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Posted by Dinah on September 1, 2005, at 0:03:33
My therapist sounds almost more upset than I am, except about him. And I realize that one reason is that I get all this caring from you guys. I'm so lucky to feel so much love. He even expressed a bit of envy once, well maybe not envy, but something, about how lucky I was that so many people cared about me. Well, I know lots of people care about him too, but communications aren't so good and lots probably can't tell him.
He's in the same Katrina situation I'm in and I'm sure feels pretty.. well, I think I'd rather not think too closely about it. Would you all mind if I brought him some caring posts? I know you don't know him directly, but lots of you probably know him through me.
I'm not sure how soon I'll see him, but I know I will. At least for the immediate future.
Posted by gardenergirl on September 1, 2005, at 0:28:18
In reply to For my therapist., posted by Dinah on September 1, 2005, at 0:03:33
Hi,
Just wanted to let you know that we love Dinah, and indirectly we love you for being her T.I can't imagine what everyone who have survived the hurricane are going through. I hope you and your family are safe, dry, and well.
Hmmm, what does a cyber handshake look like? At any rate, I'd shake your hand if I could, to thank you for being a part of Dinah's life.
gg
Posted by All Done on September 1, 2005, at 2:03:57
In reply to For my therapist., posted by Dinah on September 1, 2005, at 0:03:33
Dear Dinah's T,
You might not know how very important you are to us by virtue of the fact that you help take care of our very precious Dinah. She is an amazing woman and I can only imagine that you must be pretty special yourself, since she works so hard with you to maintain and build what sounds like a wonderful therapeutic relationship. Gives me something to aspire to. So, you see, I have a vested interest in you ;).
I hope and pray that everything will be okay for you and your family through this difficult time. Please take good care.
And thank you a million times over for being so special to Dinah. No doubt we love you for that.
Laurie
Posted by Annierose on September 1, 2005, at 6:44:54
In reply to For my therapist., posted by Dinah on September 1, 2005, at 0:03:33
Dinah's T -
Thank you for being such a supportive therapist to our Dinah. She is so lucky to have found you. During this crisis, it is nice to know that you are reaching out to your clients, trying to help, even as you are in the same dire situation.
Know that the entire country is praying with you, for strength, courage and determination to get through this. And you will.
Thank you for being there for Dinah. She is a special person to all of us on-line.
Posted by Fallsfall on September 1, 2005, at 7:38:39
In reply to For my therapist., posted by Dinah on September 1, 2005, at 0:03:33
I can't imagine what it is like to live through something like this.
One thing I've learned in therapy, though, is that "wherever you go, there you are". As different as things may feel, you (individually) are a constant. So you may be uprooted, and the way your life settles out in the long run may be different from what you imagined a month ago. But you are Dinah's beloved therapist and a husband and a father and a friend.
Please be sure to take care of yourself during this ordeal. My standard solution for stress is ice cream. It is amazing how often it really does help. Do what you need to do for you.
Dinah seems to be quite comforted by knowing that she is an important part of your life. You are certainly important to her. What a gift you have given her.
We'll be here to support her (and you).
Thank you for taking care of my friend.
Posted by Sonya on September 1, 2005, at 9:34:17
In reply to For my therapist., posted by Dinah on September 1, 2005, at 0:03:33
As I'm sure you know, Dinah is a very special lady. She's also a very important member of this internet forum and is deeply cared about by others here. Thank you so much for taking care of her.
I wish you and your family peace, hope and strength through this stressful time in your lives.
Posted by pegasus on September 1, 2005, at 9:39:05
In reply to For my therapist., posted by Dinah on September 1, 2005, at 0:03:33
Dear Dinah's Therapist,
My thoughts are with you and Dinah and everyone in your area during this incredibly difficult time. When I read about you and Dinah being affected by Katrina, and . . . gasp . . . being separated without a plan, I cried. Please know that you've become almost as dear to us as Dinah herself. I am so grateful to hear that you and Dinah are staying in contact. I hope that this situation resolves in a relatively good way for both of you.
