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Posted by alexandra_k on April 25, 2005, at 1:42:00
In reply to You'll have to excuse me... » alexandra_k, posted by messadivoce on April 24, 2005, at 23:38:34
...For 20 years.
The most I have ever had anybody commit to is 8 months.
Wah!
Posted by Shortelise on April 25, 2005, at 12:06:06
In reply to Why are you eeeeking? (nm) » Shortelise, posted by messadivoce on April 25, 2005, at 1:38:27
because just thinking about this short circuits my mind. I can't go here...
:-)
ShortE
Posted by pinkeye on April 25, 2005, at 13:16:11
In reply to Re: If I were a therapist.... » pinkeye, posted by daisym on April 24, 2005, at 17:41:27
That's true. But I don't understand why I am so hurt. I have tried my best to understand, but I can't seem to fathom. It doesn't make sense. And I have tried seeking out for help - from both my ex T and my current T. And I don't think they know how to help either. And really it wasn't all that bad..but just that I am hurt way more than it warrants. I must be stupid or something
Posted by antigua on April 25, 2005, at 13:47:42
In reply to :-) Agreed. New law. (nm) » messadivoce, posted by Dinah on April 25, 2005, at 0:03:18
Thank goodnes! That means I have six years left. PHew. Hope I can make it.
antigua
Posted by pinkeye on April 25, 2005, at 14:07:09
In reply to You'll have to excuse me... » alexandra_k, posted by messadivoce on April 24, 2005, at 23:38:34
But I am not sure about the lawsuit thing.. Never in favor of lawsuits myself. Excpet in eggregious irresponsibility cases.
Posted by fallsfall on April 25, 2005, at 17:49:14
In reply to Re: If I were a therapist.... » daisym, posted by pinkeye on April 25, 2005, at 13:16:11
>but just that I am hurt way more than it warrants
This is usually a good indication to me that transference is at work...
Posted by pinkeye on April 25, 2005, at 20:42:46
In reply to Re: If I were a therapist.... » pinkeye, posted by fallsfall on April 25, 2005, at 17:49:14
I am pretty sure it is some form of transference.. He is striking a chord somewhere inside me and I am just responding to that, and I am trying to find out what that is. I haven't seen this person for more than maybe 20 hours in my life time face to face. It is impossible to have this kind of reaction without something else like transference going on. And I meet lot of very smart men everyday, and interact a lot with lot of men on a day to day basis. I don't react this way to anybody else. That is why I have a very strong suspicion that it is definitely transference. BUt I don't know how to resolve it though
Posted by Pfinstegg on April 25, 2005, at 22:20:29
In reply to Re: If I were a therapist.... » fallsfall, posted by pinkeye on April 25, 2005, at 20:42:46
I would have loved to have been a therapist myself, but don't think I would ever be strong enough to do good work with patients, and take good care of myself, also.
To put forward a different perspective, I know, from comments by him here and there, and just the *feel* of being in therapy with him, that my therapist feels it is a privilege to be a psychoanalyst- that it provides a full life of growth and expansion all the way, involving patient care, teaching, writing and having wonderful colleagues. Not that there aren't very painful, discouraging times for him- overcoming those is probably what the growth is about. But i just get the feeling that he loves doing it!
Posted by daisym on April 26, 2005, at 1:55:11
In reply to Re: If I were a therapist.... » pinkeye, posted by Pfinstegg on April 25, 2005, at 22:20:29
But i just get the feeling that he loves doing it!
I agree with you that you can feel if they like their jobs or not. I've decided that the pdoc I've seen doesn't really like the commitment it takes to do this work. So she turns her clients into objects. I think that is why she wonders if this the right time to do this work -- God forbid a client need her!
Posted by Dinah on April 26, 2005, at 7:57:27
In reply to Re: I'd love to be a therapist in theory » Dinah, posted by annierose on April 24, 2005, at 22:08:53
I have lots of case studies, any I can get my hands on even if they're on topics that don't appeal. Those are sort of fiction, I guess.
But for the most part my books are nonfiction and I collect fictional representations in movies and TV. Like the episode of The Nanny where Fran is so in awe of her therapist until she sees him digging in his nose with his finger at a movie, and is totally disillusioned. Before she sees that, she wonders whether if she greets him and if he asks her how she's doing and she answers fine, if he'll charge her.
I must be one of the few who didn't like "What About Bob?" Not sure if it's my anxiety about people embarassing themselves on screen or if it just cuts too close to home.
But I'll look through my library for fiction once I get those new shelves up in my closet. I'm devoting a whole five shelf bookshelf to the books I don't want in the family library - my therapy books. :) And magazines. Somehow I managed to subscribe to a clinician's magazine.
Posted by Daisym on April 26, 2005, at 10:40:39
In reply to Re: I'd love to be a therapist in theory » annierose, posted by Dinah on April 26, 2005, at 7:57:27
I didn't like What About Bob much either. Totally too close to home. Maybe in a few years?
Probably not.
Posted by fallsfall on April 26, 2005, at 10:48:51
In reply to Re: I'd love to be a therapist in theory » annierose, posted by Dinah on April 26, 2005, at 7:57:27
I like the first half of "What About Bob?" better than the second half. I think I like the idea of following my therapist on vacation.
Posted by annierose on April 26, 2005, at 15:57:23
In reply to Re: I'd love to be a therapist in theory » annierose, posted by Dinah on April 26, 2005, at 7:57:27
Thank you in advance if you can think of a few. I like to read fiction "therapy" books when my T is away on vacation.
