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Posted by rainbowbrite on February 22, 2005, at 20:44:33
what do you do if your the key, but to use the key will destroy you and not using the key will destoy someone else? I need help so much right now, I really think I have done something horrible!
Posted by rainbowbrite on February 22, 2005, at 20:48:44
In reply to I need help...please, posted by rainbowbrite on February 22, 2005, at 20:44:33
is that I so need help right now but I can't even talk about it or explain it. I am so confused.
Posted by pinkeye on February 22, 2005, at 20:53:23
In reply to The worst part..., posted by rainbowbrite on February 22, 2005, at 20:48:44
what happened? if you are not able to talk about it directly, maybe you can talk about it in a roundabout way?
Posted by rainbowbrite on February 22, 2005, at 20:58:22
In reply to Re: The worst part... » rainbowbrite, posted by pinkeye on February 22, 2005, at 20:53:23
omg thank you! I will try to. I think I am the KEY to someone eles mysery, but it all revolves around my problems as well. I am so worried about what I say on here. Ok so the situation is worse than you could EVER imagine with the person I am referring to. So awful. What do I do if I am the last puzzle piece according to them, and I refuse and even lied about it because I always worried about and I have just found out it what it will do to me, take me down, and I don't feel ok with it.
Posted by rainbowbrite on February 22, 2005, at 21:01:13
In reply to Re: The worst part... » pinkeye, posted by rainbowbrite on February 22, 2005, at 20:58:22
Am I the worst person or are they trying to hurt me? I am so confused I wish I could explain better. I don't know what to do, I am so upset with myself. I feel so extrememly alone right now, I am going crazy
Posted by pinkeye on February 22, 2005, at 21:16:26
In reply to Re: The worst part..., posted by rainbowbrite on February 22, 2005, at 21:01:13
I don't know exactly what you are going through, but whatever it is, you are never completely responsible for anybody's happiness or mysery - unless in some extreme circumstances. And if you feel you need to save yourself first, then that is what you have to do. Maybe later, when you got yourself in a better position, you can help them.
Posted by rainbowbrite on February 22, 2005, at 21:20:50
In reply to Re: The worst part..., posted by pinkeye on February 22, 2005, at 21:16:26
It is almost life and death. I hear what you are saying but, I think they believe I am responsible in a twisted way and so when it goes public to everyone I will be so humiliated and eveyone will think im awful. I can't call anyone I dont know what to do, I can't seem to internalize it or anything I am just so adgitated. I want to curl up into a hole, I feel discusting
Posted by pinkeye on February 22, 2005, at 21:32:30
In reply to Re: The worst part... » pinkeye, posted by rainbowbrite on February 22, 2005, at 21:20:50
You should probably get help from a hospital or something. Or call your doctor or therapist. I don't think I can be of any help.
Posted by rainbowbrite on February 22, 2005, at 21:43:01
In reply to Re: The worst part..., posted by pinkeye on February 22, 2005, at 21:32:30
I am sorry i didn't mean life and death literally I am upset so im not saying things properly. I understand if you can't though. I shouldn't have posted this
Posted by TamaraJ on February 22, 2005, at 22:07:14
In reply to Re: The worst part... » pinkeye, posted by rainbowbrite on February 22, 2005, at 21:43:01
I'm so sorry you are going through this. There is nothing worse than having to deal with a major problem or something that is causing extreme worry and agitation and feeling that you have no where to turn and no one to talk to. I have been there, and it is excrutiating. Are you absolutely sure there is nobody you feel you can trust enough to talk to about this? Someone who could perhaps help you see things differently and help relieve some of your anxiety? A school counsellor, a church minister or priest (sorry, I don't know how that works - I am not very religious), a trusted aunt or uncle? It sounds like you need some guidance in deciding what to do and how to handle the situation and what you know. I am not going to pry, but I will say that if you know that somebody is planning to harm themselves or another physically (or has aleady done so), you should not be keeping this information to yourself.
Please take care of yourself Rain. Be safe, and try to find someone you feel you can trust enough to relieve the burden you are carrying around.
My thoughts are with you.
Tamara
Posted by Dinah on February 22, 2005, at 22:08:49
In reply to Re: The worst part... » pinkeye, posted by rainbowbrite on February 22, 2005, at 21:43:01
You haven't burned your bridges yet with your therapist, have you? Can you call her?
I understand not wanting to talk about something really really personal on board. But when you keep something to yourself, it can get all twisted in your brain. Talking about it to someone else helps gently unwind the tangle. You might be able to see solutions that aren't apparent right now.
