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Posted by crushedout on August 4, 2005, at 16:59:27
Well, my therapist said yes to three sessions a week. Actually, since she's only in town two days a week, it's one double session and one single session per week. I was happy about that.But the rest of today's session was uncomfortable and unsatisfying, and then at the end, I told her that I looked at her house on Google Earth and she looked kind of annoyed. I guess I don't blame her. I invaded her privacy. But then I had to leave and now I just feel bad and I hate thinking that she's mad at me.
What should I do? It's just such an uncomfortable feeling. I have to sit with it till Monday when I see her? I don't think calling her would help because then I would just feel like I'm annoying her more. I need to unload this somehow. That's why I'm writing about it. Has anyone else ever felt this icky feeling before?
Posted by Daisym on August 4, 2005, at 18:00:10
In reply to feeling a bit bad today about therapy, posted by crushedout on August 4, 2005, at 16:59:27
I think we've all left sessions where we are sure we are in trouble -- having said or done the wrong thing. And even if we have done something to upset our therapists (trust me, mine is never thrilled to hear, 'oh yes, I'm still having those thoughts') the idea is to figure out why you did what you did and work through it together. You learn to tolerate someone being upset with you and you also learn she won't just walk away because she is upset. Upset is actually time-limited, so I hear.
You can't undo what you did. But I admire your honesty with her. And given your issues, I'm sure she wasn't shocked. And I guess she already knows you aren't perfect -- after all you are in therapy!
Try not to let it eat at you. Hugs,
Daisy
Posted by crushedout on August 4, 2005, at 18:17:49
In reply to Re: feeling a bit bad today about therapy » crushedout, posted by Daisym on August 4, 2005, at 18:00:10
thanks, daisy. that really helped me.
Posted by fallsfall on August 8, 2005, at 18:21:14
In reply to Re: feeling a bit bad today about therapy » Daisym, posted by crushedout on August 4, 2005, at 18:17:49
How was your session today? Were you able to talk to her about feeling icky last week?
Posted by crushedout on August 8, 2005, at 18:25:48
In reply to Re: feeling a bit bad today about therapy » crushedout, posted by fallsfall on August 8, 2005, at 18:21:14
Thanks for asking falls. My session was pretty good, despite my being a bit of an emotional wreck today. I told her a lot of stuff, yes, and about how I felt after that last session.I kind of posted about it below. The really interesting thing is she didn't reassure me or make me feel better, or tell me I did nothing wrong. She just sort of asked me questions and made educated guesses about why I felt badly.
I think that's probably the right thing to do, but it's kind of unsatisfying when you just want to be reassured (that she doesn't think I'm a lunatic stalker, and that she likes me, and cares about me, etc. etc.).
What do you think, Falls?
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