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Posted by cubic_me on November 12, 2004, at 16:50:26
I've been reflecting on the group session I had for 3 days now, trying to make sense of it. There are 8 of us, plus the T/facilitator, and I seem to like most of them, but I have absolutely no desire to share any of what I am feeling with them. The only things I will comment on are things brought up within the room (eg, what do you think of the clock ticking) or I'll talk a little to the other members about their problems.
Why should I want these strangers to know about me? I like to choose who I tell personal things to, I like them to earn the right to know. And I know that's probably one of my 'problems', but I'm quite happy to keep it that way.
And when I'm sitting in that group room and everyone is saying how calming it it and how it is a 'safe haven' I just want to hide under the big pile of my old T's cusions that are in the corner of the room and dissapear.
Posted by daisym on November 12, 2004, at 17:01:45
In reply to Group this week, posted by cubic_me on November 12, 2004, at 16:50:26
I'm sorry this is so hard for you. I suppose the best thing to do would be to bring up how you are feeling with the group...though I'm not sure I could do that. I would feel like you do and the pillows sound like a great option.
Maybe you just need to give it time and this trust you are seeking will be earned by the others. How long are you supposed to be in group?
Posted by cubic_me on November 12, 2004, at 17:23:09
In reply to Re: Group this week, posted by daisym on November 12, 2004, at 17:01:45
The group runs for about another 8 months I think, so there's plenty of time. I'm just glad I've got you guys to vent at, because it's all so confidential I'm not meant to talk to anyone else!
Posted by alexandra_k on November 13, 2004, at 3:15:06
In reply to Group this week, posted by cubic_me on November 12, 2004, at 16:50:26
Wow, your post brought back all my old memories of group. I didn't like it. I didn't want to share. I just wanted to hide. I kept at it for a year though. I guess it got a bit better, but not a whole heap. That didn't stop me learning lots though.
I hope it does get better for you. I know what you mean about not wanting to open up to people who you don't know. But I guess the only way to find out whether they are trustworthy is to take a small leap of faith and see whether they respond well or not. Good luck.
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