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Posted by JLynn on July 31, 2005, at 18:13:31
Maybe this has already been covered...I'm just curious how many of your Ts have read "In Session"? If so, did you suggest it? Did you discuss it after you both had read it? I have read most of it and have found it very helpful. I just purchased another copy and plan to give it to my T. I was worried that she may not be able to except such a "gift", but I asked and she said it was okay. However, at the time I had another book in mind, but I'm hoping if I give her this book that it will make it easier to discuss my feelings for her. We've never discussed those feelings (I've been seeing her 10 months) and I'm not sure she knows how much I worry about it. Anyway, do you think it would be a good idea to give my T a copy of this book?
Posted by gardenergirl on July 31, 2005, at 20:31:34
In reply to Has everyones T read the book?, posted by JLynn on July 31, 2005, at 18:13:31
Mine hasn't. I've read of others' giving their T's a copy with mixed results.
I honestly haven't considered giving my T a copy to read. He's pretty darned good at what he does, and I don't know what I would want him to get out of it. I suppose at some point I may change my mind, though.
gg
Posted by LadyBug on July 31, 2005, at 20:54:26
In reply to Has everyones T read the book?, posted by JLynn on July 31, 2005, at 18:13:31
I bought one for my therapist shortly after I bought mine. She liked it and shared it with her colleges. I'm not positive she read the whole book or mostly the chapters I read that helped me. I really like the chapter called, Mother's Lost and Found. And the other one about mothers was good too. At least I think there are 2 chapters about mothers. I might be mixed up?!?!?!
Anyway I think it is great for a therapist to see our view in therapy too. So go ahead and give it too her.
Posted by daisym on July 31, 2005, at 20:59:19
In reply to Re: Has everyones T read the book? » JLynn, posted by gardenergirl on July 31, 2005, at 20:31:34
I mentioned to my therapist that Ms. Lott was on the Board this week and he had heard of the book but I'm not sure he has read it given the way he responded. The nuetral sort of "oh yes" when I mentioned the titled. I don't think I'd give him a copy to read for the same reasons GG gave. He is already pretty open about our relationship and obviously anticipates attachment issues. I wanted him to read "Undercurrents" after I read it. Instead he suggested I mark the passages that really struck me and we would read them together and talk about why. It worked really well, because that was essentially why I wanted him to read it, because I wanted to talk about it.
I think if you tell your therapist exactly what you wrote, it would be fine. If you just gave it to her, she might get the idea that you don't think she will be able to hear your feelings. Let us know how it goes.
Posted by JLynn on July 31, 2005, at 21:03:22
In reply to Re: Has everyones T read the book? » JLynn, posted by gardenergirl on July 31, 2005, at 20:31:34
>>Mine hasn't. I've read of others' giving their T's a copy with mixed results.
Okay now you've got me thinking...Could this have negative results??? What might they be?
Posted by JLynn on July 31, 2005, at 21:05:06
In reply to Re: Has everyones T read the book? » JLynn, posted by LadyBug on July 31, 2005, at 20:54:26
Thanks LadyBug! I think I will give it to her..and maybe note the parts that relate to my feelings.
Posted by gardenergirl on July 31, 2005, at 21:10:23
In reply to Re: Has everyones T read the book? » gardenergirl, posted by JLynn on July 31, 2005, at 21:03:22
Sorry, I should have been more clear. The mixed results I referred to are that some T's were interested and read it, and others were not all that interested. I don't know if anything bad resulted from anyone giving their T a copy of the book. Just that some T's were not as likely to read it as the person giving the book had hoped.
gg
Posted by JLynn on July 31, 2005, at 21:10:33
In reply to Re: Has everyones T read the book?, posted by daisym on July 31, 2005, at 20:59:19
I'll have to check out the book you mentioned. We've talked about what we liked to read before and she mostly reads stuff related to psychology and I think she would be interested in this book if she hasn't read it already. I will certainly let everyone know how it goes. Thanks!
Posted by JLynn on July 31, 2005, at 21:17:33
In reply to Re: Has everyones T read the book? » JLynn, posted by gardenergirl on July 31, 2005, at 21:10:23
Thanks for clearing that up GG! I was begining to worry. I think she would be interested. I guess my worry is that maybe she may take some of the feelings...like sexual attraction or something...and think that I feel that with her. So it would probably be a good idea to let her know what issues in the book concern me.
Posted by Miss Honeychurch on August 1, 2005, at 8:24:23
In reply to Has everyones T read the book?, posted by JLynn on July 31, 2005, at 18:13:31
I loaned my T a copy about 4 months into therapy (I've been seeing him now for 2 years), hoping it would be easier to discuss transference with him. No such luck really. He did claim to read the book however and thought it was interesting.
However, when the subject of my transference did come up, all he basically said was "Don't worry, I've read her chapter on transference." And that was it. It has never come up again. I do feel I am over my transference now, but his response was less than satisfactory. He's very CBT oriented which probably explains things.
I always felt that his rather vague response was him neither accepting my transference nor rejecting it. He did return the book to me about9 months later, although I'm not sure how much of it he read.
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