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Posted by sunny10 on April 19, 2005, at 14:03:09
I have been reading a lot here about people being concerned for their T's.
It has always been my opinion that T's have an obligation to provide care for their patients, and as humans, make sure their needs are attended to, also. My assumption is that if a T needed to speak to another T for their own personal support, they would do so, having been taught that it is okay to seek support during times of stress.
Do you feel that my assumptions are true for you? Without any detail, of course, I just wonder if you can shed some light on whether or not patients should worry about being too hard on their T's.
If you feel that a response would not be appropriate, please post just that.
Thank you for reading,
sunny10
Posted by PM80 on April 19, 2005, at 16:19:01
In reply to Question for Dr. Bob- no right or wrong answer..., posted by sunny10 on April 19, 2005, at 14:03:09
So I'm not Dr. Bob, but my T has told me that he has been in therapy before. He is also open about the fact that he sometimes leans on his wife for emotional support and that she can lean on him.
That being said, I am aware that my T is a human being too. I show him basic human respect and much more (because I really respect the guy as a person) and would apologize if I felt I crossed the line. BUT I do not feel bad for leaning on him. A good therapist can handle the weight of your emotional leaning, and should not require you to meet any of his needs.
Posted by daisym on April 20, 2005, at 2:04:35
In reply to Re: Question for Dr. Bob- no right or wrong answer... » sunny10, posted by PM80 on April 19, 2005, at 16:19:01
I'm not Dr. Bob either -- but my therapist has told me he has been part of a men's group for years and he gets support from that. He also is married to a therapist so I assume they support each other. When I worry about how isolating this job can be, (you can't discuss clients, and have to be so careful about privacy), he pointed out that he has peers in his practice and they sort of are in and around for each other during the day.
I asked him if he resented me for the anxiety I've caused for him. He said no, he can handle it and is. STill, it is an old pattern for me to worry about how much trouble I'm causing. I expect him to get angry at some point.
Why are you asking the question, if i can ask?
Posted by sunny10 on April 20, 2005, at 12:48:26
In reply to Re: Question for Dr. Bob- no right or wrong answer..., posted by daisym on April 20, 2005, at 2:04:35
a lot of people here seem to be concerned that they are "too much for their T's to handle", which just manifests in more stress and more depression and I just hate to see that.
I am pretty sure of my assumptions listed in the question to Dr. Bob, but thought that maybe a response from him would make some of the other posters feel better about their "responsibilties" towards therapy.
I agree with both of you when you say that treating EVERY relationship with respect is a responsibility of every human being. And at some point in every one on one relationship there is a time when we'll p*ss each other off- we are human, not perfect, and that will happen. And I also agree that T's are better equipped to "help themselves" than most of us when we p*ss them off because maybe we "react" with old patterns instead of "acting with new ones we are trying to learn" while we are hurting.
I'd hazard a guess that they would tell us we don't need therapy if we were always able to act "appropriately" no matter what pain we were feeling....
End result, I asked because I think some posters need to be reassured by a professional... bottom line...
Posted by Dr. Bob on April 20, 2005, at 20:08:01
In reply to Question for Dr. Bob- no right or wrong answer..., posted by sunny10 on April 19, 2005, at 14:03:09
> I just wonder if you can shed some light on whether or not patients should worry about being too hard on their T's.
I don't mean to be difficult, but I think it's more in keeping with my role here to let others respond...
Bob
Posted by sunny10 on April 21, 2005, at 8:01:26
In reply to Re: Question for Dr. Bob- no answer, posted by Dr. Bob on April 20, 2005, at 20:08:01
Posted by Dr. Bob on April 21, 2005, at 21:05:56
In reply to Re: I understand- just hoping against hope! (nm) » Dr. Bob, posted by sunny10 on April 21, 2005, at 8:01:26
Posted by alexandra_k on April 22, 2005, at 23:00:40
In reply to Re: Question for Dr. Bob- no answer, posted by Dr. Bob on April 20, 2005, at 20:08:01
> > I just wonder if you can shed some light on whether or not patients should worry about being too hard on their T's.
>
> I don't mean to be difficult, but I think it's more in keeping with my role here to let others respond...Aw.
But you are going to come skinny dipping with us over on Social - right???
;-)
Posted by sunny10 on April 25, 2005, at 8:33:10
In reply to Re: Question for Dr. Bob- no answer » Dr. Bob, posted by alexandra_k on April 22, 2005, at 23:00:40
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