Deep breaths. Can you call and talk to her?
Posted by anastasia56 on February 22, 2005, at 22:45:35
In reply to Re: The worst part... » rainbowbrite, posted by Dinah on February 22, 2005, at 22:08:49
you need to determine if the guilt you feel is justified. next steps probably can be determined by that answer. sending you soothing vibes.
ana
Posted by rainbowbrite on February 22, 2005, at 22:58:00
In reply to Re: The worst part..., posted by anastasia56 on February 22, 2005, at 22:45:35
ugh! I think I found my answer.
Thank you
Posted by rainbowbrite on February 22, 2005, at 23:05:50
In reply to Re: The worst part... » rainbowbrite, posted by Dinah on February 22, 2005, at 22:08:49
My therapist...i dunno what ive done, I may have to try to get apointment out of desperation.
you are right sometimes it is hard to see anything clearly in the heat of the moment and I was definalty struggling with that. Things are not going to turn out as I want and hoped but I have to do something very hard to help someone else and I now know it is the right thing now.
Thank you
Posted by Speaker on February 22, 2005, at 23:11:03
In reply to Re: The worst part... » Dinah, posted by rainbowbrite on February 22, 2005, at 23:05:50
I am glad to know you have come to a peace and trust it is the right decision. Please let us know how this turns out for you. (((((Rain)))))
Posted by rainbowbrite on February 22, 2005, at 23:12:10
In reply to Re: The worst part... » rainbowbrite, posted by TamaraJ on February 22, 2005, at 22:07:14
>Are you absolutely sure there is nobody you feel you can trust enough to talk to about this?Someone who could perhaps help you see things differently and help relieve some of your anxiety?
I found someone thank god. And they helped me to see that what I was doing was not right. not what i wanted to hear exactly
>I am not going to pry, but I will say that if you know that somebody is planning to harm themselves or another physically (or has aleady done so), you should not be keeping this information to yourself.
No one is in danger in that sense. I realize now how criptic and frantic everything I wrote was, Everything felt so intense. I should have specified destroy emotionally. I was just so messed up when I wrote.
Thank you
Posted by rainbowbrite on February 22, 2005, at 23:13:54
In reply to Re: The worst part..., posted by Speaker on February 22, 2005, at 23:11:03
Posted by rainbowbrite on February 22, 2005, at 23:22:32
In reply to I need help...please, posted by rainbowbrite on February 22, 2005, at 20:44:33
Im so sorry about this stupid thread, Ive calmed down but I was so upset earlier and thought my world was crumbling down on me, I couldn't make sense to myself. things arent looking as i hoped cause I have to do something really difficult but I have to do it! My blood pressure has gone down a whole bunch! Thanks to everyone I really needed the support tonight. Im ok.
Posted by TamaraJ on February 22, 2005, at 23:23:55
In reply to Re: The worst part..., posted by rainbowbrite on February 22, 2005, at 23:12:10
Don't worry about your cryptic message for goodness sake. I'm just glad and relieved that you found someone to talk to. Even though we aren't always happy with what we hear, it usually feels better once we have talked about it. Anyway, I hope you are feeling some relief now and that your anxiety has subsided a least a bit.
Take good care of yourself Rain. I hope everything works out.
Tamara
Posted by Susan47 on February 23, 2005, at 0:14:57
In reply to So Sorry, posted by rainbowbrite on February 22, 2005, at 23:22:32
It isn't a stupid thread at all, Rainbow. It's good that you could come here when you needed to.
Posted by Aphrodite on February 24, 2005, at 14:36:02
In reply to So Sorry, posted by rainbowbrite on February 22, 2005, at 23:22:32
Posted by rainbowbrite on February 24, 2005, at 18:26:18
In reply to Are you OK today? (nm), posted by Aphrodite on February 24, 2005, at 14:36:02
I feel depleted of all ‘my’ resources, alone, like my heart has been mangled, hurt and I am desperate for someone to take over from here. :( I am sorry if I sound like a total downer. But I feel as though I’ve expired and it is so painful and almost unmanageable today to walk around smiling at people, talking to people and effectively fulfilling my obligations. I have reached the utmost point of confusion and feel as though I have too many demands that I can not control. I am maxed out like my credit card. If this is how he feels I will never buy anything again.
That helped a little to say out loud.
Aphrodite, thank you for asking.
Posted by rainbowbrite on February 24, 2005, at 20:57:58
In reply to Re: Are you OK today?, posted by rainbowbrite on February 24, 2005, at 18:26:18
i will be back when i feel more like myself.
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