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Posted by Phillipa on February 2, 2006, at 21:29:26
In reply to Re: Please tell me about your axnxiety experiences. » crazy teresa, posted by fairywings on February 1, 2006, at 20:39:45
Teresa effexor withdrawal? Just a thought or the new job. Fondly, Phillipa
Posted by crazy teresa on February 3, 2006, at 19:12:25
In reply to Re: Please tell me about your axnxiety experiences. » crazy teresa, posted by muffled on February 1, 2006, at 18:06:41
It's not that I'm allergic to him, it's that he stresses me out soooo much. And then I get this attack thing going.
Posted by crazy teresa on February 3, 2006, at 19:13:14
In reply to Re: Please tell me about your axnxiety experiences, posted by bailey777 on February 1, 2006, at 18:25:18
I'm so glad to hear you're beating them!
Posted by crazy teresa on February 3, 2006, at 19:14:34
In reply to Re: Please tell me about your axnxiety experiences. » crazy teresa, posted by fairywings on February 1, 2006, at 20:39:45
So that does sound like anxiety to you?
Posted by crazy teresa on February 3, 2006, at 19:16:50
In reply to Re: Please tell me about your axnxiety experiences., posted by Phillipa on February 2, 2006, at 21:29:26
Hey FP! I really don't have any side effects from the Effexor withdrawl now, and I've been at the job over 2 yrs. The job is my sanity, actually, so if it's the job, I'm completely screwed! I really think it's my husband...
Posted by Phillipa on February 3, 2006, at 20:40:06
In reply to Re: Please tell me about your axnxiety experiences. » Phillipa, posted by crazy teresa on February 3, 2006, at 19:16:50
What in the world does it do to create the anxiety in you? FP
Posted by Phillipa on February 3, 2006, at 20:46:43
In reply to Re: Please tell me about your axnxiety experiences. » crazy teresa, posted by Phillipa on February 3, 2006, at 20:40:06
I'm making too many mistakes lately. I meant he not it. Love Jan
Posted by crazy teresa on February 4, 2006, at 9:47:54
In reply to Re: Please tell me about your axnxiety experiences. » crazy teresa, posted by Phillipa on February 3, 2006, at 20:40:06
Honestly, from what I can see, emotionally he's stuck at 9 yrs. old when his father died and his mother told him he was the 'man of the house, now".
He's a great guy, but I'm at my wit's end with his wanting me to be his mother, my feeling like only adult in the house, carrying the burden of all the responsibility for decision making, etc. He's gone all the time with the RR (which I swear is run by satan, himself), then he comes home and is an *ss.
Posted by muffled on February 4, 2006, at 13:14:56
In reply to Re: Please tell me about your axnxiety experiences. » Phillipa, posted by crazy teresa on February 4, 2006, at 9:47:54
> Honestly, from what I can see, emotionally he's stuck at 9 yrs. old when his father died and his mother told him he was the 'man of the house, now".
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> He's a great guy, but I'm at my wit's end with his wanting me to be his mother, my feeling like only adult in the house, carrying the burden of all the responsibility for decision making, etc. He's gone all the time with the RR (which I swear is run by satan, himself), then he comes home and is an *ss.***No wonder your allergic to him.
Is there anything to be done for it I wonder?
Muffled
Posted by Phillipa on February 4, 2006, at 13:31:47
In reply to Re: Please tell me about your axnxiety experiences. » Phillipa, posted by crazy teresa on February 4, 2006, at 9:47:54
I'm sorry Crazy T. My first husband was like that too. He never disciplined the kids, mowed the lawn, paid the bills, If I hadn't been young at the time I couldn't have done it I realy couldn't have. And they don't change from what my adult kids say he is the same today as then. Love Jan
Posted by crazy teresa on February 4, 2006, at 16:50:46
In reply to Re: Please tell me about your axnxiety experiences. » crazy teresa, posted by Phillipa on February 4, 2006, at 13:31:47
If you don't mind sharing, what was it that finally pushed you to divorce?
Posted by crazy teresa on February 4, 2006, at 16:52:02
In reply to Re: Please tell me about your axnxiety experiences. » crazy teresa, posted by muffled on February 4, 2006, at 13:14:56
Well, I think about smacking the dog sh*t out of him, but I'm sure he could take me... LOL!
Posted by muffled on February 4, 2006, at 18:17:10
In reply to Re: Please tell me about your axnxiety experiences. » muffled, posted by crazy teresa on February 4, 2006, at 16:52:02
Posted by Phillipa on February 4, 2006, at 19:13:40
In reply to HA! CT, you make psych board FUN like HF too! (nm) » crazy teresa, posted by muffled on February 4, 2006, at 18:17:10
When I came home from taking my kids on vacation which I paid for and he was pitching a tent in the back yard to see if it still worked that was it. He took his girlfriend camping that weekend. That was enough!!!!Fondly, Phillipa
Posted by wildcard11 on February 4, 2006, at 21:13:22
In reply to Re: husbands » Phillipa, posted by crazy teresa on February 4, 2006, at 16:50:46
Hey girl~don't hold so much in!!! I'm only an email away and I know how you feel...
