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Posted by muffled on November 24, 2005, at 16:23:26
So I know I am far from unique. Maybe someone has some helpful hints?
Me and inside me don't get along. But I been trying to let her do her thing more cuz she has a bunch of stuff I'm missing. I want to be whole.
However, the more I see of her, Aaaaaagh! I would guess she's that 5 yr. old rebellion age. Not the most appealing.
She says she can make me do stuff, not really. Sometimes she kinda sneaks up on me, but as soon as I cotton onto it I can fairly quickly reassert my dominance. Ha. Anyhow, so I am letting her be more, and therefore experiencing the weird 5 yr old emotions and trying not to be too weird about it. But its weird. These are emotions I haven't really aknowledged much for a great many years.
Anyhow, this stuff with my T, I think its her testing her in her 5 yr old way. I don't know whether I should let this run its course or reassert control and be an adult about it which would be no problem. Should I let her run with this so that maybe she'll learn and grow up?
Its so weird.
This whole thing is so weird.
Muffled
Posted by Gee on November 24, 2005, at 16:38:27
In reply to What should I do?, posted by muffled on November 24, 2005, at 16:23:26
You are very unique. Everyone is!!!
Do you think she'll grow up if you let her out more? It's kinda cool that you can experience the feelings of a 5 year old again. Not many people can do that
Posted by muffled on November 24, 2005, at 19:54:43
In reply to Re: What should I do?, posted by Gee on November 24, 2005, at 16:38:27
> You are very unique. Everyone is!!!
**Thanks.
>
> Do you think she'll grow up if you let her out more? It's kinda cool that you can experience the feelings of a 5 year old again. Not many people can do that***I don't know. I really hope so. She has to grow up.
The feelings she has are the irrational and intense 5 yr old type. They mostly not much fun. There are some good ones too though I think that are hers.
I think most people can do it. When you feel pouty and silly about it, that a kid emotion.
Thanks for replying.
Take care,
Muffled.
Posted by Poet on November 25, 2005, at 9:13:17
In reply to What should I do?, posted by muffled on November 24, 2005, at 16:23:26
Hi Muffled,
My T wants me to embrace my inner four year old. Talk to her. Nurture her. Try to remember what it was like to be her without being jaded from what all came later.
I just sent her through cyber space to Allisonross. Otherwise she's been living in my T's office for way over a year. My T said she'd take care of her until I could. Looks like I still can't. Though you know that seems so stupid. She isn't real. She's a part of me that is stuck and who I blame for so many things that deep down there's no way she caused.
I think I know what I'm talking about in therapy on Saturday...
Poet
Posted by muffled on November 25, 2005, at 9:49:05
In reply to Re: What should I do? » muffled, posted by Poet on November 25, 2005, at 9:13:17
> Hi Muffled,
>
> My T wants me to embrace my inner four year old. Talk to her. Nurture her. Try to remember what it was like to be her without being jaded from what all came later.***I thot mine was 7, but I think she's more like 5. I dunno why I have her. We fight. But actually we are starting to not mind each other so much. Its hard cuz I am letting her come around more and its very weird feeling the petulant emotions of a 5 yr old. But yesterday she had mischieviousness and that was fun! I thot she was all bad, but maybe she's not. We've only recently found each other, she used to be just static in my head and chewing in my guts. I didn't know it was her.
>
> I just sent her through cyber space to Allisonross. Otherwise she's been living in my T's office for way over a year. My T said she'd take care of her until I could. Looks like I still can't. Though you know that seems so stupid. She isn't real. She's a part of me that is stuck and who I blame for so many things that deep down there's no way she caused.***I know mines not real too, but I am trying to like her etc. cuz she's me, I think its important. I am letting it be, and if sure feels real. And its helping me tons because stuff now makes way more sense, I'm way less confused. Maybe she IS real, but just not flesh and blood. I dunno. Its a very strange thing. But really I don't mind it at all. Its not scarey to me.
>
> I think I know what I'm talking about in therapy on Saturday...***Sure has helped me. Maybe she could hang with you some.(your kid, not your T!!!!). She must miss you. She's proly sad.(your kid, not your T!!!!) Its ok if you fight. Fighting actually brought me and my kid closer cuz it caused us to communicate. I wonder if we could somehow let our kids talk to each other via babblemail? I can get mine to write stuff sometimes. That could be hilarious!!!!Wonder what they would say? Mine would proly just say how awful she thinks I am. Oh well.
