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Posted by Aphrodite on February 12, 2005, at 14:32:35
I am extremely, extremely sensitive, and I took some time off the board recently and felt better though I ventured back now and again because I care so very much about the posters here and how they are doing. It felt selfish not to give back when so many here have helped me through some very bleak times.
But it seems that I frequently post and have been misunderstood. Perhaps I do not word intentions well. I want to help and validate and support, but I seem to only be inviting a challenge.
Therapy issues are all so personal and painful to me, and they are not subjects I can readily and easily debate. In fact, I don't want to. Everyone has individual experiences that are right for him/her. I don't believe there is any one right way to look at family and therapy issues.
I am sorry if I have offended anyone. It's a really hard time for me in my life and therapy right now, and I really am only trying to be supportive. I'm sorry if I have not done that very well.
Posted by Dinah on February 12, 2005, at 14:40:26
In reply to My feelings keep getting hurt on this board. . ., posted by Aphrodite on February 12, 2005, at 14:32:35
Aphrodite? I don't see that you have offended anyone. Certainly you haven't offended me.
I'm sorry you're feeling hurt, though.
(((Aphrodite)))
Posted by badhaircut on February 12, 2005, at 14:56:21
In reply to My feelings keep getting hurt on this board. . ., posted by Aphrodite on February 12, 2005, at 14:32:35
It's *very* easy to get feelings hurt in these discussions. It's too bad you had to leave for a while. I've done it for months, too.
I almost never post anything personal or "targeted" to someone, but I can easiliy end up feeling bruised & dismissed. I try to remind myself it's sort of like the feedback TV shows or advertisers get: it's a spotty, kind of random, skewed sample. Most people don't write, even if they really appreciate what you've written or if they really sympathize & feel for you.
Your post is a terrific reason for supporting Bob's civility policies. (Threads against Bob's enforcement come up all the time on the Admin board.)
Posted by judy1 on February 12, 2005, at 15:09:02
In reply to My feelings keep getting hurt on this board. . ., posted by Aphrodite on February 12, 2005, at 14:32:35
I have been posting here for years and stopping for months at a time because of sensitivity issues also. I just wanted you to know that you are far from alone on this. Just some ways I've handled it- I try to read only posters that I know well (which I agree is difficult since there are many new and kind posters out there). Your subject caught my eye- do you try to keep to subjects that only interest you or do you read everything. As far as replies to your questions, again try to read people you know (but you would have missed me:-). Personally, it has been really helpful to take breaks periodically from here just to give this site less power over my feelings. Another suggestion- perhaps you could personally e-mail the people whose opinions are important to you?
take care, judy
P.S.
A few years back we started something on the 'super-sensitive club, I'll have to check the old posts.
Posted by badhaircut on February 12, 2005, at 15:12:10
In reply to been there » Aphrodite, posted by badhaircut on February 12, 2005, at 14:56:21
Oops. It's easy to *be* dismissive, too. Unintentionally. Like I just was.
I didn't mean that Babblers are "spotty, random, or skewed". Just that a reply that sounds hostile or dismissive may not be what everybody, or most, or even many, people think.
PLUS... Sometimes when a post "hits home" because it's insightful or accurate, a reader can get testy & defensive about it. What someone lashes out at today may be what they come to agree with in another week...
Posted by Daisym on February 12, 2005, at 15:57:53
In reply to My feelings keep getting hurt on this board. . ., posted by Aphrodite on February 12, 2005, at 14:32:35
I agree with Dinah, where on earth have you been less than kind??? I think you always word things carefully and tell your own story to illustrate your points. I hope you weren't referring to the post above about telling in detail...
I don't think anyone would have taken that in anyway except as an alternative opinion. As you said, there are no right or wrongs in therapy.
