in my T's office all the time., posted by madeline on February 5, 2006, at 19:25:05
I really happy for you. I remember when that happened for me with my therapist...feeling really, really understood and accepted for the first time in my whole life. It was an all enveloping sense of safety and a felt sense of "tenderness."
If only we could package it somehow, we'd be rich!
I keep those moments tucked away and have labeled them "secret smiles in my heart." They make therapy worth it.
Your therapist sounds sweet and wonderful. Lucky you.
Posted by Dinah on February 6, 2006, at 2:59:56
In reply to I just want to sit in my T's office all the time., posted by madeline on February 5, 2006, at 19:25:05
I'm so glad you were able to take that leap of faith, and that it was rewarded.
It's a wonderful feeling.
Posted by fairywings on February 6, 2006, at 6:48:53
In reply to I just want to sit in my T's office all the time., posted by madeline on February 5, 2006, at 19:25:05
Wow! That's really beautiful. I'm glad you were able to sink into what he said, and respond from your heart. Wish everyone could have moments like that.fw
Posted by Susan47 on February 8, 2006, at 14:29:19
In reply to I just want to sit in my T's office all the time., posted by madeline on February 5, 2006, at 19:25:05
God, I prayed for that to happen, you're such a lucky lucky person madeline, congratulations I'm so so happy for you!!! :) Good work on both of you ...
Posted by asmita on February 17, 2006, at 17:51:22
In reply to I just want to sit in my T's office all the time., posted by madeline on February 5, 2006, at 19:25:05
i pretty much live for those moments... just shows how it's the little things, those 5 second moments that really make life worth living. Daisym's 'secret smiles in my heart' thing reminded me of this book (of short stories) 'collector of treasures' by bessie head. the character in the title story says something along those lines. here's a little quote...:
"she turned around to say that it was not a good thing to leave dirty dishes standing overnight but her mouth flew open with surprise. two soft pools of cool liquid light were in his eyes and something infinitely sweet passed between them; it was too beautiful to be love."
Posted by 10derHeart on February 17, 2006, at 19:14:40
In reply to Re: I just want to sit in my T's office all the time., posted by asmita on February 17, 2006, at 17:51:22
"collector of treasures by bessie head"
:-)
Posted by asmita on February 18, 2006, at 15:14:29
In reply to Amazon book link » asmita, posted by 10derHeart on February 17, 2006, at 19:14:40
i should warn you though, that story is about a woman who snips off her husband's privates! uhh...it's not like i relate to that part....lol
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