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Posted by muffled on November 21, 2005, at 0:16:00
I know you were little, iknow you were small,
Its ok, its really ok
I can take care of you. You not BAD.
You just a kid. You with me all the time.
I'm ok. I came from you so you ok too.
You can be you, its ok.
You don't have to alweays hide.
You just a kid, just be a kid.
You just be free.
Its ok, I take care of you.
I take care of you allday long.
You will be ok. You won't be hurt.
I know stuff now. I'm all growed.
Its ok. Just be you. Let God do the rest.
Can you hear me? Can you feel me? Can you know its ok?
Can you let go of the pain?
.......................
But she didn't beleive me. Sh*t.
Just said she hurt too much and had a snit.
What the hell anyways?
I'm TRYING to be nice here.
Not so fricken easy.
Muffled
Posted by Gee on November 21, 2005, at 9:23:03
In reply to I wrote this to my inside kid., posted by muffled on November 21, 2005, at 0:16:00
You're trying, and you're accepting, that's gotta count for something
Hope you're doing okay
Posted by muffled on November 21, 2005, at 12:09:12
In reply to Re: I wrote this to my inside kid., posted by Gee on November 21, 2005, at 9:23:03
I just don't know whats happening.
Muffled
Posted by happyflower on November 21, 2005, at 13:07:38
In reply to Thanks Gee. Really I'm ok. » Gee, posted by muffled on November 21, 2005, at 12:09:12
I think it makes sense on what your little on is saying. I felt that too when I was little. Those feeling are all too familar with me. I think the fact you are "seeing and feeling" it is a good sign. Hang in there! okay ?
Posted by Tamar on November 21, 2005, at 18:13:14
In reply to I wrote this to my inside kid., posted by muffled on November 21, 2005, at 0:16:00
I think what you wrote is really lovely. You are so good to her. I hope you're not too disheartened that she doesn't believe you. I think she finds it hard to trust. She's just a kid, and she's been hurt. It may take a while before she can believe you.
If she's in a lot of pain, maybe she needs to know you're willing to listen to her and that even if you can't take all the pain away, you would if you could. But you can love her and accept her just as she is...
Posted by muffled on November 21, 2005, at 21:51:15
In reply to Re: Thanks Gee. Really I'm ok., posted by happyflower on November 21, 2005, at 13:07:38
Posted by muffled on November 21, 2005, at 22:01:45
In reply to Re: I wrote this to my inside kid. » muffled, posted by Tamar on November 21, 2005, at 18:13:14
> I think what you wrote is really lovely. You are so good to her. I hope you're not too disheartened that she doesn't believe you. I think she finds it hard to trust. She's just a kid, and she's been hurt. It may take a while before she can believe you.
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> If she's in a lot of pain, maybe she needs to know you're willing to listen to her and that even if you can't take all the pain away, you would if you could. But you can love her and accept her just as she is...
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****Tamar, I think you hit the nail on the head. I been patronizing her. She's not stupid. I think she's pretty pissed at me. Not sure what about exactly. Maybe alot of things.
I been sort of just sidestepping just how her pain is. Not too sure bout that somehow. Guess I'm afraid. Maybe she knows that and that puts her off too.
Guess I just goto keep working on me, and when the time is right she might decide I'm ok and stop hiding. In the meantime I guess I goto be patient.
Grrrrrrr. Not so good in the patience dept. especially when it comes to myself.
Thanks Tamar, you did it again. I wonder, is it a gift you have?
Take special care of yourself right now. And thanks for taking care of me too! :)
I wish I could make you better right now:(
But I guess these things take time.
I sit beside you quietly in your sad time.
Muffled.
Posted by Tabitha on November 22, 2005, at 0:27:56
In reply to Holy Cow, you got it! » Tamar, posted by muffled on November 21, 2005, at 22:01:45
Give her a chance. It's not fair to expect her to trust you right away. She may need some apology for the time you've not been there for her. She may just need some consistent attention to start to trust you. She may need you to DO some things for her as well as talking to her. But you're making a great start with your dialog. I have faith you (and her) can heal.
And thanks for posting part of your dialog with her. I love that inner kid stuff. Even tho I feel corny doing it sometimes, it's so important. And I love that we all can still connect to that kid, even when we're old and wrinkly. At least I hope she'll still be there when I'm old and wrinkly.
Posted by orchid on November 22, 2005, at 6:41:55
In reply to Re: I wrote this to my inside kid. » muffled, posted by Tamar on November 21, 2005, at 18:13:14
(grinning). You are so good at it. You really shouldn't be anything else other than a T.
Posted by Tamar on November 22, 2005, at 17:11:14
In reply to Holy Cow, you got it! » Tamar, posted by muffled on November 21, 2005, at 22:01:45
> ****Tamar, I think you hit the nail on the head. I been patronizing her. She's not stupid. I think she's pretty pissed at me. Not sure what about exactly. Maybe alot of things.
Ooh, I didn’t mean to suggest you’d been patronising her! I think you’ve been very loving towards her. But maybe she’s pissed anyway… just because she’s been hurting for so long and maybe she’s a bit afraid of being loved…
> I been sort of just sidestepping just how her pain is. Not too sure bout that somehow. Guess I'm afraid. Maybe she knows that and that puts her off too.
Don’t be too hard on yourself! It’s OK to be afraid. Why wouldn’t you be afraid? You know she’s hurt and you’re not entirely sure why… that’s scary. But yeah, she knows you’re afraid and she’s a bit afraid too. It’s hard for you and for her to face that fear. If you can find ways to comfort each other in your fear, maybe you can begin to understand each other.
> Guess I just goto keep working on me, and when the time is right she might decide I'm ok and stop hiding. In the meantime I guess I goto be patient.
> Grrrrrrr. Not so good in the patience dept. especially when it comes to myself.Yeah, patience isn’t the easiest. I know that! Keep it very gentle…
> Thanks Tamar, you did it again. I wonder, is it a gift you have?
> Take special care of yourself right now. And thanks for taking care of me too! :)
> I wish I could make you better right now:(
> But I guess these things take time.
> I sit beside you quietly in your sad time.
> Muffled.You’re so sweet Muffled. Thanks for your kind thoughts.
Tamar
Posted by Tamar on November 22, 2005, at 17:12:36
In reply to Why are you anything but a T Tamar ?? » Tamar, posted by orchid on November 22, 2005, at 6:41:55
> (grinning). You are so good at it. You really shouldn't be anything else other than a T.
(((((Orchid)))))
Tee hee. Still scared of that negative transference though...
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