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Posted by Angela2 on August 13, 2005, at 21:14:47
There are a lot of things I have noticed about myself that she hasn't even addressed, like my fear of failure, social anxiety, low self esteem. There are some things about me that are problems for me that we HAVE addressed and worked on. But I think I'd like to maybe not move on, just go in another direction and work on the things we haven't worked on bfore. The thing that irks me is that I have brought this up to her before and her response is: "But I thought that's what we were doing." I am tired of this response. The next time I have therapy, I am going to bring in a specific goal plan of what I want to work on. I think maybe her response will be agreeable, since I have done this before (but a long time ago) and she seemed to want to help. I have this worry in the back of my head though, that it may not work out. I have brought up the fact that she doesn't seem to understand my soical anxiety a lot and nothing has really changed. I have noticed that she has a different therapy style from most therapists. It's like she gives me her special homemade advice from her personality and how *she* thinks. Not from any psychology text book or grad school curriculum. I think I'm gonna go figure out what I need from her now. Maybe write it down. Cuz it's not really clear in my head right now. *sigh*
Posted by Dinah on August 14, 2005, at 13:32:02
In reply to Sometimes I think my therapist isn't right for me, posted by Angela2 on August 13, 2005, at 21:14:47
It's ok to like your therapist but think you've learned all you can from her. Or to think that you might benefit from a different approach.
She might not like that particularly. After all, therapists probably have as many problems with rejection as any of us do (particularly if she isn't the most skilled therapist in the world). But therapy isn't for her, it's for you. And you need to do what's best for you.
You don't need to leave her before you start looking around, if you'd rather not be without support. You could start figuring out what you do want in a therapist and call around to see what's available first.
Posted by alexandra_k on August 14, 2005, at 21:27:28
In reply to Sometimes I think my therapist isn't right for me, posted by Angela2 on August 13, 2005, at 21:14:47
Hey. I liked Dinah's suggestion of having a look around for someone else if you are able to do that. I think some people are better suited for dealing with some issues, and other people can be better suited for dealing with some other issues.
I had a t once who liked to talk to me about inner spirit guides and reincarnation and about how people spontaneously combust because they don't express their emotions...
I couldn't take much of that and we didn't get beyond three sessions.
That being said I think it would be worth trying to tell her what things you would like to work on again. Lists can be particularly helpful.
Posted by orchid on August 15, 2005, at 16:33:37
In reply to Sometimes I think my therapist isn't right for me, posted by Angela2 on August 13, 2005, at 21:14:47
If you feel it is not working well, you have pretty much only two choices. Try to educate her again and again, that you need something else. SEcond, leave and find someone else you like better.
Many times, the second option works out better than the first. Atleast if you have tried the first a few times and she is not getting it, I wonder if she will ever get it.
Posted by Angela2 on August 21, 2005, at 5:25:45
In reply to Re: Sometimes I think my therapist isn't right for » Angela2, posted by Dinah on August 14, 2005, at 13:32:02
Thx for the advice:)
I am dreading that (looking for another therapist). :-O I mean, it could take months. I'd like to wait until I get in a more stable area with work. -A2
Posted by Angela2 on August 21, 2005, at 5:28:03
In reply to Re: Sometimes I think my therapist isn't right for me » Angela2, posted by alexandra_k on August 14, 2005, at 21:27:28
Thx Alexandra.
Inner sprirt guides? lol! Some therapists are really weird!
Posted by Angela2 on August 21, 2005, at 12:18:13
In reply to Re: Sometimes I think my therapist isn't right for me » Angela2, posted by orchid on August 15, 2005, at 16:33:37
Orchid,
Thx for the advice. :)
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