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Posted by terrics on November 2, 2005, at 10:32:12
Because I have been screwed so much by my recent jobs I am in a complete panic over dropping this newborn and killing it. At this point I think it is definitely time for disability.
I was completely panic stricken before I left for work (the baby) that I thought that if I hurt myself (as a punishment) before I left my house everything would be o.k. How is that for logic? The bandage on my abdomen kept reminding me that I was already punished therefore I was safe and would not drop him. Terrics
Posted by Jen Star on November 2, 2005, at 10:41:31
In reply to Panic attack/will I drop my newborn pt.?**TRIGGER*, posted by terrics on November 2, 2005, at 10:32:12
hi Terrics,
to be honest, it doesn't sound like you're ready to be caring for a newborn. It sounds like you need to first take care of yourself and hopefully heal some of the issues that are going on.Maybe one way to look at it is: If you had a newborn, would you feel comfortable if someone with your thoughts/concerns were taking care of that child?
I think if you're starting to hurt yourself because you're worried about hurting the baby, then it's time to seek professional help.
I hope there is someplace you can go to get help! I hope you're doing OK.
take care,
JenStar
Posted by muffled on November 2, 2005, at 15:18:42
In reply to Panic attack/will I drop my newborn pt.?**TRIGGER*, posted by terrics on November 2, 2005, at 10:32:12
> Because I have been screwed so much by my recent jobs I am in a complete panic over dropping this newborn and killing it. At this point I think it is definitely time for disability.
>
> I was completely panic stricken before I left for work (the baby) that I thought that if I hurt myself (as a punishment) before I left my house everything would be o.k. How is that for logic? The bandage on my abdomen kept reminding me that I was already punished therefore I was safe and would not drop him. TerricsOh (((Terrics))). You obviously care for the baby. But your definately stressed and need to take a step back and get yourself back together. Little babies are hard. Had two of my own, they both terrified me. They seem so small and fragile and helpless. Fortunately I had help. I'm sorry your hurting. Its so hard when your there. It'll be ok.
Jenstar said it well.
(((Terrics)))
Muffled.
Posted by Tamar on November 2, 2005, at 19:07:14
In reply to Panic attack/will I drop my newborn pt.?**TRIGGER*, posted by terrics on November 2, 2005, at 10:32:12
Just popping in for a brief moment…
I have a small baby of my own (he’s nine months now) and I know how afraid we can be of dropping them or allowing them to come to any harm.
But if you are harming yourself in an attempt to ward off harm to the baby… well, I’m sure you know it’s not logical.
It sounds to me as if you’re very anxious. I don’t know if it’s because you’re looking after a tiny child or because of other things.
If you’re finding the child too stressful it’s *very* important that you find ways to deal with it. Stress in itself is no reason to avoid small children, but it can quickly become overwhelming and lead to more serious problems.
One other thing: almost no one ever drops a newborn. Unless you’re taking very large quantities of street drugs or alcohol, I’m certain the baby is safe. But if you’re still worried, I would say that dropping a newborn is not the worst thing that could happen. Sure, they’re fragile, but they’re more physically resilient than they look. If by some bizarre quirk of fate you drop the baby, of course you should take him/her to the hospital. But I’m pretty sure that a newborn who has only been dropped once will be just fine and won’t have any broken bones or head injuries or any significant damage. He/she might develop a bruise but that’ll be the worst of it.
I think that anyone who has looked after small children has had a few mishaps. Most people don’t want to admit it, but let’s face it: we’re not perfect. We put them down and turn away to do something and before we know it they’ve fallen, or eaten a shopping list, or something like that. If this is your job, it’s best to be very careful, of course. But in most situations the baby will be just fine.
To be honest, I’m more worried about you than the baby…
Posted by terrics on November 3, 2005, at 10:32:30
In reply to Re: Panic attack/will I drop my newborn pt.?**TRIGGER* » terrics, posted by Tamar on November 2, 2005, at 19:07:14
Hi Tamar,
Thank you for the comforting words. I did forget to mention that I am a nurse and the baby has respiratory problems. He was very premie. I am still having a hard time. Pdoc says that I am perseverating on this. She was going to take me off effexor but now she won't. She thinks disability may cause more problems.
I can't get anything right, right now. I am afraid of all my patients. All my patients are children. One mother got rid of me because she said I was too ditzy. I took care of that boy for 8 yrs. and she had no complaints. I am sad and scared. afraid of losing my house, having trouble paying my bills etc. I am very neg. now but I'm trying not to be. Thanks, terrics
Posted by terrics on November 3, 2005, at 10:35:28
In reply to Re: Panic attack/will I drop my newborn pt.?**TRIGGER* » terrics, posted by Jen Star on November 2, 2005, at 10:41:31
Hi Jenstar, You are right. I do need to take care of myself. I could do something dangerous at work or to myself. I'm scared. Thanks, terrics
Posted by allisonross on November 3, 2005, at 12:55:52
In reply to Panic attack/will I drop my newborn pt.?**TRIGGER*, posted by terrics on November 2, 2005, at 10:32:12
> Hi, Sweetie: Because I have been screwed so much by my recent jobs I am in a complete panic over dropping this newborn and killing it. At this point I think it is definitely time for disability.
Do you have anyone to talk to? Family or friends?
Can you go to therapy?
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> I was completely panic stricken before I left for work (the baby) that I thought that if I hurt myself (as a punishment) before I left my house everything would be o.k. How is that for logic?It is not, but then you know that.
The bandage on my abdomen kept reminding me that I was already punished therefore I was safe and would not drop him.
I would call a mental health clinic (being a nurse, I would bet you know who you could call). Tell them your thoughts, etc., and they can help you.
Love, Alice Terrics
Posted by terrics on November 4, 2005, at 18:22:44
In reply to Re: Panic attack/will I drop my newborn pt.?**TRIG » terrics, posted by allisonross on November 3, 2005, at 12:55:52
Hi Alice,
Thank you so much for caring.
I do have a T. I called her that night but never told her the whole mess; besides she tends to blow eveything off. Pdoc took it more seriously, but wants me to keep trying because she thinks I will get very depressed staying home. terrics
Posted by allisonross on November 5, 2005, at 5:07:15
In reply to Re: Panic attack/will I drop /AlissonRose » allisonross, posted by terrics on November 4, 2005, at 18:22:44
> Hi Alice, Hi, Terrics!
> Thank you so much for caring. You're very welcome!
> I do have a T. I called her that night but never told her the whole mess; besides she tends to blow eveything off.
Sounds like you need a new T.
Pdoc took it more seriously, but wants me to keep trying
Keep trying what?
because she thinks I will get very depressed staying home.
Do you have friends or family you can talk to, or help you with the baby?
terrics
Hugs, Ally
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