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Posted by wishingstar on January 31, 2006, at 19:44:55
Hi guys.. I've been reading here on the boards for the last few weeks, but this is my first time posting (aside from an intro on the newbies board).
After seeing the book "In Session" mentioned several times here, I bought it and read it in a week. I loved it. So much of it described exactly how I feel about my therapist and my relationships. Just for the record, I have been in therapy on and off for about 5 years, but with my current T for about 1 1/2, with a break in the middle. Just recently I feel like I've really started to trust her. Sometimes it takes a crisis to cause it.. for me anyway.
Anyway, I mentioned the book to her, and recommended she read it, but I dont think she really heard me. She has recommended books to me in the past, so I know shes a reader. I'm considering buying her the book as a "gift". What do you all think? Is this inappropriate, weird, anything? I dont want her to think she HAS to read it obviously, but I'd like her to have it, in case she ever wants to. What do you all think?
You all seem like such wonderful, supportive people. I'm excited to get to know everyone here.
Posted by LittleGirlLost on January 31, 2006, at 21:08:28
In reply to give a book to my T?, posted by wishingstar on January 31, 2006, at 19:44:55
Welcome to the board, wishingstar. I don't get to post very often, mostly just a lurker, but wanted to comment to you. I think it would be okay to give the book to your T; especially since you already mentioned it to her. And like you said, not pressuring her to read it, but it would be there if she wanted to.
I read the book years ago, but mentioned it to my T a few months ago when the author was a guest here. She asked to borrow my book; I was happy to oblige.
Good luck with your decision!
lgl
Posted by Dinah on January 31, 2006, at 21:09:20
In reply to give a book to my T?, posted by wishingstar on January 31, 2006, at 19:44:55
Welcome to Babble! "In Session: The Bond Between Women and Their Therapists" is great, isn't it? I think it should be required reading in therapist school.
Have you considered bringing the book with you and reading short excerpts that were especially meaningful with you and discussing how they apply to you? I have found that to be the only way to get my therapist to "read" anything I wanted him to read.
That way if her interest is piqued, she can decide to read the book, or if she expresses interest you can offer to lend her your copy.
Not that I think there's anything wrong with giving it to your therapist, if she's one of the therapists who accepts gifts. I just think that if there are things you definitely want her to see and understand, there's nothing like pointing them out in person. :)
I'm looking forward to getting to know you too!
Posted by Poet on January 31, 2006, at 21:26:32
In reply to give a book to my T?, posted by wishingstar on January 31, 2006, at 19:44:55
Hi wishingstar,
Welcome to babble. Glad you found us.
I would feel your T out a little before you buy her the book, because you think she didn't hear you when you talked about having read it. Mention it again, if she seems interested, then I'd do it.
I've borrowed books from my T (videotapes, too, gotta return those one of these weeks) and lent her books. So I'm comfortable talking with her about books I think she might be interested in.
Let us know what she says.
Poet
Posted by JLynn on January 31, 2006, at 22:01:37
In reply to Re: give a book to my T? » wishingstar, posted by Poet on January 31, 2006, at 21:26:32
I gave my T a copy of the book. She said she read it, but we never really talked about which was the whole point of giving it to her. Maybe someday I will bring that up... I say go for it. Maybe flag parts that you think are important. Good luck!
Posted by LadyBug on February 1, 2006, at 11:08:32
In reply to give a book to my T?, posted by wishingstar on January 31, 2006, at 19:44:55
When I bought mine and started to read it, I bought one for my T. We talked about different parts of the book. She loved it and shared it with some colleges of hers. We called it "our" book. I learned so much from the book and I think giving a copy to your T is fine.
LadyBug
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