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Posted by madeline on August 15, 2005, at 19:57:01
I love tigers and volunteer at a big cat rescue sanctuary. I'm decoupaging him a black business card holder with a tiger on it.
It's very neutral, but I'm now having doubts as to whether I should give it to him.
What if he doesn't like it? Or refuses to accept it? How will I handle that?
M
Posted by rubenstein on August 15, 2005, at 22:09:00
In reply to I'm making my therapist a gift., posted by madeline on August 15, 2005, at 19:57:01
> I am sure that he will like it... and if he can't accept it just realize it is probably his policy andhe wouldn't be able to accept a gift from anybody/ I think it is so sweet and you should definetly give it to him
rachelI love tigers and volunteer at a big cat rescue sanctuary. I'm decoupaging him a black business card holder with a tiger on it.
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> It's very neutral, but I'm now having doubts as to whether I should give it to him.
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> What if he doesn't like it? Or refuses to accept it? How will I handle that?
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Posted by All Done on August 15, 2005, at 23:13:33
In reply to Re: I'm making my therapist a gift., posted by rubenstein on August 15, 2005, at 22:09:00
Posted by All Done on August 15, 2005, at 23:14:12
In reply to Re: It sounds very nice and thoughtful :) (nm) » rubenstein, posted by All Done on August 15, 2005, at 23:13:33
Posted by javableue on August 16, 2005, at 7:15:34
In reply to I'm making my therapist a gift., posted by madeline on August 15, 2005, at 19:57:01
I think it's a good idea, it sounds very thoughtful. :-)
I can kind of relate to being uncertain about giving it to him; I'm going through something similar with my therapist, although only with a thank-you card (he watched my fish while I went away for the summer). Maybe you can bring up the subject indirectly (for example, mentioning a thread you saw on Babble on the subject or something) to kind of scope out his policy on gifts before acting?
Posted by Rigby on August 16, 2005, at 11:39:47
In reply to I'm making my therapist a gift., posted by madeline on August 15, 2005, at 19:57:01
Good question. I'm with the other posters and I'd go for it--take the risk.
I've had a very strict no gifts policy w/ my therapist. I gave her a plant and a book over the first year of therapy and she took it I think more personally than I meant (the gifts involved therapy for me--she felt they were for HER.) Anyway, it was a mess.
Time passed though and I painted this pot for her that was perfect for her office. I hemmed and hawed but finally brought it in. I had it in a bag. I said I had a pot for her. She smiled and said, "You know about the gift policy" and I said "Okay then, would you like to see what you *could* have won?" She laughed, I brought it out of the bad, she took one look at it and she totally wanted it. She was ***thrilled.*** She said it was so incredibly special then she leaned forward and said, "You know, you've given me so many gifts, not just this." Hem. Not sure what that was about. But I was glad she really sincerely loved it. It was fun to watch her melt like she did, like she couldn't contain herself.
So--take the risk--see what happens--let us know!
Rigby
> I love tigers and volunteer at a big cat rescue sanctuary. I'm decoupaging him a black business card holder with a tiger on it.
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> It's very neutral, but I'm now having doubts as to whether I should give it to him.
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> What if he doesn't like it? Or refuses to accept it? How will I handle that?
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> M
Posted by 10derHeart on August 16, 2005, at 12:23:38
In reply to I'm making my therapist a gift., posted by madeline on August 15, 2005, at 19:57:01
I hope you do it. Sounds wonderful. I love cats, too - the big and the "little." What a great job!
These kinds of risks in therapy, IMO, are worth it. The idea being that one day, we'll be willing to also put ourselves out there more often IRL. That part is hard, though! T's are safe....RL...not always so much.
Go with your heart. Let us know how it goes?
Posted by Augustina on August 16, 2005, at 12:53:16
In reply to I'm making my therapist a gift., posted by madeline on August 15, 2005, at 19:57:01
Hi Madeline,
is the gift for a special occasion? that sounds so cool and I too think you should go ahead and give him the gift.
last Christmas I knitted my T a scarf and was so nervous when I presented it to him. He totally loved it though and even put it around his neck! it made me feel really happy.
Let us know how it all turns out.
Posted by Shortelise on August 16, 2005, at 13:20:02
In reply to I'm making my therapist a gift., posted by madeline on August 15, 2005, at 19:57:01
If he feels it's not appropriate to accept it, you'll have to talk it through, right? It'll be another thing to add to your repertoire of handling situations.
If I were to make something for my T and he refused it, I would keep it as something to remind me of my affection for him and the importance of our relationship.
The rejection of a gift is not the rejection of the person giving it.
ShortE
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