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Posted by Speaker on November 4, 2004, at 8:37:46
I am leaving Sat. for a two week vacation :). With my former T he would tell me he wanted me to check in a few times while I'll be gone. We always set up times and I would call or he would call me. I had to change T's do to an ethics breech (another pt. and not a sexual thing) so I read all I could find about the ethics and stuff of T's. Now I feel like whatever this T does it's just following his book...so it's not the cared for feeling I enjoyed from T1. My question (finally): Should I set up times to check in just to keep continuity, and in case I need him. Should I just go and if I run into a problem call him? There will be a 5 hour time difference so I don't know when to schedule something anyway. I can't tell if I'm just mad and won't let him care for me like the first T or if this is just logic. I guess you can see why I'm in therapy :).
Thanks!!!
Posted by daisym on November 4, 2004, at 13:42:39
In reply to How do you handle your vacations from T?, posted by Speaker on November 4, 2004, at 8:37:46
I think the question is "Do you need him to stay stable, beyond the continuity part?" If yes, I'd bring it up. If no, I'd take the break. You might find that being away, you are in a different space and you are able to quiet the underlying psychological issues that you are currently working on.
You can always call in if you find you need him and leave times for him to call back.
I think your post had two distinct parts. Maybe this is a different thread, but the idea that what you are reading or have read, can influence how your therapy goes, because it increases your knowledge and therefore expectations, is interesting. (long sentence!) For me, I was trying to figure out how to use therapy, to do it right (get an A) so I wasn't reading so much to see if HE was doing it right. But I can see how knowing what the book says, and seeing it applied, would make if feel less personal. The one thing I consistently bat away is reality checking. Every once in awhile he'll try that with me...do the list of "what would happen, did it happen, how many times has it happened" and I've actually stopped him and said I know what you are trying to do. It isn't logical but still...blah, blah, blah.
I think this is sort of the same as Aphrodite saying she is looking for the studies that say exactly why you should talk in detail about traumatic events and what are the pros and cons. I go through periods of researching, looking for the one right answer and I'm sure it is in a book somewhere. My therapist doesn't mind, as long as I don't visit those "cr** web sites designed to scare people out of therapy" as he puts it. He even will discuss theory and debate approaches, which is nice.
Maybe we here at babble should write the book about vacations and therapy!
Posted by fallsfall on November 4, 2004, at 15:48:40
In reply to How do you handle your vacations from T?, posted by Speaker on November 4, 2004, at 8:37:46
I think you should talk about this with your therapist. (I know that is a cop out answer... but I do think it is true)
Posted by Aphrodite on November 6, 2004, at 8:34:36
In reply to How do you handle your vacations from T?, posted by Speaker on November 4, 2004, at 8:37:46
I'm late on this thread, and you're probably on your way to vacation. Let us know when you return how you fared.
Posted by Speaker on November 9, 2004, at 1:34:19
In reply to Re: How do you handle your vacations from T? » Speaker, posted by Aphrodite on November 6, 2004, at 8:34:36
Hi,
I am on vacation and before I left my T and I talked. I almost left without saying anything and I didn't think he would remember I was going anywhere. However, I was pleased he remembered and he told me we could set something up but do to the time change of five hours did I know my schedule. I had know idea how I could set up something so he told me to call when I got here and we could set up something if I wanted too. It is hard for me to be alone as I brought my 85 yr old mother with us. I felt very cared for when he told me to make sure when I called in the office that I was forceful to get to talk to him. In the past the office girls have protected his time and I won't say anything. It went better than I thought. I guess I feel foolish that I couldn't go without knowing I could get in touch if I needed to. Thanks to all that gave me input!!!
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