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Posted by muffled on December 2, 2005, at 12:22:41
what happens when you cry?
Water comes out your eyes, and your nose can run, but what happens inside?
Sometimes my chest hurts and I think thats a 'sad' thing.
I feel like an idiot.
A heartless idiot.
Inhuman.
Posted by allisonross on December 2, 2005, at 12:55:32
In reply to This is stupid but..., posted by muffled on December 2, 2005, at 12:22:41
> what happens when you cry?
You probably didn't know (and maybe not interested), but I read a fascinating article on tears.
Tears of pain and grief (the components) are different than other kinds of tears (joy, etc).....different chemicals, and so....
tears are LITERALLY healing, because of the chemical compounds in them.
> Water comes out your eyes, and your nose can run, but what happens inside?
> Sometimes my chest hurts and I think thats a 'sad' thing.
> I feel like an idiot.
> A heartless idiot.
> Inhuman.I feel so sad, because it sounds as if you dislike yourself so much. You are a valuable human being on the planet in so much pain. I wish I could help. I wish I could take away those thoughts.
You aren't ANY of those things (idiot nor inhuman).
Love, Ally
>
Posted by fallsfall on December 2, 2005, at 13:14:39
In reply to This is stupid but..., posted by muffled on December 2, 2005, at 12:22:41
Marsha Linehan wrote a very helpful book called "Skills Training Manual for Treating Borderline Personality Disorder". In this book she goes through the major emotions (Love, Joy, Anger, Sadness, Fear, Shame) and lists:
Words that are used for this emotion
Events that prompt this emotion
Interpretations that prompt this emotion
What it is like to experience the emotion
How we act on or express the emotion
Aftereffects of the emotionHer section on "Experiencing the Emotion of Sadness" lists:
"Feeling tired, run-down, or low in energy.
Feeling lethargic, listless; wanting to stay in bed all day.
Feeling a pain or hollowness in your chest or gut.
Feeling empty.
Crying, tears, whimpering.
Feeling as if you can't stop crying, or feeling that if you ever start crying you will never be able to stop.
Difficulty swallowing.
Breathlessness.
Dizziness."I found this book really helpful when I felt in need of education about emotions. Your local library can get it through interlibrary loan for you, or you might be able to see it at a bookstore. Good luck.
Posted by muffled on December 2, 2005, at 17:37:47
In reply to Re: This is stupid but..., posted by fallsfall on December 2, 2005, at 13:14:39
Posted by happyflower on December 3, 2005, at 8:37:19
In reply to THX Guys (nm), posted by muffled on December 2, 2005, at 17:37:47
I just wanted to say I think you are a very nice and caring person! :) I don't like to cry, I think it will make me feel worse, but of course I am wrong, it makes me feel better normally.
I was "encouraged" not to cry in a very bad way from my parents. So now I have trouble crying in front of people because I am afraid of what they might do to me.
I just wanted to say I am very fond of you. Sometdays when I am feeling down, and havent
been on the board for a few days, I always see your posts, hey happyflower, how goes it! LOL You are always thinking of others and I think that is just so wonderful of you. :) ((((((muffled))))
Posted by muffled on December 3, 2005, at 12:49:40
In reply to (((((Muffled))))) » muffled, posted by happyflower on December 3, 2005, at 8:37:19
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