I know that you will have some big changes in your life, and that you have hard times to go through. But please keep in mind that you are part of the psychobabble community, and we are rooting for you.
pegasus
Posted by daisym on September 1, 2005, at 11:54:48
In reply to Re: For my therapist., posted by pegasus on September 1, 2005, at 9:39:05
It is impossible not to ask the questions, "Why me? Why us? Why now?" when these things happen. And there are no real answers. It takes faith in God and friends and family and the universal consciousness that "this too shall pass." I pray it passes quickly and things get settled down again.
Dinah speaks often of how unflappable you are, how steady and how you eminate calm and caring. I think she can feel it, even through cyber space. I'm glad that you have at least that connection to each other. You are so important to her, and thus to us, who love her.
I'm holding you all in my prayers each night,
Daisy
Posted by Shortelise on September 1, 2005, at 12:31:17
In reply to For my therapist., posted by Dinah on September 1, 2005, at 0:03:33
Dear Dinah's T,
Thank you so very much for caring for Dinah and for the others about whom you are concerned.
We'll weather this storm together, Dinah's T. You are not responsible for everyone. We'll be here for Dinah until you can see her again.
Yours respectfully,
ShortE
Posted by 10derHeart on September 1, 2005, at 13:42:40
In reply to Re: For my therapist., posted by Shortelise on September 1, 2005, at 12:31:17
Dear Dinah's Therapist,I'm so sorry you and your family have to go through this horrible time. It must be extra-stressful for you to have the worries any human would have, yet also care about clients who are so used to leaning on you, yet really can't very much right now. Therapists take that on willingly, and we know and appreciate the added burden...
We will help Dinah as much, as often, in any way we can. We care about her very much. We'll try to add many, many legs to her stool right now, so it won't tip so much.
Take care of you and yours, and thank you for being such a steady, solid support to her for so long. We are honored to *know* you through her.
My prayers are with you and Dinah. --10DerHeart
Posted by Gabbix2 on September 1, 2005, at 15:57:02
In reply to Re: For my therapist., posted by daisym on September 1, 2005, at 11:54:48
I just can't add to what anyone has said here. But I'm so fond of Dinah that I had to write.
Dinah is a heroine of mine, I'm in awe of her on so many levels, her intelligence, her fairness, her compassion and humour.
She's reached through to me at times I thought no one could. Dinah was the first person to teach me that you can find genuine friendship on such a seemingly impersonal medium, (shhhh I even wrote to Oprah about her.. I really did) After almost three years of knowing her, my feelings have only become stronger.That you and Dinah have formed a relationship of respect and trust says worlds to me about you, I'm ever grateful that people like you are part of this world, and reminds me of how connected we are all.
Thank you for being such an important part of her life, and therefore in the lives of those of us who love her. My thoughts are with you and all who are enduring this tragedy, more than I can say.
Posted by jane d on September 1, 2005, at 19:05:58
In reply to For my therapist., posted by Dinah on September 1, 2005, at 0:03:33
I'm very glad you and your family are ok and I hope that you recover the parts of your lives that are important to you very soon.
Posted by Poet on September 1, 2005, at 21:29:22
In reply to For my therapist., posted by Dinah on September 1, 2005, at 0:03:33
Hi Dinah's Therapist,
I feel like I do know you. I am confident saying that you have compassion, understanding and lots of patience.
No act of nature, even a violent storm, can take away those qualities. Remember to use them on yourself as much as you do with others.
Poet
Posted by Dinah on September 1, 2005, at 22:08:28
In reply to Re: For my therapist., posted by Poet on September 1, 2005, at 21:29:22
I'm confident I'll see him soon, and I'll bring those to him.
It's really so touching. It's wonderful to find a group of people who understand how much therapists are a part of our lives.
Thank you all.
