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Posted by Angela2 on November 6, 2005, at 18:58:55
I've got some major problems right now. I can't get my mind off my ex boyfriend. I wrote him an email and he never wrote back and I keep checking but nothing. It's consuming my life. Should I call her?
Posted by Angela2 on November 6, 2005, at 19:03:33
In reply to Should I call my T?, posted by Angela2 on November 6, 2005, at 18:58:55
I know I said I wouldn't post but I guess I need help right now.
Posted by Angela2 on November 6, 2005, at 19:06:42
In reply to Re: Should I call my T?, posted by Angela2 on November 6, 2005, at 19:03:33
Posted by Dinah on November 6, 2005, at 19:18:37
In reply to Should I call my T?, posted by Angela2 on November 6, 2005, at 18:58:55
What's your therapist's call policy? Would she be ok with a call from you?
Sometimes I think about what my therapist would say if I called, and say it to myself instead. But sometimes I call because if I don't, I'll just obsess about whether or not to call.
Posted by happyflower on November 6, 2005, at 19:20:11
In reply to Please respond, I don't know what to do. (nm), posted by Angela2 on November 6, 2005, at 19:06:42
How long has it been since you wrote him the email? I don't know your story about your ex, but was the decision to break up yours or his? I would try to hang in there, unless your ex is glued to his computer, he just might not have gotten your message yet. I don't know what your T can do other than to tell you to hang in there. Good luck!
Posted by Angela2 on November 6, 2005, at 19:33:58
In reply to Re: Please respond, I don't know what to do., posted by happyflower on November 6, 2005, at 19:20:11
My mom says I shouldn't becuase it's a sunday night and she's probably putting her kids to bed or something. I think I'm gonna try to stick it out. It's so hard! But I'm gonna try.
Posted by fallsfall on November 6, 2005, at 19:36:24
In reply to Re: Should I call my T?, posted by Angela2 on November 6, 2005, at 19:03:33
Sometimes it helps me to set a time limit. So if you don't hear back from your ex within 2 days then you can assume that he got your email and hasn't responded. That would mean that until the time had expired you could assume that he hasn't seen it yet. Sometimes this works for me, and sometimes it doesn't.
Is he likely to respond? Or is it likely that he will ignore your email?
In similar situations I have also limited the number of times I could check my email (once an hour, or 3 times a day, or something).
Distraction is a good thing. Go see a movie with a friend. Eat ice cream. Play computer games. Take a walk. If you aren't home in front of your computer then maybe it won't be so hard.
When do you see your therapist next?
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