Posted by daisym on April 26, 2005, at 16:01:12
In reply to Re: I'd love to be a therapist in theory » Dinah, posted by annierose on April 26, 2005, at 15:57:23
Have you read, "Tales of a Traveling Couch?" It is kind of fun. I have a list but I wanted to ask if you were looking for "light" reading or more serious stuff too? I think I spend more money on books than therapy itself. *sigh*
Posted by annierose on April 26, 2005, at 18:54:17
In reply to Re: I'd love to be a therapist in theory » annierose, posted by daisym on April 26, 2005, at 16:01:12
Dasiy -
I'd love your list! Thank you!!! You can either post some titles here or babblemail me. I like light and more serious reads ... as long as it's good :)"Tales ..." looks great. I already put it on my "wish list", which will need some modifying or buying soon.
I'm excited that these titles actually exist. When I try searches, I end up with mostly serious discussions on theory.
THANK YOU! -Annierose
Posted by Dinah on April 26, 2005, at 18:58:39
In reply to Re: I'd love to be a therapist in theory » daisym, posted by annierose on April 26, 2005, at 18:54:17
It was good. I also liked one by Jeffrey Kottler. Mummy at the Dining Room Table. I'm not double double quoting it because I'm not sure of the title.
I love all case studies. :)
Posted by Klokka on April 26, 2005, at 22:39:57
In reply to Re: I'd love to be a therapist in theory » annierose, posted by Dinah on April 26, 2005, at 18:58:39
Yep, you got the title right, it's "The Mummy at the Dining Room Table". I read it about a month or so ago, despite really not having the time to do so, and I loved it. :) When I went to buy it, the cashier gushed over how she'd never run into anybody who read that sort of thing, which was interesting.
Posted by daisym on April 26, 2005, at 22:43:41
In reply to Re: I'd love to be a therapist in theory » daisym, posted by annierose on April 26, 2005, at 18:54:17
Ok -- two of my favorite "serious" books are: "Undercurrents" and "Shining Affliction." Both of these are written by therapists who suffered through depression and/or abuse. But they are very sad in places and may trigger, so be careful. I think I've read Shining 10 times.
I also like "The Fifty Minute Hour" which has short case studies, but he doesn't write as well as Yalom. Oliver Sacks wrote a pretty famous collection called, "The Man who Mistook his Wife for a Hat."
Other books I've liked are: "Unholy Ghost" which is a collection of writings; "A general theory of love" which explains alot about attachment; "Between therapist and Client" and "The Intimate Hour" and "The Impossibility of Sex."
I'll stop here. But that should keep you busy for a week.
Posted by TofuEmmy on April 27, 2005, at 8:36:24
In reply to The Mummy at the Dining Room Table » Dinah, posted by Klokka on April 26, 2005, at 22:39:57
The best thing about this book is that after reading it, I feel less like my T's wierdest patient. Lordy, it's nice to feel more sane that SOMEONE!
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Posted by Dinah on April 28, 2005, at 9:04:16
In reply to The Mummy at the Dining Room Table » Dinah, posted by Klokka on April 26, 2005, at 22:39:57
"Group: Six People in Search of a Life"
and
"The Love Bug and Other Tales of Psychotherapy"
and
Posted by annierose on April 28, 2005, at 11:23:36
In reply to A few more, posted by Dinah on April 28, 2005, at 9:04:16
Thanks!!
I just logged on to write down some of these titles before hopping over to Amazon and burn my gift certificate that has been sitting in my wallet since Christmas --- such restraint! Probably because I love browsing Borders, and actually touching the real deal in person.
I can't wait for my choices to arrive!
Annierose
Posted by annierose on April 28, 2005, at 14:29:39
In reply to Re: A few more, posted by annierose on April 28, 2005, at 11:23:36
Guess what, I did so good.
Someone was selling "The Love Bug & Other Tales" for only $2.50 (hardcover in mint condition). In all, I got 6 of babblers suggestions (Dasiy and yours) for only $14.00
(since I had a gift certificate).I'm all set for my summer psychology reading. I'll save these titles for therapist away on vacation weeks.
I'm excited!
Posted by Dinah on April 28, 2005, at 15:35:24
In reply to Re: Dinah - a steal, posted by annierose on April 28, 2005, at 14:29:39
I have some unread ones myself. Not case studies, I'm afraid. I devour those as soon as I see them. So if anyone sees new ones along the lines of Yalom or Love Bug or Mummy, I'd appreciate a heads up.
But I've got a ton of other stuff.
And we're redoing our entire family library, as well as the psychology library in my study closet. We're moving it to what is hopefully a slightly larger area, and throwing stuff out, and getting new shelves. We're going to update the database and everything. It's this year's anniversary gift to each other.
Oops. Anniversary. I'd better write that date down while I'm remembering.
I'm so excited. It'll be like having a bunch of new books, because right now it's pretty hard to get to a lot of them.
Posted by Joslynn on April 29, 2005, at 10:54:23
In reply to If I were a therapist...., posted by pinkeye on April 24, 2005, at 16:17:12
The scenario described above, about women patients sharing their intimate details and liking/fondness...to a male T in an unhappy marriage, I could see how that sitch would be comforting and emotionally seductive compared to the home sitch. If you turn it the othe way around, some men like might the undivided attention and fondness. Just the other side of the coin...
Posted by littleone on May 2, 2005, at 21:36:20
In reply to A few more, posted by Dinah on April 28, 2005, at 9:04:16
There's also "Schopenhauer's Porcupines: Intimacy and Its Dilemmas" by Deborah Luepnitz.
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