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Posted by pretty_paints on December 15, 2004, at 10:50:07
Hello
I haven't posted in here for ages. I seem to be thinking about my pdoc a lot. I do see a therapist too, but for some reason its my psychiatrist who I really care about. Even when I went into hospital, yes it was horrible in a way, but it was good too because I was so ill that my pdoc was really concerned about me and she kept ringing me and trying to sort out stuff. It makes me feel like I want to stay ill to keep getting that attention off her.
I just found out that she's had depression in the past, and she has 4 children. And just recently she's been taken ill and is in hospital and will be for a while.
Its all just mundane stuff, I tell my parents or friends about these "facts" and they're like, okaay, what's the big deal? But I can't stop thinking about what she's like when she's with her children. And what does she write about me in my notes? And does she like me? And does she think I'm pretty?
Does anyone else have this?
Posted by crushedout on December 15, 2004, at 12:04:36
In reply to Can't stop thinking about my psychiatrist, posted by pretty_paints on December 15, 2004, at 10:50:07
Posted by Joslynn on December 16, 2004, at 11:11:54
In reply to Can't stop thinking about my psychiatrist, posted by pretty_paints on December 15, 2004, at 10:50:07
I had something very similar except the the person was a male, and I wanted to be healthy to please him and make him proud, but the other yearnings that you mentioned were the same for me too. When I was feeling down about relationships, he would remind me I was pretty, smart, etc., and of course that was like Cloud 9. Now I realize why they tell Ts etc to be careful with the compliments. It can be fodder for transference.
Then the mental fantasy kind of exploded and reality hit me in the face. I guess part of me wanted to be free of it and was ready for that. It's a long story. I still see him for meds (he's an excellent, caring doctor) but don't do therapy with him anymore and I have a regular T for that anyway. I felt too emotionally dependent, but that was my problem and may not be yours or most people's.
Everything you're feeling is very normal and has been discussed a lot on here. Do a search under "transference" and maybe also "therapuetic alliance" or "therapeutic relationship." Oh yeah and also check out the books on the top of this link.
Good luck.
Posted by Joslynn on December 16, 2004, at 11:13:22
In reply to Re: Can't stop thinking about my psychiatrist, posted by Joslynn on December 16, 2004, at 11:11:54
Posted by Shortelise on December 18, 2004, at 4:56:47
In reply to Can't stop thinking about my psychiatrist, posted by pretty_paints on December 15, 2004, at 10:50:07
but less now than before. Much to my immense relief I think about him far, far less than I used to. It seems to have been part of the process I needed to go through with my doc.
ShortE
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