>
> Poet
>
Thanks Poet for your reply, sure helps. I feel kinda weird these days.
Muffled
Posted by sleepygirl on November 25, 2005, at 15:56:03
In reply to What should I do?, posted by muffled on November 24, 2005, at 16:23:26
Can you journal between these different parts? make some artwork, something like that? So your adult and child parts both have their say? and share it with your T?
Posted by muffled on November 25, 2005, at 16:08:42
In reply to Re: What should I do? » muffled, posted by sleepygirl on November 25, 2005, at 15:56:03
> Can you journal between these different parts? make some artwork, something like that? So your adult and child parts both have their say? and share it with your T?
***Yeah, I've only recently figgered out how to 'sort of' communicate with her, and journalling is one way. Its actually quite a trip, being to finally have some form of communication. She's not so mysterious and bad anymore. She's just a kid.
I'm a little freaked about sharing it cuz noone (except all of babble!) knows about her. I don't want my T to think I'm too wacked out! I already have a hard time communicating. Can you imagine bringing my little one in on it Gack?!
Though I had a thot.....maybe SHE will talk. Hmmmm. And she'll not doubt piss me off(she's good at that), and then maybe that'll get me talking. Hmmmm. COuld be good.
Take care!
Howsit w/you?
Muffled.
Posted by sleepygirl on November 25, 2005, at 16:21:57
In reply to Hey Sleepy! » sleepygirl, posted by muffled on November 25, 2005, at 16:08:42
things are pretty well with me, but I'm tired and I want to hide out. I love to hide out.
Posted by muffled on November 25, 2005, at 16:27:15
In reply to muffly, posted by sleepygirl on November 25, 2005, at 16:21:57
> things are pretty well with me, but I'm tired and I want to hide out. I love to hide out.
Hey lets hide under my stairs, its dark there, we can hide and noone will know we're there! Bring food, junk food. Ya.
All right!
Muffly
Posted by sleepygirl on November 25, 2005, at 17:30:27
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Posted by muffled on November 25, 2005, at 17:37:49
In reply to Re: muffly » sleepygirl, posted by muffled on November 25, 2005, at 16:27:15
Posted by fairywings on November 26, 2005, at 20:58:38
In reply to What should I do?, posted by muffled on November 24, 2005, at 16:23:26
Hi muffled,
i think it's good that you can journal it. i have been reading a good book, you might like it. it's called "innerworks" by robert a johnson. i'm finding that it's really hard to have so much going on inside too. it's like it takes so much time and you have other stuff to do besides play/nurture/fight with the diff. parts of you.
((hugs))
fw
Posted by fairywings on November 26, 2005, at 21:00:17
In reply to What should I do?, posted by muffled on November 24, 2005, at 16:23:26
Hi muffled,
Here's the actual book:
"inner work" by robert a johnson.
((hugs))
fw
Posted by muffled on November 28, 2005, at 11:26:56
In reply to Re: What should I do? » muffled, posted by fairywings on November 26, 2005, at 20:58:38
> Hi muffled,
>
> i think it's good that you can journal it. i have been reading a good book, you might like it. it's called "innerworks" by robert a johnson. i'm finding that it's really hard to have so much going on inside too. it's like it takes so much time and you have other stuff to do besides play/nurture/fight with the diff. parts of you.
>
Thanks FW. So you have inside parts that cause trouble too eh? It is hard. I'm trying to be nice to mine. I'm gonna proly let my younger me talk to my T. It should actually be kindof funny cuz I am usu. very quiet, and I have a feeling once she gets going the younger one may be quite belligerent and she's seriously mischievious. I don't think my T really gets that she's there. If I can get her(kid) to go for it I'll post and tell you about it. It may be hard cuz I had to go 2 wks. btwn. appts. and its always hard to go back after that long.
Take care ((FW))
Muffled
Posted by fairywings on November 28, 2005, at 13:24:10
In reply to Re: What should I do? » fairywings, posted by muffled on November 28, 2005, at 11:26:56
Hi muffled, i hope you can get her to come out, maybe she needs to connect with your T too. Maybe she'll be happier if she can work on some stuff. Good luck! I agree, 2 weeks is too long.
fw
Posted by happyflower on November 30, 2005, at 20:29:16
In reply to Re: What should I do? » muffled, posted by fairywings on November 28, 2005, at 13:24:10
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