Dinah
Posted by fairywings on September 3, 2005, at 6:56:45
In reply to For my therapist., posted by Dinah on September 1, 2005, at 0:03:33
Dinah,
I'm sorry I missed this yesterday, I wasn't on the boards. I would like to extend my well wishes to you and your family, as well as your T and his family during this difficult time. I'd also like to tell him what an incredible influence you are on the babble family, and how much we care about you, and want things to be back to normal for you.....well, even better than normal! But you are just such a kind, giving, thoughtful person, and I want to send my hugs, and heartfelt wishes to you, your husband, and your son, as well as your T. And tell your son, I agree, he's entitled to any feelings he has! He's blessed to have such enlightened parents!
fairywings
Posted by Tamar on September 3, 2005, at 20:39:47
In reply to For my therapist., posted by Dinah on September 1, 2005, at 0:03:33
Dear Dinah’s therapist,
I can’t begin to understand how hard things must be for you at the moment. I don’t know your circumstances; I don’t even know your name. But I’ve heard so many good things about you from Dinah, and for that reason you are very much in my thoughts at the moment.
I know that you’ve been a pillar of support to Dinah for a long time; I hope you know that we care a great deal about you because of your care for our friend.
I hope everything will settle down and that you will be able to get back to some semblance of a normal life as soon as possible.
With all good wishes,
Tamar
Posted by JenStar on September 6, 2005, at 12:12:31
In reply to For my therapist., posted by Dinah on September 1, 2005, at 0:03:33
hi dinah,
I hope your family AND your T's family are coping, surviving and maintaining some semblance of positive spirits through this disaster! I don't know your T but I know how much he means to YOU, and I hope that he and his loved ones are safe and unharmed.I hope you're doing OK, too. Take care,
JenStar
Posted by Dinah on September 14, 2005, at 19:52:22
In reply to For my therapist., posted by Dinah on September 1, 2005, at 0:03:33
He said that it brought tears to his eyes, actually.
I heard him laugh in places, and pause in places.
I had taken it from him when he finished reading it. At the end of the session, he asked if he could have it back. I told him if we were in his office I would give it to him easily, but having seen his desk, and knowing he was living in close quarters in someone else's house, I was concerned about confidentiality. I was about to say I'd rather not, but...
He sheepishly confessed that he was hoping to show it to his wife, because he thought sometimes that she didn't realize how much what he did for a living meant to others.
And he said it in such a way...
Well, how could I tell him no after that. Of course I let him keep it.
So you guys, you gave him some of the same comfort, and a not small amount of pride, that he really really needs right now.
Thank you from me.
(And yes, yes, I know. I've read all the manuals. He's not normally like this.)
Posted by Tamar on September 14, 2005, at 20:13:15
In reply to My therapist says he's very touched, posted by Dinah on September 14, 2005, at 19:52:22
That's such a sweet story. And you were so sweet to be thinking of him as your own world was falling apart.
I'm glad you let him keep it. It does seem appropriate in the circumstances, doesn't it?
Tamar
Posted by fairywings on September 14, 2005, at 22:07:16
In reply to My therapist says he's very touched, posted by Dinah on September 14, 2005, at 19:52:22
Awww, that is SO touching, and I'm glad you got to see him. Hope you're feeling a little better after seeing him.
fw
Posted by Dinah on September 14, 2005, at 22:13:59
In reply to My therapist says he's very touched, posted by Dinah on September 14, 2005, at 19:52:22
And not mine to give. :(
Forget I said anything?
Posted by Dinah on September 14, 2005, at 22:22:55
In reply to Re: My therapist says he's very touched, posted by fairywings on September 14, 2005, at 22:07:16
It was rather sweet, and I think he honestly appreciated the whole thing.
I'm glad he kept it. It was, after all, a gift for him.
Oddly enough I do feel better.
Posted by fallsfall on September 15, 2005, at 6:26:18
In reply to Re: My therapist says he's very touched, posted by Dinah on September 14, 2005, at 22:22:55
Maybe you feel better because we helped you to express to him what he means to you. You deepened the connection. That DOES feel good.
No remorse. It was a lovely moment.
Posted by gardenergirl on September 15, 2005, at 15:26:01
In reply to Re: My therapist says he's very touched » Dinah, posted by fallsfall on September 15, 2005, at 6:26:18
Yes, I'm glad he was touched, and it was very kind and caring of you to reach out to him in this way.
gg
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