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Posted by rubenstein on May 11, 2005, at 11:58:31
I am in graduate school, and have always been the "perfect" child in my parent's eyes. They were great parents but there were a lot of unspoken expectations in my family. We also never talked about anything emotional. ANyway, a couple of weeks ago when I was about to go into the hospital, I told them that I have depression and anxiety. I must say it was so liberating and I have felt alot better since. I feel safer, and more real. I just wonder why it took me so long to tell them. My therapist is much relieved as well. At least, I don't have to hide why I have to travel to Bloomington every two weeks during the summer. Which, when you are used to having weekly therapy...2 weeks seems so long. Sorry for the rambling, any thoughts?
Posted by happyflower on May 11, 2005, at 12:02:52
In reply to Coming out to my parents, posted by rubenstein on May 11, 2005, at 11:58:31
Posted by pinkeye on May 11, 2005, at 12:35:20
In reply to Coming out to my parents, posted by rubenstein on May 11, 2005, at 11:58:31
I always pretended like the perfect child to my parents too.. Looking back, it was the most stupid thing to do. But it is amazing how delusional the parents could be to not notice things about their own child.
I am glad you told them. It is worth it.
Posted by anastasia56 on May 11, 2005, at 20:14:42
In reply to Re: Coming out to my parents » rubenstein, posted by pinkeye on May 11, 2005, at 12:35:20
that is so true. It is hard to believe how some parents cannot see what is right in front of them. My parents were shocked to find out my brother was abusing drugs when we were growing up. My mother refused to believe my father was dying of cancer until he actually dropped dead. I guess we don't see what we don't want to see.
Posted by cubic_me on May 12, 2005, at 6:38:13
In reply to Re: Coming out to my parents, posted by anastasia56 on May 11, 2005, at 20:14:42
Well done you, it must have been a hard thing to do, but it sounds like it was worth it.
I haven't told my parents, and I'm pretty sure they don't suspect anything. There are many reasons why I won't tell them, but sometimes it is one of the main factors in my decision to not commit suicide - if I did, then they would know. So I suppose it has it's positives for me. I can see for some that it must be extremely liberating though. I hate lying to my parents, having to hide medication when I go to visit etc.
Posted by rubenstein on May 12, 2005, at 9:37:34
In reply to Re: Coming out to my parents, posted by cubic_me on May 12, 2005, at 6:38:13
> I felt like that for a long way too, but it was sort of liberating becuase now I know I if I am in a crisis again I can get the help that I need. I didn't tell them everything though, I figure I am an adult and some stuff is better left unsaid. Good Luck on your journey.
rachel
Well done you, it must have been a hard thing to do, but it sounds like it was worth it.
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> I haven't told my parents, and I'm pretty sure they don't suspect anything. There are many reasons why I won't tell them, but sometimes it is one of the main factors in my decision to not commit suicide - if I did, then they would know. So I suppose it has it's positives for me. I can see for some that it must be extremely liberating though. I hate lying to my parents, having to hide medication when I go to visit etc.
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