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Posted by Shortelise on May 3, 2005, at 11:38:14
It's been two weeks since I last saw my T, and it will be 24 days until I see him again (but who's counting) and I am definitely in the "out of sight out of mind".
Night before last I had a wonderful dream about living in an apartment building, a bit like the one I used to live in in this city, but also like the one I lived in in Europe. I knew everyonein the building, we all liked each other, it was a nice community, and I was so HAPPY. Heart full, dancing feet, light headed HAPPY in this dream. I felt 20 years old. It was great.
But back to the T, termination, titration, etc., I feel ok about it. If I talk about it, I want to cry, so I don't talk about it. And I think after I see him the next time I'll be really sad again.
Maybe what I fear the most is that last goodbye. I think I'll have to cancel that appointment. Yup, there are the tears starting.
And I still need to understand what he meant that things will be different if I have to go back to see him. I am afraid he means he'll no longer be my safe place. That really makes the tears come.
Enough of this.
ShortE
Posted by Dinah on May 3, 2005, at 12:04:40
In reply to termination pain easing, posted by Shortelise on May 3, 2005, at 11:38:14
Posted by Tamar on May 3, 2005, at 16:01:18
In reply to termination pain easing, posted by Shortelise on May 3, 2005, at 11:38:14
> But back to the T, termination, titration, etc., I feel ok about it. If I talk about it, I want to cry, so I don't talk about it. And I think after I see him the next time I'll be really sad again.
It’s definitely a painful time, no doubt about it. Sending you lots of hugs.
> Maybe what I fear the most is that last goodbye. I think I'll have to cancel that appointment. Yup, there are the tears starting.
About a month before my last ever appointment I wrote down everything I was expecting to feel before, during, and after that last appointment. I was right about some of my predictions, but I was wrong in some ways too. I found it useful to go back and read over what I’d written, because I think in the end I felt better than I’d expected. And I think that’s because my T and I talked at length about how I felt about termination (and how he felt about my therapy ending) and that helped a lot.
> And I still need to understand what he meant that things will be different if I have to go back to see him. I am afraid he means he'll no longer be my safe place. That really makes the tears come.
Ask him. I think he’d still be your safe place; you might not feel quite as attached though. But if you talk to him about it he should be able to reassure you.
(((((ShortE)))))
Tamar
Posted by pinkeye on May 3, 2005, at 20:33:04
In reply to termination pain easing, posted by Shortelise on May 3, 2005, at 11:38:14
Even though your post says it is easing, I think I can see some real sadness in there.
Take Care.
Pinkeye.
Posted by Shortelise on May 4, 2005, at 12:09:22
In reply to Re: termination pain easing » Shortelise, posted by Tamar on May 3, 2005, at 16:01:18
Thanks. Migraining so can't write.
S
Posted by gardenergirl on May 4, 2005, at 14:04:02
In reply to Re: termination pain easing, posted by Shortelise on May 4, 2005, at 12:09:22
Thanks for sharing with us your termination process. It's quite a personal gift, and I can tell it's still painful. I'm glad it's easing a bit, though. And I'm sure in time it will continue to ease.
Do ask him what he meant about things changing. I am sure I would need that clarified, too.
And I can relate to what you said about anticipating the final session. I thought about that once recently...what I would want to do, how I would end it, etc. And I could not come up with any plan. All I could do was cry. It's very very painful.
(((((ShortElise))))
I hope your migraine is easing. Sending you calming and healing energy.
gg
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