Posted by crazy teresa on February 7, 2006, at 7:01:37
In reply to Please tell me about your axnxiety experiences., posted by crazy teresa on February 1, 2006, at 16:41:22
He came home from being gone 3 days. Episode was less intense, since this time I let go and allowed myself to cry.
How am I supposed to deal with this? I really do love him, but this is REALLY not good. And to think the only thing I've ever asked from him is a 'normal' life... Thank goodness he was called back to work and is gone again this morning.
Posted by muffled on February 7, 2006, at 14:57:25
In reply to Ok, it happened again last night. » crazy teresa, posted by crazy teresa on February 7, 2006, at 7:01:37
Posted by crazy teresa on February 8, 2006, at 8:14:33
In reply to ((((((((((((((((((((((((((CT))))))))))))))))))))). (nm) » crazy teresa, posted by muffled on February 7, 2006, at 14:57:25
Posted by Susan47 on February 9, 2006, at 12:49:22
In reply to Re: Please tell me about your axnxiety experiences. » Phillipa, posted by crazy teresa on February 4, 2006, at 9:47:54
I was giving my ex- anxiety attacks, I think. But now that we've separated and worked on some of our stuff individually, I think I am beginning to have the opposite effect on him. He's haVing less asthma attacks when he's with me now, than when he isn't. So that's good. But he still has anxiety around a lot of other issues. I hope you and yours can work it out so you're actually good for each other, and it's a long road but worthwhile, I hope he wants to put in the effort, but if not, I hope you do what's best for you. Thinkin' about ya .. (((crazyteresa)))
Posted by crazy teresa on February 9, 2006, at 22:10:27
In reply to Re: Please tell me about your axnxiety experiences. » crazy teresa, posted by Susan47 on February 9, 2006, at 12:49:22
I have been to a T, worked out a lot of stuff. We have been to 2 marriage counselors; he was the one who got all the homework but did none of it. He just doesn't want to admit anything is wrong. He's just so f-ing perfect.
God forbid we have an adult discussion about anything. He clams up and doesn't say a word. When, on the rare occasion, I get a response from him and he yells at me, I laugh. I'm so excited to get a response, I absolutley die laughing at him. Which of course, isn't very condusive to continuing the conversation...
I'm inching ever so close to living out my fantasy of throwing everything he owns out of our windows. How cathartic would that BE?
SWEET, as Napoleon would say.
Posted by Phillipa on February 9, 2006, at 22:52:55
In reply to I'm happy for you, » Susan47, posted by crazy teresa on February 9, 2006, at 22:10:27
When you're in bed and the lights are off wake him up saying there's an old lady walking from her apartment and you're at the top of the hill. Why is the little old lady trying to walk up the hill. No he must be almost asleep so you have to kick him to get a response. I do this every night it makes him not be able to sleep. Sweet revenge!!! Fondly, Phillipa no he doesn't refer to me fondly at all.
Posted by Susan47 on February 10, 2006, at 14:11:45
In reply to I'm happy for you, » Susan47, posted by crazy teresa on February 9, 2006, at 22:10:27
> I have been to a T, worked out a lot of stuff. We have been to 2 marriage counselors; he was the one who got all the homework but did none of it. He just doesn't want to admit anything is wrong. He's just so f-ing perfect.
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> God forbid we have an adult discussion about anything. He clams up and doesn't say a word. When, on the rare occasion, I get a response from him and he yells at me, I laugh. I'm so excited to get a response, I absolutley die laughing at him. Which of course, isn't very condusive to continuing the conversation...
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Would that be hysterical anxiety or something? Or maybe anxiety making you hysterical. What would make it worth staying?
> I'm inching ever so close to living out my fantasy of throwing everything he owns out of our windows. How cathartic would that BE?
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Oh hell, live out your fantasy girl!! It sounds much less harmless than a lot of other stuff you could do ...
> SWEET, as Napoleon would say.
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Posted by crazy teresa on February 11, 2006, at 11:49:57
In reply to Re: I'm happy for you, » crazy teresa, posted by Phillipa on February 9, 2006, at 22:52:55
Posted by crazy teresa on February 11, 2006, at 11:58:51
In reply to Re: I'm happy for you,, posted by Susan47 on February 10, 2006, at 14:11:45
>What would make it worth staying?
I know it is worth staying. He's a great guy and a fanstastic dad. I'm just sooo frustrated. I don't understand why he doesn't want to do what's necessary to make things different. Almost like why does an alcoholic continue drinking? Yes, it would be hard to do, but why not at least try when you know it can only improve your life? I guess that's where all the other 'issues' come into play and hold us back.
> Oh hell, live out your fantasy girl!! It sounds much less harmless than a lot of other stuff you could do ...
LOL! So very true!!! ;~}
Posted by crazy teresa on February 11, 2006, at 21:11:26
In reply to Re: I'm happy for you,, posted by crazy teresa on February 11, 2006, at 11:58:51
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