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Posted by LittleGirlLost on February 2, 2006, at 9:25:06
I haven't taken a vacation in years. I always worry when my T goes on vacation, and never really thought of myself doing the same thing. Until now. I see her tonight, and I leave Saturday for a week. I have very mixed feelings about it. (Aside from just being nervous about flying!) I'm worrying the way I worry when SHE goes away. But there's more since it's ME that's leaving. I worry about her forgetting me. I worry about her giving my time to someone else. (She said she wouldn't) But I even mean on that one night I will miss. I want her to do something special for herself the way I have to when she's away. I don't want her to see anyone else at that time, even if it's just that one week. I'm kind of excited about going away; I really need it. I'm so stressed out with work and everything else going on. But there is a little part of me, that feels like all I am doing is leaving her. Leaving each week is hard, why would I choose to do this and really be away? My vacation should be fun and relaxing, and I am even planning something special for these little feelings one day, but I still feel sad about going.
lgl
Posted by LadyBug on February 2, 2006, at 15:12:23
In reply to Clients take vacations too..., posted by LittleGirlLost on February 2, 2006, at 9:25:06
My T. is on a cruise right now and today would be my appointment. We talked last week about how hard it is for the person that is being "left" behind and it is much easier for the persone that is "leaving". I miss mine a lot, just knowing she isn't in her office if I need her. I almost called and left her a voice mail today, even though her message says she is out of her office till next Mon. I really needed to leave her a message. But by Mon. it wouldn't have mattered! I have abandonment issues so I'm really sensitive to seperation. It's hard to be apart from someone who means so much to us.
Good luck, I hope you enjoy your vacation.
LadyBug
Posted by LittleGirlLost on February 4, 2006, at 1:28:05
In reply to Re: Clients take vacations too..., posted by LadyBug on February 2, 2006, at 15:12:23
(((LadyBug))) I'm sorry your T is away right now. I know how hard it is for you as I also have issues with separation and abandonment. I hope she is coming back soon.
Since this is the first vacation (and first session I will miss) since being with my T, I have very mixed emotions. I need this vacation and should be excited, and I guess I am, but only a little. The bigger part of me (which is actually the little part) just sees it as leaving her, and why would I do that intentionally. It kinda does feel like she's the one that's leaving. We talked a lot about this when I saw her, but it's still hard. I wonder what she is going to do at my appt time? I told her that when she goes away I always make sure to do something special at "our" time, but I can't really expect that of her. :(
I really should get to bed, since I leave in the morning, but wanted to respond to a few posts first since I will be without a computer for week.
Also, I had a really bad day today. I'm hurting so much since seeing T last night and worrying about leaving and stuff. Thankfully I took the day off work to get stuff done (so why am I still up at 2:30 am??). Anyway, I woke up and discovered my home voicemail had been turned off. (I forgot to pay my bill.) I was livid! But more than that, I was SO upset. I had saved a few messages that my therapist left for me... nothing special, but it's still her voice. I also had a few very important messages that I was very upset over. Maybe I overreacted, but it was the timing... here I am going away, worrying about missing my T, and the messages were all deleted. I listen to them when I need to and planned on it while I was away. So I ended up calling her because I was just feeling so bad about everything. I felt stupid but told her about the voicemail thing. I was afraid I was doing something wrong by keeping the messages without her knowing... But she totally understood, and even asked if I wanted her to leave me another message! I thought that was cool. I'm looking forward to it and wonder what she will say. The other messages weren't anything special, just her returning my call, but still! The phone company should not have done that! I'm still angry, but at least I made a payment online and my service was restored.
Oh gosh, I'm babbling and seeing double... I really need to go to bed.
lgl
Posted by LadyBug on February 6, 2006, at 14:15:09
In reply to Clients take vacations too..., posted by LittleGirlLost on February 2, 2006, at 9:25:06
I'm slow seeing your reply, but about the voice mail thing. I totally relate to it! I have to have a voice mail from my T. on my cell phone. It is with me 24/7 and I can listen to one anytime I like. She did leave me a voice mail before she left on her cruise. She was at the airport! She says she likes to do that with me. I asked her how many of her other clients she did that for and she said, "you're the only one." Yes, that made me feel special and I didn't even feel guilty. She got back to her office today. I see her in a few days. Part of me is excited and part of me says I made it two weeks, why not go another till I see her.
I hope your vacation is fun and you enjoy your time. Your T will be there for you when you return.
LadyBug
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