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Posted by Dinah on May 30, 2005, at 10:20:45
Given how many negative things I say about my therapist. But when he really says something wrong, I have trouble recounting it here. I've tried several times on the chapter 3 discussion to say something, and just can't.
Not that he does it often. He doesn't. But sometimes he's more than insensitive or thoughtless. Sometimes he says things that nine out of ten therapists would think were untherapeutic. And I have trouble repeating those.
So as hard as it is to believe from my posting here, I think I feel like I need to protect him. I might be able to say it in chat, or in IM's. But nowhere it would be recorded...
Posted by Shortelise on May 30, 2005, at 11:33:53
In reply to This may be hard to believe, posted by Dinah on May 30, 2005, at 10:20:45
Does this protection of him mirror any other situation you've lived through?
Do you have it out with *him* when he says this stuff?
ShortE
Posted by Jazzed on May 30, 2005, at 18:45:18
In reply to This may be hard to believe, posted by Dinah on May 30, 2005, at 10:20:45
> Given how many negative things I say about my therapist. But when he really says something wrong, I have trouble recounting it here. I've tried several times on the chapter 3 discussion to say something, and just can't.
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> Not that he does it often. He doesn't. But sometimes he's more than insensitive or thoughtless. Sometimes he says things that nine out of ten therapists would think were untherapeutic. And I have trouble repeating those.
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> So as hard as it is to believe from my posting here, I think I feel like I need to protect him. I might be able to say it in chat, or in IM's. But nowhere it would be recorded...
That's okay that you want to protect him, and don't want to say anything that can be recorded anywhere. We're all human, no matter how much education or experience we have, sometimes thoughtless comments just slip. Your feelings for him are admirable.Jazzed
Posted by Dinah on May 30, 2005, at 20:25:28
In reply to Re: This may be hard to believe » Dinah, posted by Shortelise on May 30, 2005, at 11:33:53
> Does this protection of him mirror any other situation you've lived through?
Undoubtedly. I'm sure I protected my parents until very very recently. My cousin had absolutely no idea what my parents were really like. I also tend to be fiercely loyal to those I care about.
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> Do you have it out with *him* when he says this stuff?
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> ShortESome of it, yes. Some of it no. Because some of it I like, or it suits my purposes. I'm not likely to tell him of relevant therapy theory if it is against my best interests to do so. Well, what I perceive to be my best interests, anyway. It may not be. But either way, I'm not going to take him to task.
Hmmm... I definitely use my therapy theory geek knowledge to help equalize the balance of power in our relationship.
Posted by Dinah on May 30, 2005, at 20:26:52
In reply to Re: This may be hard to believe » Dinah, posted by Jazzed on May 30, 2005, at 18:45:18
Thank you. :)
Although he would probably not agree if he should read this board and see what I *do* write. lol.
Posted by Jazzed on May 31, 2005, at 6:17:59
In reply to Re: This may be hard to believe » Jazzed, posted by Dinah on May 30, 2005, at 20:26:52
> Thank you. :)
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> Although he would probably not agree if he should read this board and see what I *do* write. lol.OMGosh, wouldn't that be mortifying!
Jazzed
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