I'm sorry you feel hurt or challenged. I miss it when you disappear. :(
Posted by Pfinstegg on February 12, 2005, at 16:42:32
In reply to My feelings keep getting hurt on this board. . ., posted by Aphrodite on February 12, 2005, at 14:32:35
Aphrodite, I always look forward to your posts and get a lot of comfort and support from reading them- mostly because you seem like such a lovely, sensitive person (the best kind!), and because I think we suffer from rather similiar difficulties. The support and understanding mean a lot to me, as having a dissociative disorder can be such a lonely, discouraging experience. I hope I haven't contributed to you feeling misunderstood or alone here. I would love to be able to post in such away that you also felt supported and comforted. I have to say that I would feel just terrible if you didn't keep on posting- it would be a huge loss..
Posted by Aphrodite on February 12, 2005, at 18:06:49
In reply to My feelings keep getting hurt on this board. . ., posted by Aphrodite on February 12, 2005, at 14:32:35
please ignore this little plea for attention. I can be such a big baby. Sorry, it's a bad day. I'm embarrassed that "little Aphrodite" wrote such a post!
Posted by Dinah on February 12, 2005, at 18:27:11
In reply to Thanks for indulging me, but . . ., posted by Aphrodite on February 12, 2005, at 18:06:49
We all have those days, Aphrodite. Please don't add on embarassment.
Judy was referring earlier to S.P.O.W. (Sensitive Person of the World, if I remember correctly), which she founded a few years back and which always made me feel a bit better by virtue of liking my fellow S.P.O.W.'ers very much. So it can't be so bad, right?
Posted by 10derHeart on February 12, 2005, at 20:43:51
In reply to er, and done that..., posted by badhaircut on February 12, 2005, at 15:12:10
> PLUS... Sometimes when a post "hits home" because it's insightful or accurate, a reader can get testy & defensive about it. What someone lashes out at today may be what they come to agree with in another week...
Excellent point, BHC, thanks for stating it so well. I've certainly been on both sides of that, not necessarily here on Babble (yet), but IRL.
Posted by 10derHeart on February 12, 2005, at 20:46:10
In reply to My feelings keep getting hurt on this board. . ., posted by Aphrodite on February 12, 2005, at 14:32:35
Aphrodite, so sorry you've been gone sometimes for that particular reason. Wish there was something to do to keep that from ever happening, but I suppose we wouldn't be quite the flawed humans we are if we could pull that one off.
Glad for whatever time you decide to spend at Babble. I think your posts are wonderful. You do whatever you know is right to care for Aphrodite. Sorry things are a struggle right now. - 10derHeart
Posted by gardenergirl on February 12, 2005, at 21:20:00
In reply to Re: My feelings keep getting hurt on this board. . . » Aphrodite, posted by 10derHeart on February 12, 2005, at 20:46:10
Aphrodite,
Please don't feel bad for posting a hurt related to be sensitive. That's what sensitive is all about. It hurts no matter what. That's the sensitive part. I applaud your courage in bringing it up.I wish I could soothe the hurt. And I'm glad you're here.
Need some psychological sunscreen? I buy it in bulk. :-)
gg
Posted by B2chica on February 13, 2005, at 15:42:21
In reply to My feelings keep getting hurt on this board. . ., posted by Aphrodite on February 12, 2005, at 14:32:35
((((((((((((Aphrodite)))))))))))))
i hope i haven't misunderstood you. I can only remember you being very kind and supportive toward me. and i thank you for that.
you are a giving person. sorry you've been hurt. sometimes its hard to 'interpret' intentions of the written word.
b2c.
Posted by sunny10 on February 14, 2005, at 8:12:49
In reply to Re: ((((Aphrodite))))), posted by B2chica on February 13, 2005, at 15:42:21
I, too, have only seen supportive posts by you.
My T used to say that there are two kinds of people in this world; the thinkers and the feelers.
Most of us here at Babble are feelers, so we are all bound to feel slighted or misuderstood at times.
You are not alone, hon, I've disappeared and come back when my feelings have been hurt, too.
Now I try to take the good and tell myself over and over that we are all just people and none of us are perfect.
Feel free to come and go as you like. Babble will be here when you want it.
-sunny10
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