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Posted by muffled on September 8, 2005, at 15:48:36
I feel a little stumped when I go to my sessions as I don't have much to say. I am learning lots about interacting with poeple and all. But it seems so slow. I don't remember much about being little really. Almost nothing. when I first started my T. was trying to get some history but i was getting majorly stressed and cutting etc. So she backed off. I don't know why I'm so screwed up. Does it even matter anyhow? I just feel like I'm spinning my wheels. Anyhow, if anyone has something they could tell me that would be nice. Thanks.
Posted by Annierose on September 8, 2005, at 16:21:06
In reply to Dunno what I should say?, posted by muffled on September 8, 2005, at 15:48:36
When you are quiet in the room, try to share the thoughts that are popping up in your mind, even if it's:
Golly, I wish she would say something.
Seems pretty hot in here today.
I hate when the T just looks at me. What is she thinking?
Should I just run out of here?
You'd be surprise how sharing these seemingly innocent comments can lead to an entire therapy session that can end up being quite productive. I think a lot of us struggle with what to say at different times in our work.
I'm not saying it isn't painful, because it can be, and usually is. My T always reminds me that my brain knows why I'm here, so share those thoughts.
Posted by muffled on September 8, 2005, at 17:53:42
In reply to Re: Dunno what I should say? » muffled, posted by Annierose on September 8, 2005, at 16:21:06
Thanks for the reply. I will do it. I don't usu. say ANYthing, so I guess SOMEthing is good.
I find it so wierd that someone would take the time to reply to me. It feels very nice. I read the stuff here now and again and am constantly struk by how kind and clever people are here. Thats nice too.
Posted by Annierose on September 8, 2005, at 21:51:31
In reply to Re: Dunno what I should say?Annierose, posted by muffled on September 8, 2005, at 17:53:42
I just lost what I wrote to you ... that's so frustrating!!
Anyway, of course try to say something. Even if it seems trivial to you, productive work can be accomplished. Big issues will seep into therapy, and a skilled therapist will be able to help you discuss those thoughts too. It just takes time.
When you are quiet, does he/she help you by asking questions? Sometimes my T will help me if I seem to be stuck, others, she'll let me be quiet for awhile and see what comes up.
It would be perfect if they could read our minds, but they really can't. And the amazing thing is, our therapists will listen to whatever we say and help us. For me, that is so healing. I can tell her something that I dread, I feel so ashamed, and her reply is always soothing. It's a good feeling.
Posted by muffled on September 8, 2005, at 22:13:28
In reply to Re: Dunno what I should say?Annierose » muffled, posted by Annierose on September 8, 2005, at 21:51:31
> I just lost what I wrote to you ... that's so frustrating!!
*Grrrr!
> Anyway, of course try to say something. Even if it seems trivial to you, productive work can be accomplished. Big issues will seep into therapy, and a skilled therapist will be able to help you discuss those thoughts too. It just takes time.
*Time is money unfortunately.
> When you are quiet, does he/she help you by asking questions? Sometimes my T will help me if I seem to be stuck, others, she'll let me be quiet for awhile and see what comes up.
*When I'm quiet, I feel like she's looking at me and I feel like my heads going to pop off or something. I am now able to blurt that I don't like to be looked at(if she even is, I don't know)Fortunately my T is a good talker and fills in the gaps.
> It would be perfect if they could read our minds, but they really can't. And the amazing thing is, our therapists will listen to whatever we say and help us. For me, that is so healing. I can tell her something that I dread, I feel so ashamed, and her reply is always soothing. It's a good feeling.
*WHOAH! That last piece I'm going to write down and read b-4 I go in. It sounds so nice. Soothing, thats nice. I tend to freeze up. I feel like an idiot. I don't want to look stupid. Stupid eh? I'm getting alot frustrated. I don't want to go back into the pit though, and I got my kids to think of, and so I keep trying.
Thanks for the reply.
Posted by Shortelise on September 9, 2005, at 14:00:37
In reply to Dunno what I should say?, posted by muffled on September 8, 2005, at 15:48:36
I have had periods like that all through therapy. I find it helps to talk about everyday things, about what happened at work, the little things.
ShortE
Posted by muffled on September 9, 2005, at 14:03:49
In reply to Re: Dunno what I should say? » muffled, posted by Shortelise on September 9, 2005, at 14:00:37
Posted by Dinah on September 9, 2005, at 19:27:05
In reply to Dunno what I should say?, posted by muffled on September 8, 2005, at 15:48:36
I have an envelope of issues. I've written down things I think I should work on on index cards, and put them in an envelope tucked in the datebook I bring to therapy.
Funny thing is that I never really use them. Whenever I pull them out and we start talking about them, my therapist turns the subject to ask what I'm trying not to say in therapy, and manages to extract it from me.
But it reduces the anxiety related to not talking about what's really on my mind.
Posted by muffled on September 9, 2005, at 19:39:34
In reply to Re: Dunno what I should say? » muffled, posted by Dinah on September 9, 2005, at 19:27:05
> I have an envelope of issues. I've written down things I think I should work on on index cards, and put them in an envelope tucked in the datebook I bring to therapy.
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> Funny thing is that I never really use them. Whenever I pull them out and we start talking about them, my therapist turns the subject to ask what I'm trying not to say in therapy, and manages to extract it from me.
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> But it reduces the anxiety related to not talking about what's really on my mind.Thanks Dinah.Good idea. One of my challenges is I just 'phase out' when i get nervous. Thats where written stuff is good. Because I can't think and talk etc. when I get nervous. Which is OFTEN!
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